Do girls have inferiority complex because of feminism?

[chris_987]

Okay hear me out before you make your judgments.
Girl say they want a guy who shows emotions but there are plenty of feminine men that show emotions all the time but girls don't want them right? What they want instead is a guy who is damn near a psychopath and they want to be able to make him show emotions. So basically they want to take a strong willed man and break him down to the level where he's just as emotional as them. Because see what women really want is power to control strong men so that they feel like they have some sort of power. Hence the term inferiority complex.

Because men get with women hoping they don't change and women get with men hoping they can change them?

[kylee2437]

Your issue here is you equaled femininity to emotion. This is exactly the issue with todays society still. Emotion does not equal being feminine. Emotions are a human/animal function. I knew two guys that just committed suicide because society today still suppresses men from getting mental health help. Your description honestly says it all.




Also a woman going for a sociopathic male that isn’t not an acceptable partner is called being a co dependent and that is within means to needing to go to therapy to figure out ways on how to stop being a co dependent

[chris_987]

Nope that women, I an many men can give you plenty of story's of a girl being turn of if we became emotional. Men adapt to what ever women find acceptable, so the only reason men don't show there emotions is because women don't want them too. If they did you wouldn't have to ask them too. It's the same reason why women shave there pussy and have less hair than other generations. Men started choosing women who groom more thus every woman adapted.

Human beings are fear based creatures who adapt to fit into society and if men don't show there's emotions to women it's is because fear not reproducing has made them that way. It's hard for girls to realize this because you guys kinda have to disassociate yourself from the fact you have to fall in love with the opposite sex who is capable of killing you with there bare hands

[kylee2437]

@chris_987 not every woman is looking for the same thing. You issue is you keep generalizing an entire group to feel the same way. There’s some women that prefer their man not show enough, there’s others that prefer it and thinks it’s necessary and healthy. Not every man cares about a shaved vagina. I would say majority of males couldn’t care less. The porn industry influenced that and it’s because it’s simply a trend. A shaved vagina is a trend, it’s not an adaptation.

[chris_987]

It's adaptation because if a man sees a women who has hairy arms or a full bush he is gonna think that she is a feminist or is a hippy. Same reason why women try to get rid of wrinkles, no guy that's out approaching women looks for old grandma's to talk to. Hence women know this and try there best to get Botox or collagen injections.

Oh and think about this every girl doesn't like when there in a conversation with a guy and he starts generalizing. But think about this, men are problem solver, right. Our brains are designed to see patterns and come to the most logical conclusion. Regardless off feels. The interesting thing about women is your brain is also designed to see patterns but your feelings hold more wait thab your logic. That is why you refused to be judgement and generalize people because it's feels wrong. But hey god bless your feelings we need them to not looks at society is such black and white terms.

[kylee2437]

@chris_987 the issue is you think women do things for men only. If a woman chooses to have hairy arms , it’s because she doesn’t give a flying fuck about how others feel. If a woman is getting rid of wrinkles it can simply be because she wants to look young for herself. No one likes aging. Not every thing we do has to be for the sake of men.

And no I refuse to generalize because I am being logical with the fact that not one single person is the same in the world. That’s called being logical. Generalizing one group is because you hold emotion /hate against that group you are generalizing

[kylee2437]

@chris_987 would you say I’m being logical if I said that most men are manipulative liars? Or would you say I am holding emotion towards what has been done to me so I generalize all men to be that way?

[chris_987]

I would say that the men you choose are liars and manipulative. But I would have to see the guys youve dated gather the facts and find out why you choose one guy over another. I might find out that you choose one guy because he was the popular guy or maybe you choose a guy who was great with woman and the fact that he choose you validated how hot you where. Trust me you can reach very quick conclusion about your self once you start to see things objectively and not shy away because your emotions tell you it's bad.

But I will say this about women doing things for themselves. I spoke to a lot girls that went to all girls school and they say they feel liberated because now they don't have to shave or hide there tampons because there are no boys in the school. So that would lend credence to what I said before about women doing things for boys. But it's ok because everyone move of off peer pressure. We are literally the amalgamation every person we've ever met, we speak they way we speak because we don't want to seem weird and being weird ostracizes us from society. Same with how we dress, we don't walk around naked because we fear the repercussions of that. My point is women do things for men and men do things for women simply because we don't want to feel ostracized.

[kylee2437]

@chris_987 to sum up your paragraph this is where co dependency comes into play. Which is literally why I brought up co dependency in the first place. Only co dependent people pick obviously unfit partners (emotionally unavailable shit bags)

[chris_987]

Ok so answer me this, why would a girl pick a guy who is emotionally unavailable and try to change him or someone who is not ready for commitment and try to change his mind. Are these women codependent?

[kylee2437]

@chris987 yes that is literally what codependency is. Codependency is literally when someone latches themselves onto something they know isn’t good for them because it gives them a certain comfort usually referring back to their childhood

[kylee2437]

@chris_987

[chris_987]

but by that logic, The majority of women are codependent. And that's simply can't be true if it's a disorder. Because for a millennia women have been choosing men based off their ideal state. Not so much what the man has but what she pretends that he could have. So if a guy displays ambition she might get with him because later on down the line his ambition could make her and their children Rich. It's the same process that goes into latching on to somebody that is confident. Or in this case emotionally unavailable. The opposite of emotionally unavailable is a guy that's clingy and no girl wants a clingy guy. So by that logic getting with an emotionally unavailable guy means that he is attractive to her because he doesn't care about her. Where as the clingy guy that cares about her is unattractive to her.

Anyways, all this logic explaining what 2 + 2 = 4 is starting to hurt. My head like this concept is so simple. The fact that I have to even spell it out is just mind numbing. Anyways, Good night thanks for the conversation

[kylee2437]

I’m not going to continue to read your paragraphs but your simple issue is you generalize one entire group. How can you say all women typically want horrible men when you haven’t even met majority of all women?

[chris_987]

Oh okay. If you're not reading it then we're down here. Good night!

[Graci_e]

Stop listening to that stupid anti-woman shit on reddit.

Most girls don’t have inferiority complexes, most girls don’t want to break people down and most girls don’t want to date psychopaths

I don’t know what dog shit you’ve been reading but whatever it is, it’s dog shit.

Most girls want to be loved and respected; most girls want to be in healthy relationships. Most girls are good, fair people. Don’t assume the worst.

If you’re not getting girls, just admit it and better yourself. No need to completely butcher a psychoanalyst of a whole gender just to make yourself feel better.

[chris_987]

Ok that was long and I hear you but within anything that I said as an argument is there any room for a logic decision about what I said. Or is this one of those dismissal statement that don't want to even continue the discussion because youve made up your mind, as all intellectual people have lol.

Also I've never even been on Reddit

[Graci_e]

Okay I agree, girls can be dumb and date shitty guys. Every girl has. But so can guys, it’s not a gender thing. The problem here is that you’re gendering and generalising things.

Girls don’t date shitty guys because they don’t want to have a nice, loving, healthy relationship. They date them because they’ve been manipulated and tricked into a relationship (people can act different at first), because they love them and are unsure if they should leave (love is blind) or/and because they have their own insecurities going on and don’t realise they can do better so they let themselves be mistreated.

Girls don’t want to change psychos or break them or anything of that sort - there are genuinely guys and girls out there that prey on people and manipulate them into relationships, then make them feel like they can’t leave. I’ve seen it happen to adults in my life and young girls.

So yes - some girls do date psychos, narcissists and all-round bad guys. But that doesn’t make a girl a bad person who doesn’t want a nice boyfriend, it makes her a victim.

[chris_987]

I don't think that was my point, I was talking about how girls say they want a guy who shows emotions, but I've never seen a girl get turned on by a gay guy. That's the most emotional man on the planet. No instead they get turned on by guy that don't show them any attention. So that to me just proves that girls want a relationship with a guy that isn't emotions so she can change him and feel like she has the power to change men. That's why I said its an inferiority complex. Men do it too. They feel powerful when they get with a woman that they think they can change. It has nothing do with me listening to anti women hate speech or whatever, it's just the logic conclusion I've draw from hearing women say they want a guy that shows his emotions. But I've never seen them actively go after emotional men.

Hopefully you understood all that.

[Graci_e]

I see your point, some girls definitely do that. But the majority don’t. I might have misunderstood a few things you said, so sorry for that. You seem reasonable enough.

Girls definitely like emotions. I’ve liked plenty of emotional guys. My ex boyfriend used to cry when I was sad and I thought it was the sweetest thing, but I didn’t like when he was sad.

Girls also like guys who are good at catering for their girlfriends emotions, which I feel is another form of emotionality and sensitivity. One guy I dated was like that, he was very emotionally intelligent. Not that I date a lot of guys, I’ve had 2 boyfriends from 14-16.

Gay guys are usually emotional but they’re also hyper feminine and attracted to other guys. That’s why girls don’t like them. Girls still like a bit of manliness you could say and you’d be pretty dumb to like someone attracted to another gender.

Some girls do try and change guys. But I never see that it’s out of power. As a girl, I see that it’s because they love that person and they don’t want to leave them even though the guys awful, so she tries to change the guy instead. It’s out of desperation if anything, not control.

A lot of guys aren’t very emotional, so even though we like that, some girls get stuck with less than emotional guys.

It’s not all girls, just a small, unhealthy minority that want control and have an inferiority complex. It’s not all girls.

[chris_987]

Well I must admit your pretty smart for a 15 year old. I definitely wasn't thinking about any of this stuff at your age. At 15 I was trying to figure out why girls would only talk to me online but at school they would ignore me. but when I go online again they would ask me why I didn't say hi. So I knew from then girls didn't see guys as the same. But who knows maybe your generation is different from mine. Or it could be where I live. But I'm glad you know so much at your age.

[Graci_e]

Thanks.

But when I was a minority - I really mean a minority. People are all complex individuals and you cannot possibly generalise any group of people.

Everyone’s beliefs, ideas, morals, personalities, interests, upbringing, etc are so, so widely different. You cannot possibly group people and say all that women/girls are this and all men/guys are this. We’re individuals.

[chris_987]

Well unfortunately people don't life forever so we have to make judgments and generalization about the world, we as humans would love to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but that could cost our lives. There's a war going in the Ukraine right now and your not going there because war generally mean innocent people die. So we've made a judgement and we're gonna act on it to extend our lives. I generalize because I don't have time to get to know every individual person, if they prove me wrong that's great I add it my calculations to see if tips the scale about that group that I just judge. But if it doesn't and my bias remain generally true. Then that better for me and I will avoid being confused about something I don't understand.
Hopefully you understood all that

[Anonymous]

Just fyi, the blue user who wrote "Nah as my wife is the boss" is a woman. She has been pretending to be a guy on GAG for years.

[NorthwestRider]

Nah as my wife is the boss