Do you think that men and women can be just friends?

[ohshee]

Yes I know for a fact it can be done because I have good friends that are female. but you both have to be honest with each other. There are times lust gets in the way and want it, but you both know in the in the long run it won't last . But a friendship would. And there are times where you meet someone and there energy is so strong that they just melt you and you're very confused because that feeling is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world and no matter how deep you look at things who they are but they're all about it's hard to figure out because that feeling I'm talking about. It is like magnet. It pulls you in. I think you have that capability for doing that. Even though you're not doing anything it's just who you are. I think it's like an aura that comes from the inside. And your just being you that's all. And when men or women experience that feeling it's so beautiful. That you want to experience it because you think it's more and that's the challenge just trying to understand it

[Anonymous]

Depending on each case. It's a broad and vague questions.

Of course men and women can be just friends. There are men who like men, women who like women. Can men and men be just friends? Of course 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unless by "just friends" you meant certain conditions exist. For example, a man is sleeping with a woman, can they be "just friends"?

In that case, I think some can be, some cannot. I know a girl that says she and a guy are "nothing serious," which, in my interpretation, means they're just fooling around, because "nothing serious," otherwise she could've said that they're just friends. However, she said they go on movies but are not "dates." I don't think two people going to movies and sleeping with each other can be "just friends" unless they're really not into each other, but then why would they sleep with someone whom they're not into? Too desperate but can't commit? Maybe, but to answer your question, unless they are just too desperate and can't commit, it would be difficult to stay "just friends" even if they denied that the movies are not dates, etc.

[Smashingdoozy]

Of course ☺️ heck can even be in a relationship and have it not work out and stay good friends and get grossed out about being with eachother again because now they're more like a sibling in your eyes.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes, I must have answered 4 of these in last few weeks.

I have friends that are girls and I really don’t want to fuck them.

Even last year when I was single for 12 bloody months I value them as friends more.

I am friends with my neighbours wife, I don’t try every two minutes to nail her.

it’s not really a hard concept that people can have friends of the gender they are attracted to… oh say what..

yeah it’s strange how gay and bisexual guys can have male friends that they don’t want to fuck, shocking, so yeah works same with straight guys and girls.

[BossThe2nd]

Sure they can be.
As long as you believe that every single male friend of yours wanting to have sex with you is not something that invalidates your friendship with them.

If you believe sexual interest invalidates friendship and that there are opposite gender friendships where this component is absent, then no.
That's not real, that's just female delusion.

This is for the simple fact that interesting people of the opposite gender, the ones that are fun to spend time with they immediately become attractive by the virtue of this.

When a woman opens her mouth, and all sorts of smart and charismatic stuff comes out of it, you don't think "wow, I want to be friends with this exceptional female" you think "I want to put a baby into this exceptional female".

[t-8900]

Yes and a few weeks ago I felt differently. You can be from different political, religious, racial backgrounds and be different genders and still be best friends! It just takes the will to have understand and RESPECTING people's differing opinions and coming to terms with them. Decades ago everyone knew this but now it's like an alien concept. YES there are people of the opposite sex that I am friends with that somewhere inside me kinda has made me think but I respect boundaries and also would never want to compromise friendships because they are dear to me. I'd rather have her as a friend and be there for me in my hard times and vice versa than ruin it and not have her around when I need somebody most. One good thing about a female friend is, she's not afraid to hold you when you cry.

[TheorionMage]

Of course. Its NOT the most common paradigm.
I've a quarter century of sisterly friendship with a woman whom I'd trust with my life.
We started out as a computer date and the sexual attraction was one-sided.
She was not the type to accept Friends with Benefits and was extremely jealous
of my companions who could and did.

[xXItzLMXx]

I would love to say yes but I had a really close friend girl and she got a boyfriend who treated her like shit and constantly crying over him, then out of no where she messaged me saying sorry I can't talk to you anymore me knowing cause of her boyfriend, and me being a good friend saying alright I understand but if you want him controlling you all the time that's on you, then I've found out by her friends that she isn't allowed any social media because her boyfriend won't let her, this hurts me every day and it really pisses me off!

[TheFlak38]

a question we see getting posted here literally every week multiple times and once we've clicked on the feed we see other questions like
"OMG! I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS BUT NOW HE WANTS TO FUCK ME! WHAT DO I DO?"
"Im falling for my best male friend. What do I do?"
"I thought we were friends but yesterday we fucked. What do I do?"

[cinnamonwaves]

Sure! I have plenty of guy friends who are just friends.
The narrative that men and women can't be friends is almost always based on the idea that the only the only value a man places in a woman is that of sexual conquest. Ugh.

[tatianamay]

Yes, of course. I have a guy friend and I have zero attraction towards him, and he is not attracted to me. This is because, he is 18 and I'm 16 and he thinks of me as his younger sister and I think of him as my older brother. Our relationship is purely platonic.

[Queenzee22]

Yes sure, but there will always be a point in time whereby one will get attached to another and will wants it to be more than friends.
But if they both understand themselves well they will sort things out if they want to be everlasting friends.

[VanillaSalt]

Generally no, men want sex. Women want intimacy (not sexual). I don’t think men and women SHOULD be friends even if they could, women need to give something for this intimacy and friends don’t give.

[lilyanony1]

I certainly do.
But I think that's maybe becoming less and less in modern society.
I feel like people don't really know how to be good anymore.

[ThrowAway93729]

Yes. Long as boundaries are respected and if you have to state the boundaries I don't think they're a good friend to have.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I am at an age where I work professionally with men. Some I form close relationships with. They will hug me when I’m sad etc but no I don’t feel the need to go to bed with them and I don’t think they do with me either

[sarahlumpkin]

Occasionally, I think there are heterosexual men and women who (don't ask me why these things happen) just don't jive together that way.

[Isugorl]

Of course. I have a lot of friends who are men. They are cool, and my siblings are men, consider them as friends.

[Dude_777]

Definitely, i have a lot of quality female friends, including some of them are in relationships, and we have pre-defined rules and boundaries which we follow and all is perfect.

[Shy_Steve]

Of course they can but it's just different for us Guys because we find a lot of you Girls attractive even if we have been friends for ages, We can still get a sexual urge that we cannot stop if we find you attractive.

[Dinklex3]

Of course.
Anyone who says its impossible is a narrow minded individual.

[Blackcupcake]

Yes I do, my closest best friend is a guy and I’ve known him all my life

[15_Debo]

Remember Hermione and Harry or Elle and Lee...
both genders can be friends

[Cherry234]

Yes definitely. It's not as much of a problem as some people on here make it seem

[kc_4308]

No most of us can’t.. there are two sets of men I’d be friends with and that’s bi or gay men

[LinaDaGoddess]

No. I don’t believe they can personally. (If their sexuality isn’t contradicting)

[AydenHazor]

Absolutely! Most of my closest friends are women and I love them dearly as friends with there being nothing romantic between us

[girlygirl2034]

Yes! My best friend is a man! We don’t think about dating or stuff we’re just friends for now and I appreciate it that way

[Pumpkinspice009]

Nope and never can be cuz it’s opposed to the nature of them

[Wester1967]

Women can be “just friends” with silly dudes. I’m not one of those dudes.

[Ironic_Method]

I have a number of women that I'm just friends with.

[Laura456]

Yeah, it's possible as long as there's no attraction leading to awkwardness :)

[TheBigGuy9]

Of course they can be, but communication is vital. You both have to be on the same page at all times.

[Lisa_97]

yes but lets be honest 60% of them have secret feelings

[FilmGuy93]

Not from what I've seen, but I'm sure there are people who can make it work.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ask your "guy friends" if they would like to have sex with you. Just try it. You will have your answer.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

As children definitely. Well a good example of two adults in this situation would be Rag Tagg and Jelly

[Bex450]

I think that they can but in order for it to stay platonic they would both have to be capable of remaining within a friendly boundary. Like not flirting but staying playful and fun.

[Anonymous]

I think they can.
But me personally I cannot. When I build an emotional and personal connection I get attached.

[Elladice]

sure I gat a Male bestie we get along very well you could as much taught we are both from same parent but nothing Is attached to it more than besties buh i am sometimes catching feelings though

[Wiredone]

They absolutely can. I have a few friends that are women. There's nothing sexual between us.

[TonyMetal___86]

I think that it's hard or very rare...
A man and a woman will always have feelings towards each other whether it's related to love or sex...

They can be hidden and won't show up until the right comes...

[Guardian45]

Yes, my ex-GF & I were friends. She even met my girlfriend before she died.

[Waldoe]

Yes... but it's a dangerous path, sooner or later one or the other will "catch" feelings

[Pogi-Paddy-2]

Yes, my bestie and I have been friends for 20 years. She and I are very plutonic.

[Anonymous]

Yes, as long as either doesn't have attraction for the other. Otherwise it is a struggle, and one will avoid the other to prevent a one sided infatuation crush.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes, if they aren't physically attractive to each otherwise one is going to desire sex.

[Snakesarecool]

A man and woman can be good friends if they are not attracted to each other, but if a guy or a woman is attracted to each other they cannot be friends

[dolemite89]

if they aren’t attracted to each other maybe, i think men and women are better acquaintances not friends really

[NathanDavis]

most of my close friends are women... and they have been that for the last 10, 12, 15, 20 years...

[Caliguy88]

I’ll be honest. I have a thing for friends. I want to sleep with every single female friend of mine. Even if not hot. But im
sure plenty of guys feel different than me, if not most.

[LukelyFlawd]

Yes! Best friends too, but with the latter, almost 100% of the time one has feelings for the other.

[Bluemax]

Certainly. I have many.

[Twalli]

They can be, but typically one or the other developed feelings

[OddBeMe]

Yes. With sexual tensions. But as long as everyone stays cool, it’s fine.

[BeachLuvR97]

Hahahaha. No. Men cannot control themselves around boobers.

[berwise13]

I think they can I've got quite a few female friends. But on same thoughts I consider my girlfriend my best friend.

[CaliSixx]

All of my friends are boys so

[humanearth]

Yes, I have a female friend for the last 40 years

[exitseven]

yes. I have had many female friends.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I have several who are just friends.

[Wise4myage]

Its doable but things can get sticky.

[zagor]

Yes. I've had several good female friends.

[crmoore]

Certainly, it happens all the time