Can men and women be just friends?

Question

Please explain your reasoning.

silentkid · Accepted Answer

For me I don't think so because towards my friends I am nice doesn't matter if its a guy or a girl. I love to help listen and have fun with my friends by making them laugh.

Okay so when I was little ages through 10-14 whenever I became friends with girls they told me that they like me and its like at least 5 girls. I don't normally become friends with people a lot becomes for the the quality of friendship is far more important than the quantity. I have rejected every one of them because I was little. 14-18 even though I stopped being friends with girls I still had girls telling me they had feelings for me because I kept a mysterious character of just not talking and minding my own business which has made me mature I think. I rejected those girls too. Lol then 19 I though I was mature, I expressed my feelings for a girl and got rejected too :D I'm going off topic.

Men and women are two different types of human beings one is really emotional and in need of love, attention so when they have their "friend" show them this they get attracted and fall in love. For guys to be honest its all about sex thats why you see bunch of guys trying to sleep with girls. If a guy has a attractive friend that a girl and she seems open when that guy gets a change he will go after her.
I don't think men and women can keep a true friendship due to their relationship. However, there might me a level to a friendship where its just hi and asking how their day went, not flirting and trying to attract each other by trying to look good or what not.

Bandit74 · Accepted Answer

Only if the
1. guy is in a relationship already
2 the friend is not attractive
or
3 he is single and the friend is attractive but he could easily sleep with other women who are equally as attractive as the female friend.

However If he's single , attracted to the friend and doesn't have acess to women equally attractive as the friend then its highly likely that ge will want more.

phil2 · Accepted Answer

Yes men and women can just be friends, because they both know and understand that they like each other just as friends and nothing more. I had three guy friends 6 years ago and they all knew I was dating around but they were just friends for me. I had one guy friend who was just a cuddle buddy and a friend, and no romantic feelings between us. You can if you really want to. You both know that there is no attraction but you both like each other because you're both great people.

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

Yes. when two people enjoy being around one another and value one another as people, they tend to become and stay friends, unless there is a sexual or romantic attraction. Men and women aren't always attracted to each other like that. Sometimes we see each other as more like a brother/sister or just a buddy. I have several very close guy friends and my boyfriend has several close girlfriends. It's quite normal.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

Yeah, seeing as there are a lot of guys that I'm just friends with. Plus, if the option of a sexual relationship means that you can't be friends, that would mean that my bisexuality would mean I couldn't be friends with anyone. It'd also mean that gay men could be just friends with straight women and vice versa.

heavenonearth · Accepted Answer

Yes, it happens all the time.

Also, I'd argue that even in situations where one or both of them find the other person attractive, if they don't act on it or have some strong desire to act on it, that doesn't invalidate their platonic relationship.

SunsetRose · Answer

Yes, when neither of them have any attraction for the other. I have a wonderful male friend I have never developed romantic feelings for and he has never had romantic feelings for me. He gives great advice and has helped me through a lot. He even helped me land my boyfriend :)

Anonymous · Answer

I think so. Though, I think with the opposite sex, there's always a possibility of flirting- even if it's just empty flirting. I have a lot of guy friends who I'm very close with. We flirt/joke all the time but when it comes down to it we know that it wouldn't work out if we were more than just friends.

Anonymous · Answer

To most of guys ya. Cuz i have a lot of guy friends. It also depends on how deep ur friendship is for example. By bestfrien and i r friends for 5 years and he fell in love with me in our 3rd year of friendship but then i was already dating someone. Even after my breakup i didn't go in a relation ship with him cuz i never saw him in that way. So fast forward, we are still now like the closest frnds ever.
Moral: the deepness of freindship can differ from each others perspectives. I didn't asct weird with him. But he still have feelings for me and never says it.

lonerider · Answer

Yes... they can totally be friends. Only if they are not attracted to each other sexually.. which means either - girl is unattractive (read: ugly) - guy is gay

Galaxy21 · Answer

yes it's possible but not very stable because of their instincts. when a man and a woman are friends for a long period they tend to develop some sort of feelings outside of the friendzonewich makes it harder for them to stay friends wich leads to problems that are well-known. i personally am against this sort of relationships. i hope i was clear

OceanaOnline · Answer

i'd say so. however i met this guy about 8 or 9 months ago and we were like the bestest of friends already within 2 months of hanging out, and now we've been together for 7 amazing months. it just depends really.

meesh1220 · Answer

Yes. I used to not think so, but I have a couple of male friends I've known for years that I have never felt a physical attraction to. They are like my best friends without that sexual tension. It is possible.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Obviously yes, and the fact that this question needs to be asked is somewhat sad... I have quite a few female friends, after all. You must be missing out on male friends, then.

LittleSally · Answer

I thought so when I was really little, but from then one not so much. Either they like me more or I like them more... I feel this relates to many people.

ZackSmashed · Answer

Yes they can but when u say friends do u mean really close? cause I'm kind of an open guy and I'm friends with almost every girl in my class so yes But at the same time I'm only 16 turning 17

chrisbigman · Answer

I would hope so, but I'm not so sure. I've tried to hang out with a few females I thought I was friends with, but they didn't want to. So, I guess not. Or maybe they thought I was looking into them in a romantic sense.

Riverock · Answer

Possible but I think that, in most cases, there's a limit to how close they can be.

aliceinwonderland69 · Answer

They can provided neither of them wants to fuck the other one. In this case constant frustration and heartache.

NenaLinda18 · Answer

Yes they can... i had plenty of guy friends and never had sex or did anything sexual of any kind with them

Anonymous · Answer

Yes if they're on the same page about being just friends. They can't if one has hidden feelings. I think often times there are hidden feelings but not always.

idkwtftoputhere · Answer

if you have even a little self control then ya, no shit.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't see why not. It's not like everyone in the opposite sex is automatically a love interest. Platonic feelings exist between opposite genders.

takumii · Answer

Yes , some of my best friends have been women. It's easier if you draw limits beforehand as to 'what you want from them'

Yumix · Answer

of course they can. I have female friends where I'm not interested in dating. also if they are already in a relationship...

ButterScotchPrincess · Answer

Yes... I've been bestfriends with the same boy since kindergarten and we're in college now.

MoonlitSonata · Answer

It's really hard for me to not develop feelings when I get to know a girl really well. Especially if I would have sex with her

MarkTwain · Answer

it's hard for me, because I always think about sex, even with friends.

Jooker · Answer

NO , cuz men don't always who he takes the control.

Ariel1990 · Answer

i love my men friends, i think yeah

The-lone-wolf-arises · Answer

My best friend is a guy

RetroDreamerXD · Answer

Yes. No explanation needed.

James0 · Answer

Depends on how deep this friendship is

Iron_Man · Answer

Once they have dated that's hard to do

serious · Answer

Yes, it is possible.

FloRida234 · Answer

No, there is always sex/relationships later on.

Anonymous · Answer

Only if they're mature enough to do so

BlackSatanicDeath · Answer

Never.

Dimmu · Answer

If he's gay

Walls_and_Doors · Answer

Yes. Gays.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes of course...

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