Guys, will a guy not pursue a girl because he thinks she is out of his league?

[Anonymous]

If so, what are signs a guy thinks a girl is out of his league and what can a girl do to show a guy she is interested in him?

[UmbrusNightshade]

Most of the time a guy will only try it if he has money or something he thinks can make up for it.


Personally I hate falling for more attractive women but I have no real gauge on my own looks because of decades of low self-esteem and depression.


Currently the woman I’m interested in is definitely “out of my league” which is why I still haven’t asked her out after like 4 months. The only reason I’m planning on doing so soon is because she checks off more boxes for me than any other woman I’ve met and as gorgeous as she is, I’m even more attracted to her character and personality.

[Anonymous]

Only if he believes in leagues. It's just as likely that he won't approach her because he believes SHE believes she's out of his league. For example I don't consider ANY WOMAN out of my league. But I can't do anything about them being so arrogant as to think they're out of mine.

If you want him not think this you're going to have to put forth a LITTLE effort. Women think guys make the first move when actually women do with thier signaling thier willingness to BE approached. a lot of women think they're obvious with signs to. And the truth is most the time women are so subtle with thier signs no one knows she even signaled, except for her.

[Anonymous]

Most guys probably always thinks a girl that they are interested in is way out of their league. But we don’t really care and would try anyway.

We are really bad at reading girls. I know guys (myself included) that have missed millions of clear signs of attraction from girls when people literally have said to me that “Don’t u see she likes u?” And I was like a question mark.
Why? Probably cause when we think you are out if our league we deny anything that can be a sign of you liking us. We are looking for the signs, but we deny that we saw them… “probably just a coincidence” “It was probably just my imagination”.

So just go ahead and try to show him in many ways… and make it more and more obvious and if he hasn’t realised after a while then just tell him straight

[ArrowheadSW]

I wasn't aware of "leagues" really, until I moved to a different college when I was 20. There were a lot of upper middle class people there who, if you started dating them, their family would want to meet your family and all that. (Most were not like that, but some.) So it was there that I because aware that there was a sort of social hierarchy. I didn't really come from that sort of family so I would have been reluctant to try to date a woman like that.

[Ligerzzero]

Yes, if we think she is out of our league it’s not worse the time and effort.

As a woman if your interested in guy, it’s simple go talk to him show interest, ask to hang out with him, that will get the guy’s attention.

But the absolute best way, just freaking tell the guy I’m interested in you, would you like to take me out on a date.

[inhua]

there's societal ramifications for a guy who pursues a girl out of his league. in an ideal world, "leagues" don't exist and everybody has equality of opportunity but that's just virtue signaling

look no further than the numerous GAG questions from women complaining about unattractive men always approaching them. it reeks of arrogance

[Hellraiser1984]

There's always the possibility that if he does talk to you that you are lying or trying to lure him into a trap wherein your boyfriend beats the sh#t out of him. Once bitten twice shy. The so called beta male has probably been treated like crap before by pretty girls and has no trust in a damn thing you say. If you truly like him approach him and don't lie to him or something to make him trust you.

[serious]

Well if a man thinks a woman is way too gorgeous and out of his league then chance are high he will keep it to himself and will not pursue.

In that case the woman has to take the initiatives.

[rabbitzzz]

If she is not in your social circle she is out of league. Its not like that bastard zucc is going to let you meet stranger in facebook.

And even if you do what then. What is there to talk about with a stranger.

[Truthatanycost]

You're going to find less and less guys pursue women than they used to due to new risks or simply because it's not worth it.

[LiamJHayden]

I've dated a few pretty awesome women because I never think that way, but I've seen guys not try because they assumed she'd say, "No."

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes.

And you have to literally say "I am interested in you." Anything less will not work.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Depends. I shot my shot every time I was interested and gave up after so many rejections and years. I'm trying again, but only online dating.

[BarryLiverstone]

If she invites him on a date and says that she likes him that’s a good start. Why does she want him pursuing her?

[Danny_dan92]

I typically don’t make approaches anymore. So yeah basically even more so

[Jmmmfi4]

You kinda answered your own question

[In_Trance]

Sometimes, yes