Why am I smitten over a guy that isn't even attractive , I'm completely confused?

[Anonymous]

[HighlyVolatile]

Attractive is an ambiguous term, no? There is what we find attractive vs. the world, vs. beauty canons, and all that. I can say a Miss Universe is so attractive and I'm using it in the fashion sense, but I might find a girl on the street more attractive to me personally.

I think people often jump to "personality" as an alternative source of attraction but I find that a sort of magical and loaded term. Sometimes you can get drawn to the way a person talks, the sound of their voice, the way they smell, the way they touch you, the way their body feels to your touch. It's not quite what I think people would call "personality". But it's not quite conforming to beauty standards.

[Finchie40]

Cuz attraction isn’t always based off of looks , you might be attracted to his personality and if you consider him a down to earth nice guy , Maybe he is different from other Guys you have dated , if you go for him don’t ever tell him that you aren’t attracted to his looks you will kill his ego and make him feel like a pile of shit lol , Honestly if you aren’t physically attracted to him you are probably better off not going for him at all to be honest cuz you will eventually realize his looks aren’t your type and he will be devastated when you go bang a hotter guy behind his back , you are best to find someone that has both , I know girls look at guys differently as guys look at girls but when push comes to shove you need both for it to work ,

[KrisPW]

There are many more things about a guy to fall in love with than just his looks. Don't be confused, go with it and you'll find there really are good guys out there.

[PrettyPriya]

Perhaps he has a great personality. That is the first thing I always look for.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for the MHO!

[slatyb]

There's something about him that attracts you. What is that? I'm attracted to women who wouldn't be considered beautiful, but there's something in their disposition that I like.

[Anonymous]

There could be many reasons. But, that is important also so don't ignore that. He can be great otherwise, but if you're not physically attracted to him, it will become an issue for you at some point.

[anylolone]

Hard to believe he isn't really attractive.
I'd think it's more like you being smitten by a man who's not as physically attractive as you believe you deserve.

[Staximus]

Maybe he treats you how you want to be treated? Nothing wrong with that if he treats you good

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't know. There must be something else you like about him.

[boggboss]

Clearly u find him some level of attractive lol

[jahaims]

Do you mean physically attractive?

[Asker]

Physically and his personality too
But something about him has me so drawn in
I totally don't get it

[jahaims]

That something is either some aspect of his looks or personality.

[Hellraiser1984]

He attracts you in other ways than looks.

[Still-alive]

Maybe he smells good?

[888theGreat]

I am sorry but I have that effect

[SkinTeethHairNails]

Because you’re a woman.

[lycanthrope3]

not always about looks

[rabbitzzz]

What happened?