Did you have to accept that you're just very bad at socialzing and have social anxiety?

[Anonymous]

I try so hard many times to tell myself so many whatever reasons about why i avoid people and stuff like that. I even blame myself as if im being rude or ignoring others out of arrogance... I think im just very socially lacking skills and have anxiety. Its the boring truth i think and i jut have to somehow accept and learn to live with it instead of making fantasies in my head or elaborate reasons behind why im socially 'different.'

I'm in my late 20s. I have to face the music. Im not saying its good or bad to be like me, to be this way... Im just saying... Yeah... Of course i wish it was different but im an adult now. I can't really change who or what i am. I've also always been quiet. People ever since a kid commented on how im quiet and shy.

I tried for so long sp many times to think of myself as something else. But really i maybe just am miss shy and miss quiet and miss scared. Its not a conscious choice. I know a lot of people may blame it on me (the sufferer). I probably tried to in the past as well. Hoping that would help me somehow overcome the condition.

I guess i really do just need very understanding and smart people to be my friends. People who somehow have good chemistry and a good balance with me who accept me. It is hard to find people who can accept you, i think thats true even for other folks.

Cest la vie

[sirderpsalot123]

I was a very awkward kid and then I started working at a McDonald's and it really helped me improve my social skills. There were definitely a handful of employees who weren't popular, and, everyone had there own group of preferred co workers. I surprised myself with how I pretty much got a long with everyone I worked with and that resulted in me being A LOT more confident. Like, hey I guess I'm not as unlikable as I thought.

[Asker]

Thats good to hear. I have a job about 2 years now and i get along with people but im never gonna not be very quiet and shy and stuff. Its a wonder people talk to me really.

[sirderpsalot123]

Quiet people are more likable than obnoxious people so at least you know you aren't annoying lol

[Anonymous]

You're just not a People Person. I'm not a social type of person either when it comes to talking to people in general. I have to try to be social since I'm not naturally that way. I push myself to do it because it's healthier to engage with people.

[Asker]

You can't project onto me your situation. I get literally scared at times when faced with people and of course naturally i would avoid having that by avoiding people.

[Opinion Owner]

It wasn't meant to be insulting. I don't understand the dislike of my comment.
Still, I wish you well.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope