A lot of people grapple with the fact that most of the things they imagine wanting end up having a lot of nuance and complications they did not imagine. When it comes to sex, for guys this tends not to matter because getting off is getting off. But for girls all the raucous sex they might have imagined can quickly lose its appeal when they suddenly start needing to put their real life reputation, safety, and future on the line. Guys aren't told any of this has anything to do with sex. But girls are told it does - and indeed treated as though it does - since the age of 12. So, when the fantasy is forced to reconcile with reality the slightest incongruity can put some girls off.
The reason this might be happening to you more than other guys might be because women's sexual fantasies tend to include a fair amount of emotional work on behalf of the guy and perhaps you are actively trying to avoid having emotions besides lust. Girls generally aren't into just being used for their bodies until they are in a relationship. There are exceptions but you can't expect every girl to be one.
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My girlfriend tried it to do it with me but I back fired her. 😆😆😆
When she does it to me I act indifferent before her when she try to do it again not that I am turned on but I don't express in front her that I am turned on I kinda ignore her and then jerk off in stealth. And after jerking off ( guys really don't care about seduction at all they're satisfied at least for an hour )
It's fun to see her annoyed 😠 that she can't seduce me. 😂😂
Don't mess with sigmasYeah but beta male succumbed to this.
Yeah it isn’t. But I have been straightforward and it didn’t work out well. Which makes me think that what if playing hard to get/ teasing is the way to go…
Only if you want someone with insurance relationship frame/blueprint. ( playr magnet warning )
Secure individual get tired of it and move on to someone that doesn't show that trait since it gives signals of other unpleasant personality traits further on. Have nothing to do with the stereotypical bullshit some people have made up with chasing creates better attraction unless there are certain insecure relationship frame/blueprint going on. Players usually fall for that.
It's a pretty complex thing describe.
The harder to get the worse are the catch ( quality wise )
Okay and that doesn't even make sense, but if you meant stop playing games cus guys won't be interested. Then I'm not interested in a guy who can't handle a little fun. Who isn't able to tease me back, if I'm dating a guy it sure as hell gunna be fun if I can't send him a few sexy texts to keep his mind on me then I don't think we'd be that compatible in the first place. I mean he's gotta speak my language as well as I can speak his
Mu question is not about dating or girls playing hard to get although men don't like it. Maybe little boys will play along but not men. We move on. My question is simple is not interested why provoke/tease that to for Fun.. That's just the cunningness of the person.
It's not exactly playing hard to get, if the guy knows he's gunna get her. It's just the chase and the game or in other words guys don't want girls who are easy
They play hard to get but that just gets them blocked, don't flirt sexually with me and than when i press the issue it's hard to get now NOPE blocked & if we see eachother i won't speak to her at all lol
First of I didn't say all. And secondly why would a straight normal man ignore a hot chick who's showing interest n seducing him. Im taking about the stupid games that they love to play for Fun...
Showing salmon to a hungry bear but not give to it... Ofcourse he's gonna h mad n attack.
😂 first of all, getting offensive easily will make people not want to seduce you.
And secondly, I’m saying that if you’re noticing that women who try to seduce you then retreat, look for a different type of woman 😂 it’s not rocket science.
It’s pretty easy. If she’s flat out trying to seduce you, and you keep noticing that they retreat, don’t give in to the seduction and you won’t have a retreat issue.
You don’t have to look for a badge. It’s not Girl Scouts 😂 this is just a solution for an issue you claim keeps happening, and I’m giving you the answer.
For men, I know it’s challenging to resist, but therein is your solution for not having a seduce n’ drop. If it’s really happening where women try to seduce you and you can’t resist, enjoy the continued retreats haha
The is set your move or mine The person who deserves first loses the majority of the power from there its just a constant shift till the girl claims it leave u on read for 1-8 hours (depends what time text sent) constant flux from long texts to then short one sentence text and mix message emojis.
I sure do understand the frustration for young men but all i can say is after years of experience you may all of a sudden develop a liking for this game and even develop a feeling a sense for how it all klicks in place.
Questions like that make me think if the mating dance between men and women wasn't taught. Playing coy is a very feminine thing. To engage the cat and mouse back and forth.
But I find that to be an interesting paradox. Guys will talk about women who are too easy, this and that. But when she doesn't make it easy, they complain. It's interesting.
What I'm saying is men don't play these games of she's interested we're good to go if not be straight.. Well move to the next girl whose interested. Don't play these games eventually which will make these girls wonder why he ghosted me or not texting back.
@nomina I agree with your thought here to an extent. That isn't exactly what the op is asking or implying regarding make it too easy either. His question is more on the lines of they are playing coy, they know they're not interested and playing games. That said some people are like this. Also some guys that talk about women who are easy and then complain when they're not may not be the same men. We don't all behave the way you're implying.
@Dkc123 my suggestion is to recognize this behavior is a trait of some people and move on so you can find a better person.
Playing coy is "not right now, let me see what else you got". Don't get me wrong, that whole exchange is a bit of a skill on both sides. For the chick not to play too much that she's wasting their time and for the guy ot recognize when his time is being wasted. I know there are guys who don't like those games. Done well and it's mutual, they can be harmless fun. But trust me, there are dudes who like the challenge. To each their own, right?
I've done this to plenty of girls. it's when i'm bored and have nothing else to do. I make them think i like them then i gtfo. Some girl told me she loved me lmao, i was like good for you.
