How can I stop worrying what people think?

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I suffer social anxiety and major depressive disorder and I sometimes worry what people think mainly in situations of I want to make my own decisions I try not to let it get to me but sometimes gets the best of me how do I just say screw it?

spuitkaas · Accepted Answer

I had social anxiety as a child to far teenager. I was also major depressed as a teenager. Had to work hard, but it was not easy.
Everytime you feel the anxiety creeping up, you have to think "what is the worst thing that can happen?" then you think "can I live with that happening?" and if you can then do the thibg you wanted to do. Ask someone a question, go to the toilet while sitting in a room with people etc. The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more positive experiences you get.
You can also ask yourself" if someone else did that to me, how would I react? " if it's not that bad, DO IT. Maybe you get a reaction you didn't expect in first hand once or twice, but most of the time it really isn't that bad, because people barely care for other people.
I think my depression actually kinda helped me getting over my social anxiety as well, because I barely had any emotions anyways and I felt like things couldn't really get worse anyways. I hope this helped a bit!

Fayeleo · Accepted Answer

You just need to know one thing:

PEOPLE DO NOT CARE ABOUT OTHERES.

Really -the moment you realize how little the others care about you, you will not feel the "pressure" that everyone is looking at you then judging you. Frankly, no one cares. Everyone is obsessed with himself/herself. No one really has time for any one else. So relax, and be yourself. No one gives a damn.

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

You can't control what people think, only what you think. Not that it's easy but I believe in listening to people who share an opinion of me because I don't always see when I might be annoying someone. As far as making them like me I've given up on that as it's out of my control. Easier said then done I think is to listen to what people think, if you respect their opinions but without letting your self esteem suffer if they don't happen to like it. No one will ever have everyone like them and if your self worth is dependent on the opinion of others you are giving them control of your happiness.

Seangreen · Accepted Answer

You really got to think to yourself who cares what other people think if you live your life based on what you perceive other people want you to do you're really not in control of your own life. And like I'm not sure if there's certain things that you're concerned what they think about but you got to let that stuff go

PrettyPriya · Answer

You just need something you can focus on when you have these situations that create anxiety. Also, meditation is a great technique to calm the mind and nerves.

Desconhecida · Answer

I don't think we never really stop worrying about what the world thinks of us. We learn how to accept that there are always people who won't like us and others who will because we can't please everyone. The best way to be fine with this is to learn to accept yourself first. When we love who we are, nobody can make us feel like crap -- because we know we are awesome!

Sonorous · Answer

gurl I suffer from dat too. But I think you just gotta become more competent at things and stuff. then tell yourself that you're better than all deez mofos out dere tryna be like you and den life will be groovy like gravy baby

TheAfrikan · Answer

Well how you stop worrying about what these people think about you. Just give no shit about there wicked add opinions dear and love your own acts no validation you need from people.

Nik_92 · Answer

Just become happy in every decision you take either it is wrong it will teach you and right one encourage you both the case you will in win win situation

Subarugirl · Answer

Counseling is probably a good idea in this specific situations. Though eventually you start to realize what most people think about you doesn't matter, what you think about yourself does matter though.

Anonymous · Answer

You just have to push yourself and do what benefits you, you shouldn't care especially if they are strangers because you'll never see them again.
I have the same problem as you but I am pushing myself outside of my comfort zone and once you do it starts to get easier.

AndrésC64 · Answer

I suffer from the same conditions as well as BPD. In fact, less than an hour ago I was talking to my therapist about my social anxiety. I wish I knew how to stop worrying about what other people think.

Medhat-M · Answer

Same here... I've come to a conclusion that the only solution is to have someone who genuinely loves you with all your mess and you really trust them... A " backbone " like they call it...

Jintendo18 · Answer

The next time you feel that way, ask yourself “What does this person whose opinion I care so much about do for me?” If the answer is nothing, fuck ‘em.

Anonymous · Answer

Step one would be getting off this app. Respectfully, because this app is made for people who care too much about what others think such as myself let’s be real.
2 life is too short to be caring so much.

LightOfTruth · Answer

Find one person that you relate with and put your all into them. Make sure this partner is a good person. That way you can grow together. Fuck everyone else.

jahaims · Answer

Gain self value. Your value should come from how you think and feel about yourself not what others think. That's not to say you shouldn't take criticism from people who you respect.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

For starters, stop asking people what they think about how to stop worrying about what they think!

LonewolfMeme · Answer

I need this question in my life because I struggle with this and it makes me lack confidence.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Why worry about what people think just worry about what you think.

male_guy_the_dude · Answer

We are social beings, it's natural for us to desire approval. I also hate this about myself...  As soon as you find the answer for this please let me know 🥺🥺

EaterPeter · Answer

You can't change their thinking and you can change the way you think.

Sharshin_31 · Answer

Just care your self and trust what you doing it was correct and you can care athors but don't think about athors just follow this.

007kingifrit · Answer

you can't. and you shouldn't. humans are social creatures and depend on others for our safety and well being. if others dislike you... you're in trouble

Anonymous · Answer

Listen don't worry about what anybody says they don't pay tour bills or feed you

Danny_dan92 · Answer

By not giving a fuck about what other people think

alfredo_einstein · Answer

Rule #1 fuck what others think

OddBeMe · Answer

Self confidence.

jimmy2 · Answer

God bless you

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