Do girls think that if a guy is unwilling to chase them that he must not like them that much?

[Intothevoid666]

Lots of women I talk to will refuse to set up a time to hangout or text a lot but then will be like be upset if you don’t follow their story on social media? Why do so many women seem to do this?

[DermalPunch]

Mostly. If a woman has intuition and is observant, she can tell if a guy is head over heels but scared. I've historically never been shy to be overt and get the ball rolling but time and time again men have proven if you don't get them to pursue you, they will not value you.

Men say all the time a wiman should make the first move balh blah blah but it always ends up badly for the woman.

She's made herself available so she's now easy prey and not interesting or worth courting. That's why we dosregard guys who won't put their egos on the line.

Granted, an intelligent and feminine woman knows how to trigger a guy into pursuing her but that requires vulnerability on her part which women are very scared to do.

[Biancam13]

Yes on the whole we do think like that. At least I do. It’s what I’ve been taught on “dating advice” from friends and family, and it’s a stereotype that men are the pursuers and if he doesn’t go after what he wants he’s not that into you. A lot of us play by the “if he wanted to, he would”.

[Jltakk]

I'm sorry, but the key is to NOT chase. Don't show desperation, play it cool and seek a natural human relationship first. The woman on her end needs to pull her weight as well and communicate like a human being would. Instead of being sad that no one is chasing you, be your best person and if you find something interesting, simply ask.

[Exterminatore]

If they’re refusing to hang out drop them. If a girl is interested in you she will want to go out with you and won’t need to be convinced to do so.


Do not follow them on social media. That’s a narcissistic game called: “look how popular I am” so they can feel important.

[Phoenix-gb]

Seems like it, but thankfully most guys are sick of the mind games now and are looking for someone who wants to put in as much as they want out, rather than wanting everything given from the start.

[England4eva]

Ok so I don’t have social media but if I’m texting a guy and he doesn’t ask me out, then there is no way he’s interested. Men suddenly lose their inability to talk to women when they meet the woman they want to pursue.

[PhenomenalQueen]

Yes, because men are naturally the chasers right? So, if he’s not going out of his way to show he’s interested, he can’t be too interested. I’ve dated a “shy” guy and he still made it known that he wanted to be with me.

[Siren777]

Women view interest in the form of action a man takes.

[Intothevoid666]

So yes? Do women ever think maybe men just don’t have time or patience or the mental sanity to play those sorts of games? Cuz like the amount of women who play this game is really high and I’m not sure how to navigate it. I’m leaning on just avoiding them but I don't know. What do u think? How do I deal with women like that?

[Siren777]

I think you should let the women you're interested in know how you feel about this. If they have a problem with it. They're not for you and if they think it's only fair. Date those women.

[Vegasrunner]

@Intothevoid666 You're making the mistake of thinking they care. If you're chasing a women you're doing something wrong the game is you create value in the world and women will want to be in yours. At your age it may not be a bad idea to avoid them until you can build up yourself. Once you do that you will be surprised how easy women will come to you.

[Exterminatore]

@ into

Vegasrunner is spot on.

They should be chasing you.

My old man told me before he left this crappy world to never chase busses or women cause you’ll always get left behind.

Besides…who is some girl that you should be chasing after her like some love sick puppy just begging for a chance to take her out?

[DermalPunch]

@Intothevoid666 How is a woman expecting taking action and showing that you are serious about pursuing a woman playing games. So sick of all this dumb eye tag and sneaking glances guys play. Come talk to me you bloody coward.

[Vegasrunner]

@DermalPunch I think you're question is very valid and it highlights just how little women understand about relationship and men in general.

[DermalPunch]

@Vegasrunner men are the ones going back and forth with all the mixed signals.

[DermalPunch]

@Vegasrunner also, no o e wants to be chased. They wish to be pursied. Say words back it up with actions that's all women wa t. Normal adjusted ones. All this other stuff you are saykn is nonesense. I will never chase a man. In my experience, even showing interest first is a disaster if you want a man to take you seriously. The women who chase men a scrwed and dumped off at the nearest corner. It isn't in the nature of men to be pursued. Men aree the hunters and any dud who wants me to court him isn't a man at all.

[Vegasrunner]

@DermalPunch "mixed signals" Please eloborate. What is a specific example of mixed signals you've received?

[Vegasrunner]

@DermalPunch I think you may be mixing up responses. My statement is "if you're chasing women you're doing something wrong" Looks like you agree.

[MzAsh]

Yes, because many men are willing to move mountains in pursuit of her. If you don’t then you’ll lose out.

[jahaims]

No that is immature

[MzAsh]

It’s just the way it is. Either be better than the competition or you might lose out.

[jahaims]

For immature people. I'm telling you mature adults don't do that. It's sad people think this way.

[MzAsh]

What do you think that mature adults to differently?

[jahaims]

Not play stupid games and communicate clearly.

[MzAsh]

What is described here isn’t playing games. It’s simple sexual strategy, which everyone has.

[jahaims]

Refusing to set up hangout times or getting upset about not being viewed on social media is stupid games. Very immature

[MzAsh]

I agree with the getting upset part.

[innerman]

If i hv to climb mt. Everest to get your phone number, you ain’t seeing me again. These super human things we do to get close to a girl are the source of pain when she breaks up with you 3 months later. I don’t have enough heart left to break

[TheSpaceGnome]

Would be silly if they did.
I won't chase anyone, even if she's literally perfect for me in every single way to the point where I'd marry her.

[sirderpsalot123]

Absolutely. If a woman makes it impossible for me to get to know her, what reason would I have to like her? I refuse to chase anyone. It's childish and immature. They need to grow the fuck up.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s a rationalization for them not to do anything.


It’s so weird. Women can have these thoughts about a guy, do literally nothing to affect the situation, and the convince themselves that it’s hopeless, and give up.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

Every guy can literally ask, but how does she know he's different? By him being prepared to go the extra mile

[TyLeeAndPink]

Yeah, if you don't chase us then we don't think you're interested and we'll probably give up.

[boobliker]

I have never chase a girl tell them you like them and them it up to them to make up there mind

[jahaims]

They are just immature