What do you do when a girl calls you a player?

[striker316]

Ok , I have this problem . I asked this one girl out and she turned me down saying I am too much of a player . She goes on to say that I'll lose interest in her soon and go flirt with someother girl and thus she'll get hurt . I can understand the player tag in the sense that I've asked her to introduce me to a number of her girl friends . She's been like my wingwomen . How do I turn this situation around ? I really do like her !

[Anonymous]

honestly you probably do not come of genuine at all. if you have asked her to hook you up with her friends and then turn around and try to get with her it just makes you look bad, especially if she's protective of her feelings and not trying to get used.

did you just start liking her or have you liked her all along? I don't get why you'd ask a girl that you know you like to introduce you to her friends? obviously that wouldn't make you look good. you sound a bit fickle and sex-crazy which doesn't make you a bad person but its not someone that I would be interested in dating. :/ if you really like her, try to get to know her better and develop a deeper bond with her. a lot of guys are gonna try and tell you to "stay out of the friend zone" but this type of girl will not trust you or give you any play if you don't become closer to her. show her (through your actions not just lines) that you are genuinely interested in her as a person and that you truly like her. this will take time and effort but if you really like her it should be worth it.

[striker316]

Well , I did'nt like her before . But the more and more we used to hang out , the more and more I started to like her . I know it looks bad and I don't seem genuine but I really do like her ! :( ...the funny thing is a week or so after this happened , she started talking to him again like nothing even happened ! I mean she just completely ignored that I asked her out and she said no !

[playa_pan]

You've been friend-zoned. Instead of 'agreeing' with her that you're a player, you should've said "Really? If I'm a player, then what makes you?" The only way I can think of getting 'back' at her is hang out with her & when she has her guard down, tease her in front of her friends.

[striker316]

no I really like her , I don't want to get "back" at her ( I'm assuming you're implying revenge ) . I just want to go out with her and I think she likes me a bit too , but is a bit scared !

[playa_pan]

When I say "get back" at her, I'm implying playful revenge.

[Anonymous]

You sure did mess this up for yourself.

[striker316]

You know , you could at least try to be a bit more helpful ! :P

[Opinion Owner]

I could...but that would actually take effort on my part. It's so much easier just to state the obvious. :-)

[striker316]

Lol...I did'nt put up the question for people to "state the obvious" , I wanted help so I put it up !

[Opinion Owner]

I can't help you with this one. It sounds like you've kind of screwed yourself.

[prettylittlelady123]

Prove her wrong!

[striker316]

And how exactly would I go about doing that ?