Do you think women and men can be just friends?

[Anonymous]

So I kind of already consider this chick from work my friend. But we just don’t call it that. We have so much in common, so we can talk all day and night about anything. I’m gonna stop working with her soon, and I really want to still hangout with her. However, I’m already into a girl, and my crush knows about our friendship. Plus, I heard men and women can’t be friends. She helped me out with her too. But I feel like she likes me even though, she has a boyfriend too. Like each time I talk about my crush, she doesn’t say anything, and and goes into the changing room now. She’s really emotional, so I really hope she doesn’t secretly have feelings for me. The reason I say that because she made me a note thanking me for my help when I barely knew her. That’s how we got to know each other. I never seen her do that with anyone else since I worked there. Plus, she tells me secrets about herself that she doesn’t say to anyone else. I don’t know? Because sometimes, she does flirt with me. I’m gonna ask out my crush soon, so I don’t want her to have to worry about my “friend.” Am I just overthinking? She also gave me her contact, but added her email address on my iPhone instead of her actual phone number. I felt like she wanted me to cheat with her. I just got that vibe, that’s why she didn’t just gave me her actual phone number. Or it could just be in my head?

[Anonymous]

No. Your experience describes a girl I know at work... with uncanny similarity. So you work at the same place as me? Lol. My advice is to stay away. Actually, run away. I became friends with this same girl. Im married. She always had little things to request my help... to trigger that hero instinct. It worked. She felt a need to compete with my wife for my attention. She shared very personal details with me too, to create this illusion I was special to her. I began to fall for her and she knew this. She flirted with me openly in the office. People began rumoring we were having an affair. Her presence in my life was hurting my relationship with my wife. So I confronted it. Told her what I felt. She denied everything and reported me to HR. I conclude she has serious untreated social issues and uses men's feelings to her advantage. Avoid at all cost. Not worth your career.

[ally018]

Honestly I have never been friends with a guy who hasn’t had underlying feelings for me.

[KellyKOO]

Totally. It's more common than people think.

[Recurrence]

My friends are all women

[In_Trance]

never