Hey everyone, I really need to talk about this and maybe get some emotional support or opinions. This was over a week ago now, but it’s still playing on my mind and upsetting me. My boyfriend and I were on our first holiday together and we went to Israel. At one point we went into a café and my boyfriend was ordering our coffees and snacks for us. The woman taking our order was really pretty, and slowly I started to notice the way she was acting. She was gazing into my boyfriends eyes and doing a really really obviously flirty face, and smiling at him so much and saying all these flirty little jokes and laughing in a way that seemed so performative. I could see him trying to stay composed cause obviously I was standing right there, but she was being sooo intense it was hard for him to act normal, especially as she was really pretty. He was smiling along with her and I was so confused at how she could just be doing all of this in front of me who was obviously his girlfriend. Then when she looked away for a second he gave me a face like he was really confused about her behaviour and I gave him the same look back. I think she saw, because then she turned back around and told me “hahahaha we’re just friends” pointing at my boyfriend. I was so confused… it’s like what do you mean? Obviously you’re just friends you don’t even know him. It was really weird. He just laughed and went “yeah just friends”. But she was still giving him that flirty look and I felt so angry inside but there was nothing I could do. Things like this make me feel sick and makes me not trust girls at all… she made me feel invisible doing that right in front of my face. I was so upset after and angry at the woman, and my boyfriend couldn’t understand why because deep down he was obviously flattered by the whole thing, which just made me feel worse. How can I handle situations like this? I don’t think I’m an overly jealous person but this made me just want to run away.
Why do girls do things like this and why don’t men notice?
