What to do when a friend keeps canceling plans on you?

[connie9888]

I’ve known her for a couple of years, and she’s always been smart, sweet and fun to be around, but over the last few months it seems like she has a reason every time to not do something. I don’t want to give up on her but I just feel frustrated a bit.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Stop making plans with her. It sounds like she's either lost interest in being friends with you, or distracted and doesn't have time to spend with you.

So stop wasting your efforts. I'd put the ball in her court: ask her when is she available to hang out. Let her set the day and time. If she still makes up excuses, or doesn't make an effort? Back off...

I've learned over the years to stop putting effort into one sided friendships. Because you wind up getting hurt or let down EVERY SINGLE TIME. Especially if you're putting more effort into it than they are.

[Crepe_tart]

Maybe there's something happening with them. You can ask if everything is alright or you can stop inviting them.

[bowenw]

Stop making plans with them. There must be something else that she feels is more important, like a boyfriend.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Plans are not for some people so plan to not have plans with people that can't keep plans.

[4everalone]

Don’t take it personally, she could be depressed or anxious or broke and doesn’t like going out.