Here we go again, honestly yes of course they can but... its incredibly rare.
As a man, I never really had any female friend that on some level I wasn't sexually attracted to. I have lots of male friends and definitely don't feel attracted to them in the same way as a female friend.
I never had a female friend I would not of had sex with, if the opportunity presented itself. And out of all the "just friends" I had in my life... well the friend never lasted past the circumstances of the moment or until I or she, meet some ones else and got involved romantically. Which obviously was not the case with all my male friends.
So sure they can be just friends, but I don't really subscribe to the idea. Most times it's just a friendship of convenience, where one person would like more but seldom gets it. At some piont they get bored with it, tried of it, or more invested in a geniue romantic friendship with someone that reciprocates on truly emotional and physical level.
@FilmGuy93 why not ignoring the sexual attraction and still be friends? I really enjoy some guys company and want to spend time with them or be there for them but don’t want a relationship tahts how women are with many men we value them a lot but we don’t want a relationship so we want friendship
@CA4444 the problem is that women and men have very different ideas of friendship. What most women consider a friendship, I would either consider either a sexless boyfriend/girlfriend, or someone who is barely an acquaintance; it’s almost never someone I would chill with like one my boys.
@CA4444 kind of… my girlfriend is a totally different relationship from the one I have with my best friends. The dynamics of the girlfriend relationship (and most female friendships, from my observation) come with lots of headaches that I wouldn’t tolerate from my friends, even my best friends. The nature of the situation is simple; it’s a cost-benefit thing.
@FilmGuy93 but you didn't mention why men and women are generally appear to be different. Unless women are liars (which is very likely the case), more men than women are sexually attracted to the opposite gender likely because the average woman is significantly more attractive than the average man. But I could be wrong because women are nurtured differently and may be much more insecure in opening up romantically.
@FilmGuy93 Okay, yeah makes sense. You could give it a try I’d say cause women in friendship are a lot more chilled and relaxed, they have zero expectations or demands basically, they won’t be needy emotionally and won’t get crazy (unless they like you 🤔). If she does something you don’t like you can still call her out (that’s what I expect), have your normal boundaries. I think a reason male female friendship don’t work is that men feel rejected sexually and they don’t want to feel that rejection over an over again (the woman’s perspective is different, she doesn’t care about sex so much).
@ca4444 The most important thing a man can give to women is friendship. And yes, men want to give that without a doubt. But men want sex as well, and no once a guy starts having a freindship and sex with a woman there is little room for any other women in their life. Because women demand a lot of attention, and it attention men want to give them when its a sexual freindship.
For a man giving aways his friendship to women without sex is like giving it away for free... the women get every benefit of the friendship with the man without sex. So, for a man to give away friendship without sex, is like a woman giving away sex without friendship.
Okay I see 😕 I does makes sense, if you value friendship and the quality time & commitment that you bring to the other person. I have a close male friend and he wouldn’t call if he needed advice for example, but sometimes we do end up spending fun times together, we laugh a lot, and sometimes we spend months without getting in touch and it’s fine. We have our own lives going on. I feel like we have zero expectations from each other and forgive or overlook things very easily. We just have true affection for each other. For women it’s natural & easy to care about someone male or female
Why do people keep asking this question? For women its easier, for guys it's harder cause a lot men don't seek friendships with women, they seek romantic relationships. A lot guys will admit if their friend who is female wanted a more than just a platonic relationship, they would try. A lot guys are secretly in live ir attractive to their female friends and hope someday he will not be seen as just as a friend but a potential lover.
For a lot men, sexual attraction will not let them be just friends with a woman unless he just not physically into her like that, see her as ine of the guys, or has been around her so much that she's like family. Otherwise a man being friends with an attractive woman they connect with on deeper level is downright hard or impossible for some men. Why do you think some men and women get uncomfortable when their boyfriend/girlfriend gets to close to someone of the opposite sex? It's cause they know there's a chance sexual attraction could be there or spark.
This is a really good answer
Yes, for the millionth time, yes already. I have had male friends my entire life. My oldest friend in life whom I have known for a solid 26 years, is a guy. I have also been just friends with an ex. Not everyone has to be doing anything or trying to get with the other person and faking a friendship. The one solid rule for this to work is that they respect that you are now and for as long as that is your rule or their rule, just friends. No flirting, no kissing, no dating, no anything else.
In my experience yes. I think there's a difference between being attracted to someone and being in love with them. And while being in love would make just friendship impossible, being attracted doesn't seem to. There are attractive women all over the place, but that doesn't make interacting with them any different. If it did daily life would be a struggle.
Even when it does get funny—maybe some infatuation starts for a specific friend—it's just that. It's like a crush, it's awkward but it goes away in a few months. And then things are normal again.
Sure, if we were in the right place at the right time and we both were attracted to each other, something could come of it. But that's not really important. Potentially I could start a relationship with a lot of people that I actually won't. Hypotheticals like that don't make interacting in reality any different.
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I'll tell you about me and my friend that's a woman.
Me and her became friends 3years ago and we got close over the year, we split a bit throughout covid but then recently became closer again. But the problem is, I like her, I did the first time I seen her, she's beautiful.
Yes I'm friends with her, but I know if she made a move on me or made that clear she wanted me, I think I'd go for it. And that's just how it is with most males or females. Men wait for the opportunity because that's how we are programmed.
I was friends with a girl and didn't share feelings, but as my teen years increased, hormones ruined the friendship
Yes, but not recommended. Most strong friendships without hidden agendas are rare.
Women are good at keeping guys around expressly for validation, to help them with their dirty jobs, and mechanical stuff.
Men keep women around as friends to see if something romantic of sexual will arise, or keep in her network of girlfriends for the same reason.
As a guy, I have also learned over the years close women friends that I have developed over years and decades can suddenly stop talking to you for no reason one day. They just disappear. They are still alive, but her emotions can send you away with little to no feedback making them bad investments if you need good friends.
Of course, because being “more than friends” demands sexual attraction and compatibility. Just because people are the opposite sex that doesn’t mean they’re inherently attracted to each other. The opposite mindset is as ignorant as people who claim they aren’t homophobic refusing to share a locker room with homosexuals. Just because they are attracted to other people of your gender, that doesn’t mean they’re attracted to YOU. Imagine the real world if these beliefs were justifiable by any rationale. Everyone would have to be having sex with everyone else all the time for any reason or no reason at all. These puritanical hang ups are damaging, but people refuse to put them away because it means giving up their ignorance and insecurities. Why do people cling to the anchor that is drowning them? Ell oh ell!
No because the one-sided attraction becomes obvious in the long-term and it makes the interactions awkward. This is not viable in the long-term.
It could work if they are like family (have known each other since they were babies), but it's hard to say. Every situation is different.
So anyways, weird how yesterday, i was ripping ass from Friday due just crispy tenders from buffalo wild wings? It was... a trip. Usually doesn't happen unless I had milk... wonder if i should be wary of BWW or go more for a good time. Also was hella tired from doing a shift from 8 to 4:30 in da morning so had to sleep in my car. What a day, man...
Some can, some cannot. It depends on the person.
How I see it, if you appreciate the other gender for more than just sex, then you can.
Of course, if you're attracted to them and start to like them, genuinely. That's different.
But saying they cannot, would mean that gay people wouldn't be able to have friends of the same gender. Or that bisexuals and pansexuals can have no friends whatsoever.
And that's just not true.
Bottom line is women usually have a lot more to benefit from via this scenario than vice versa. There is also a reason why you don’t see men going around wishing they had more “female friends”. Hard truth is we don’t need women as platonic friends to survive in this world. We are independent.
With that said there is one long time female friend I’ve had. It worked because neither one of us ever had feelings, she respects me and these situation are very rare.
Yes it’s possible, but it works a LOT better if the guy is gay! As in my experience guys who are that close to you on a regular basis, will inevitably develop feelings for the woman. Also the woman can also develop feelings for a male friend, which will usually end up causing you to lose not only a boyfriend, but a close friend too!
I have a couple of long time female friends. To put it simply, they are in my sister zone and I'm in their brother zone. Occasionally, they and their SOs and my SO and I get together for a cook out or go to a concert or sporting event. At first, my SO had a problem with them being my friends, but eventually she realized there was nothing romantic or sexual involved.
I would say yes because you might have dozens or hundreds of males as contacts online but you only date or marry one at a time. I'm not referring to friends where a man and woman are alone together - but in a group social event - its possible to be friends.
If i find the person cool and fun to talk too. Can have meaningful conversation but there is no physical desire or lust then i can't see why they can’t be just friends. What you look for in a friend many not be the same as what you look for in a partner
How about this. If a man already has a G. F/Wife than Absolutely man and woman can be not just friends but Best friends. However, If a man doesn't have a G. F/Wife Than Absolutely Not. He constantly would hope and try to make his girl-friend his Girlfriend, because of a simple biological desire to procreate with her.
I am friends with a lot of women actually. The ones who I am "friends" with I don't really view them as women who I am actually "dating". Just the dynamic of that particular relationship I suppose. I think when I was more into my twenties and thirties, it was not nearly as common to be just friends.
Men will have sex with just about every one of their female friends if given the chance even if they aren't that attracted to them. Females are different as they will almost designate a guy into guys they see as friends and those who they will try to be romantic with. I could be wrong, but it seems that way. Obviously, there are exceptions.
Of course, as part of true civilization, men and women can just be friends, even if in some circumstances or in their subconscience that relation could evolve to more. It's for instance not because I like women that I'm going to harrass all of them randomly. Men and women are plainly people, and having some education should help seeing something else, in other people we're sexually attracted to, than opportunities to get layed.
I’m sure there are people out there who can make it work. I personally have never seen it work in my own life.
As far as I can tell, the things men and women look for in each other as friends are the same things they look for in each other as lovers.
I don't have a reasoning, just my own experience. I have had male friends and female friends.
Normally this statement of can't be friends with the opposite gender is based on attraction.
I'm pansexual, so i can be attracted to someone regardless of gender. So by this logic I shouldn't be able to have any platonic friends. And yet i have a big friends circle of guys, girls and non binaries people.
Of course. What do you think work colleagues that go to a bar together after work are? Fuck buddies?
The people who think it isn't possible are just dumb animals a little too simple to understand that just because a woman or man is nice to you, it doesn't mean they're interested in having sex with you.
If she’s ugly and he’s gay or she’s a lesbian. But no not really on the man’s side especially if she’s cute. She may not reciprocate his feelings but he’s still going to want to fuck her. So actually they can be friends if she’s not willing to be w him sexually. It’s either friends or nothing at all for him if he has feelings for her sexuality but she doesn’t.
you can but if you both think you look good and are each other types something might happen at some point especially on the guy end. i feel like girls for some reason can easily be just friends with guys and never like them back or fuck them or anything for the most part, but guys on the other end catch feelings a lot easier and are a lot more likely to think friendships with girls are like a means to an end in a way
Lmao, no. You see I have female friends that are just friends. However, my ex would be "friends" and flirt and all that stuff. Like it was bad. But hey, your sexism is showing.
@curiousjohnnstamoez i litterally said you can be just friends lol
i'm just saying though that stuff might happen if like you both think your cute and each other's types. not necessarely at all but it can and not super rarely at all
You said females it's easier. Nah, it was the other way around for me. The female in the relationship could be just friends with guys. I could though.
We see this question being asked almost every day and almost every day we see questions like
-OMG! I thought we were friends but now he wants to fuck me! What do I do? Please help!
-I'm falling for my best friend! What do I do?
-We were friends but we hooked up! How did this happen!! HELP!
The way I make friends is through shared interests. Since I live in the best city for baseball in the world, almost everyone here is a fan of our team. I love baseball, so I can make a lot of friends through a shared love of baseball (or our team). Obviously not all the girls who like our team will be attractive. Yet, because we like the same things we can be friends because we enjoy the same leisure activities.
Yes, but only if there is really and honestly ZERO attraction for both
Omg how many times with this same fucking question. I have seen this question be featured like 15 times in the past six months already.
Why don't they feature interesting and unique questions? I thought that was the whole point of the featured questions. Not the same shit every week.
nope, men don't want to be around a woman who is not in some way attractive and if she is in some way attractive eventually you are going to catch a feeling. Any man who says yes just has a female friend that they don't know they find attractive but the fuse is burning
Only if the guy either is satisfied in his relationship or find you unattractive. Guys don't look for friendship in women because we are different and that means we are less likely to actually share a interest.
In a profession context or if it's mutual partners of mutual friends, sure. Or even just people who don't find each other attractive at all, surely they too can just be friends or just be strangers, whatever.
Yes. Not every guy is going to be attracted to his female friend. Now if you are asking should guys be friends with women they are attracted to then I might have a different answer and spin on it.
no, women only use male friends for attention. and guys only have female friends cuz they don’t have the balls to be upfront about what they actually want or they’ve already been shot down and think maybe they can maybe “win her over” eventually 🤦♂️
Acquaintances? Sure. Friends in a friend group? Yeah. But close one-on-one friends? Nope. Not in my experience. It could take years, but eventually someone always catches feelings. And if the other doesn’t feel the same it ruins the friendship.
I don’t even see how men and women cannot be friends - we are human beings we can talk and tie bonds, I know men often say they can’t but I can’t understand tbh
Yes of course they can be it's not mandatory that everyone develop romantic feelings for eachother i have seen such friendships and have personally lived those friendships too
Both my husband and I have many friends of the opposite sex, and certainly have never had any problems or issues whatsoever.
Absolutely! But some can’t. Sometimes friendships also turn into something more. Nothing wrong with that
I have done so with some girls. It's not about reasoning. It's just destiny that some are like that. I mean I can't even picture them naked to begin. May be like a sister but not lust. They are drop dead gorgeous too 😳
Here’s the thing, we’re social creatures. We can make a variety of friends. Although, you do want to be careful who you’re friends with or you’re going to get stabbed in the back. Also, set boundaries.
Yes because they’re both people. Ones who are never just friends with the opposite gender simply aren’t looking for friends among them.
I’ve personally had some good female friends. They feel like family, just like good guy friends do.
Why the dislikes?
Ya we can! And the fact that 50 percent of the guys voted yes too it's not so hard to do so! It's more about how the person feels about it and not if it's a guy or girl ya?
u Yes, because I have had female friends and it always remained platonic.
Yes they can. Not every guy is an uncontrollable horn dog.
Of course. We are both humans capable of connecting on a variety of levels including a friendship level.
Yes we can. I have had a guy friend since back in grade school. If there was ever any thoughts otherwise he kept them to himself.
Yes. It does have to be explained, as this is normal. Its only in the hookup culture where this isn't true
There are 3 circumstances where this is possible. 1 they've been freinds since they were children. 2 they've both gay. 3 they're freinds but fucking eachother
Yes because not every men and women are compatible. And those who don't believe that may just be wondering why there are relationships that don't work.
Women ask men for favors were as men very seldom ask women for favors. A woman making a man a friend just depends on what she can get out of him.
A lot of people say no but personally I think they can
Yes, I don't see why not they can't just be friends.
I have a few straight male friends who are solely just friends.
At the end maybe one or other are going to feel something. In my experience it’s possible but too difficult in the long run.
Reasoning? Not sure what's to explain. I have ladies who are just friends. Never will be more.
No, because at some point, feelings are almost always going to develop
Yes, not all guys and girls doesn't have to have romantic feelings between each other.
Yes…but sexual feelings may pop up. And either they’re in relationships, one is, or neither. Doesn’t matter. Friends are friends.
Look unless we have been friends with each other since we were little kids I don’t see it happening
I can, I have a few female friends. I do admit that being single I'm more likely to hope a female friend can be more than that but it really depends on their personality.
No, not if the girl is even a little attractive to the guy lol
Yeah, I'm friends with all the women I know. It's easier. When romantic feelings come into play that's when it gets complicated.
Only fools believe men and women can be friends.
Yes, but it’s complicated. There’s almost always some level of attraction.
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