Do you think that men and women can be just friends?

[Subarugirl]

[ohshee]

Yes I know for a fact it can be done because I have good friends that are female. but you both have to be honest with each other. There are times lust gets in the way and want it, but you both know in the in the long run it won't last . But a friendship would. And there are times where you meet someone and there energy is so strong that they just melt you and you're very confused because that feeling is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world and no matter how deep you look at things who they are but they're all about it's hard to figure out because that feeling I'm talking about. It is like magnet. It pulls you in. I think you have that capability for doing that. Even though you're not doing anything it's just who you are. I think it's like an aura that comes from the inside. And your just being you that's all. And when men or women experience that feeling it's so beautiful. That you want to experience it because you think it's more and that's the challenge just trying to understand it

[Anonymous]

Depending on each case. It's a broad and vague questions.

Of course men and women can be just friends. There are men who like men, women who like women. Can men and men be just friends? Of course 🤷🏻‍♀️

Unless by "just friends" you meant certain conditions exist. For example, a man is sleeping with a woman, can they be "just friends"?

In that case, I think some can be, some cannot. I know a girl that says she and a guy are "nothing serious," which, in my interpretation, means they're just fooling around, because "nothing serious," otherwise she could've said that they're just friends. However, she said they go on movies but are not "dates." I don't think two people going to movies and sleeping with each other can be "just friends" unless they're really not into each other, but then why would they sleep with someone whom they're not into? Too desperate but can't commit? Maybe, but to answer your question, unless they are just too desperate and can't commit, it would be difficult to stay "just friends" even if they denied that the movies are not dates, etc.

[Smashingdoozy]

Of course ☺️ heck can even be in a relationship and have it not work out and stay good friends and get grossed out about being with eachother again because now they're more like a sibling in your eyes.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes, I must have answered 4 of these in last few weeks.

I have friends that are girls and I really don’t want to fuck them.

Even last year when I was single for 12 bloody months I value them as friends more.

I am friends with my neighbours wife, I don’t try every two minutes to nail her.

it’s not really a hard concept that people can have friends of the gender they are attracted to… oh say what..

yeah it’s strange how gay and bisexual guys can have male friends that they don’t want to fuck, shocking, so yeah works same with straight guys and girls.

[Subarugirl]

I understand, I’m just a littler disheartened because every time I try to make friends it never seems to end well.

[ChrisMaster69]

As in they try something on?

[Subarugirl]

Generally yes. Not everyone, I’ve met some amazing people but for most in person it seem they always want something more, I don't know if that makes sense

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah it does I perfectly understand

[Subarugirl]

Sorry just a little discouraged

[BossThe2nd]

"I value them as friends more."

Interesting choice of words here.
Why would you use the word "more"?

You know, it kind of just sounds like you are making a conscious *choice* to not have sex with them, because you value the friendship MORE than sex.

But that's not the issue, at hand.
Women expect men to harbor no attraction to their female friends WHATSOEVER, not merely for men to decide whether fucking or friendship is of more value to them.

[ChrisMaster69]

@BossThe2nd 🤦

quote :
You know, it kind of just sounds like you are making a conscious *choice* to not have sex with them, because you value the friendship MORE than sex. Unquote.

Yeah that’s because it is a decision not to hit on them but to show some respect as you do with friends.

From experience, I don’t find women expect much other than that respect thing.

Definitely no one wants guys that constantly moan and whine about shit.

[BossThe2nd]

"Yeah that’s because it is a decision not to hit on them but to show some respect as you do with friends."

In other words, you do experience attraction to them, you are just making the choice not to follow up on it.

Cool, thanks.
That's all I wanted to hear.

[ChrisMaster69]

@BossThe2nd no I don’t experience attraction.

You mean you are attracted to all girls?

[BossThe2nd]

You hit on girls who you aren't attracted to?

Sorry but if you are, allegedly, not attracted to them, why do you feel the need to make this "conscious choice" to not hit on your friends?

If you weren't attracted to them, there would be no such a need to make this "conscious choice" out of respect for them, am I not correct?

[ChrisMaster69]

@BossThe2nd so from what you have said you hit on your mother, your sister, aunts and female cousins, you hit on every female
Your mates must love you when they have a hot wife or girlfriend.

You attracted and want to fuck the lot, constantly hitting on them?

[BossThe2nd]

I didn't say any such thing, but you are clearly a retard so I don't blame you for reaching that conclusion.

I was just pointing out that you are just a cute bullshitter who simply tells women what they want to hear in exchange for brownie points.

If you weren't attracted to your friends you wouldn't be in need of making any such moral choices.

[BossThe2nd]

But you are, as you have accidentally given away with your wording.

[BossThe2nd]

Just so you know, no I'm not attracted to my relatives.
But I'm not having to make any such "conscious choices" to not hit on my relatives out of respect for them, because.. you know... there is no choice for me to make as I'm NOT attracted to them- me hitting on them was never an option.

You have called it a conscious choice, because hitting on them IS an option for you.
It's an option for you because fucking them absolutely is an option for you, as it is for every male friend this lady or any other lady for that matter, will ever have.

[ChrisMaster69]

@BossThe2nd nope I’m not zero

I will however quote you, but wow imagine thinking this about your female family members, what a freak.

Quote
This is for the simple fact that interesting people of the opposite gender, the ones that are fun to spend time with they immediately become attractive by the virtue of this.

When a woman opens her mouth, and all sorts of smart and charismatic stuff comes out of it, you don't think "wow, I want to be friends with this exceptional female" you think "I want to put a baby into this exceptional female".

Unquote.

Basically you said you want to fuck family members, mates wives, daughters anyone you find interesting and fun you are attracted to and basically want to

quote again “want to put a baby into this exceptional female".

Just to be clear, when I chat to any girl it’s always the Friendship side of things first.

I respect my friends, so I don’t think shit like you do about making their wife pregnant just because they are fun and I’ve known them 10 years. I actually value the trust and friendship I have with my friends, they know I won’t hit on their partners etc, also with friends I won’t hit on them.

Yes even if I was really attracted to a new girl joining our social group, I would not want in her pants, because I respect that she is one of our group.

I appreciate it’s a hard concept after you have said you want to impregnate any girl you find fun and interesting. Not at all rapey.

[BossThe2nd]

Lmao, ok.
I see you have ran out of constructive arguments.

I'm not attracted to relatives due to the empirically supported hypothesis of an evolutionary phenomenon called the westermarck effect which prevents attraction to relatives of the opposite gender via the mechanism of reverse conditioning.

Anyone with a brain cell would understand that what I said, obviously, does not extend to my relatives.
But I understand you don't possess this luxury.

[t-8900]

Yes and a few weeks ago I felt differently. You can be from different political, religious, racial backgrounds and be different genders and still be best friends! It just takes the will to have understand and RESPECTING people's differing opinions and coming to terms with them. Decades ago everyone knew this but now it's like an alien concept. YES there are people of the opposite sex that I am friends with that somewhere inside me kinda has made me think but I respect boundaries and also would never want to compromise friendships because they are dear to me. I'd rather have her as a friend and be there for me in my hard times and vice versa than ruin it and not have her around when I need somebody most. One good thing about a female friend is, she's not afraid to hold you when you cry.

[BossThe2nd]

Sure they can be.
As long as you believe that every single male friend of yours wanting to have sex with you is not something that invalidates your friendship with them.

If you believe sexual interest invalidates friendship and that there are opposite gender friendships where this component is absent, then no.
That's not real, that's just female delusion.

This is for the simple fact that interesting people of the opposite gender, the ones that are fun to spend time with they immediately become attractive by the virtue of this.

When a woman opens her mouth, and all sorts of smart and charismatic stuff comes out of it, you don't think "wow, I want to be friends with this exceptional female" you think "I want to put a baby into this exceptional female".

[tatianamay]

Yes, of course. I have a guy friend and I have zero attraction towards him, and he is not attracted to me. This is because, he is 18 and I'm 16 and he thinks of me as his younger sister and I think of him as my older brother. Our relationship is purely platonic.

[TheorionMage]

Of course. Its NOT the most common paradigm.
I've a quarter century of sisterly friendship with a woman whom I'd trust with my life.
We started out as a computer date and the sexual attraction was one-sided.
She was not the type to accept Friends with Benefits and was extremely jealous
of my companions who could and did.

[xXItzLMXx]

I would love to say yes but I had a really close friend girl and she got a boyfriend who treated her like shit and constantly crying over him, then out of no where she messaged me saying sorry I can't talk to you anymore me knowing cause of her boyfriend, and me being a good friend saying alright I understand but if you want him controlling you all the time that's on you, then I've found out by her friends that she isn't allowed any social media because her boyfriend won't let her, this hurts me every day and it really pisses me off!

[TheFlak38]

a question we see getting posted here literally every week multiple times and once we've clicked on the feed we see other questions like
"OMG! I THOUGHT WE WERE FRIENDS BUT NOW HE WANTS TO FUCK ME! WHAT DO I DO?"
"Im falling for my best male friend. What do I do?"
"I thought we were friends but yesterday we fucked. What do I do?"

[cinnamonwaves]

Sure! I have plenty of guy friends who are just friends.
The narrative that men and women can't be friends is almost always based on the idea that the only the only value a man places in a woman is that of sexual conquest. Ugh.

[Queenzee22]

Yes sure, but there will always be a point in time whereby one will get attached to another and will wants it to be more than friends.
But if they both understand themselves well they will sort things out if they want to be everlasting friends.

[VanillaSalt]

Generally no, men want sex. Women want intimacy (not sexual). I don’t think men and women SHOULD be friends even if they could, women need to give something for this intimacy and friends don’t give.

[TonyMetal___86]

I think that it's hard or very rare...
A man and a woman will always have feelings towards each other whether it's related to love or sex...

They can be hidden and won't show up until the right comes...

[lilyanony1]

I certainly do.
But I think that's maybe becoming less and less in modern society.
I feel like people don't really know how to be good anymore.

[ThrowAway93729]

Yes. Long as boundaries are respected and if you have to state the boundaries I don't think they're a good friend to have.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I am at an age where I work professionally with men. Some I form close relationships with. They will hug me when I’m sad etc but no I don’t feel the need to go to bed with them and I don’t think they do with me either

[Isugorl]

Of course. I have a lot of friends who are men. They are cool, and my siblings are men, consider them as friends.

[NathanDavis]

most of my close friends are women... and they have been that for the last 10, 12, 15, 20 years...

[Dude_777]

Definitely, i have a lot of quality female friends, including some of them are in relationships, and we have pre-defined rules and boundaries which we follow and all is perfect.

[Caliguy88]

I’ll be honest. I have a thing for friends. I want to sleep with every single female friend of mine. Even if not hot. But im
sure plenty of guys feel different than me, if not most.

[Shy_Steve]

Of course they can but it's just different for us Guys because we find a lot of you Girls attractive even if we have been friends for ages, We can still get a sexual urge that we cannot stop if we find you attractive.

[Dinklex3]

Of course.
Anyone who says its impossible is a narrow minded individual.

[sarahlumpkin]

Occasionally, I think there are heterosexual men and women who (don't ask me why these things happen) just don't jive together that way.