Girls, do you ever reject guys you actually are interested in, because of reasons other than lack of interest?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it has happened a number of times

Yes, it's happened before

No, I would never reject a guy I actually am interested in

[Anonymous]

Yeah I could be super into a guy but at the same time I know that I’m not ready to open up or get involved with someone new just yet, especially since I have issues from past relationships that I still have to work on.

[Asker]

Or if you think that dating them would run the risk of messing up friendship dynamics with the people you're both friends with?

[Opinion Owner]

That’s another possible reason, or I could also reject the guy simply because I don’t want to risk the friendship between him and I

[England4eva]

Lack of moral compass. This unfortunately takes time to discover.

[Asker]

But has it ever been for a reason that didn't really have to do with something that was bad about him? Like for instance do you ever reject a guy because e. g., you already recognize personality incompatibilities, or that you think it might mess up your current friendships with other people who know both of your, or stuff like that? If that makes sense

[England4eva]

Yeah I have done this. I was dating a guy who insisted it was ok to drive past the speed limit.. his dad did it and he idolised his dad. So I guess that’s why he thought it was ok. But it annoyed me that he idolised his fathers opinion more than someone else’s life, who would be in jeopardy because he would drive so damn fast (he had a car accident because of it) It was unappealing to me cause it’s common sense, but he was so freaking stubborn and childish I couldn’t have this simple conversation without him acting like a teenager with his immature reply’s. Moral compass was just an easier way to say it. Immaturity is so unattractive.

[m1202]

Yep.. sometimes you overthink and end up putting yourself down cuz for example: you think that you aren't good/pretty enough... there are like 100 reasons for rejection even when you have the hots for someone😀

[Asker]

So you think sometimes rejecting a guy could be more because the girl feels insecure and doesn't wanna dive into it with a guy she's attracted to?

[m1202]

Yeah cuz she already weighted pros and cons of what can she give to him and isn't feeling satisfyed with her investment or other segments of her... as cliche as it sounds, the quote:"its not you, its me" can be applied in this case😕

[Asker]

Is being worried about the risks of messing up friendships with people you two are both friends with a common reason?