What's the purpose of isolating a girl from the rest of the group?

[Anonymous]

[NZGirl07]

I think studies have shown that while men tend to show aggression through being physical, girls are more emotionally aggressive and are more inclined to reputation destruction and isolation as expressions of aggression. Isolating someone from a group is a way to get back at them for whatever they have done that you didn't like, or if you just find them annoying. I would say that it is also satisfying for the instigator of the isolation to see other people being on their side and agreeing to isolate someone.

[Asker]

That so unfair.

[NZGirl07]

What is?

[Asker]

Isolating someone all because of their hurt feelings! Revenge. Like I did nothing to nobody. I'm sure I'll end up killing myself

[NZGirl07]

It is unfair, but remember only bad people do that. It is not worth ending your life over a group of bad people. Life shows you new people, new friends, a new partner. You get to travel, eat new foods, own a pet. It is not worth giving up on life because of a few mean people. That pain is temporary, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

[NZGirl07]

At high school I was isolated and treated badly, I had an abusive boyfriend. Now I'm at university, I have a caring best friend, a loving boyfriend, and a happy life. Life gets better. It would not have been worth killing myself, I would have missed out on future happiness.

[Asker]

Thank you for your kindness but it's hard making new friends when old people are following you and telling every new person bad things about you. I don't know what to do

[NZGirl07]

I understand that. Are you still at high school? If so when you leave to college or work things will be left in the past. Or you can always move to a new city and start afresh.

[Asker]

Girl I did. This guy I rejected and he started bullying me and harassing me. I was an ass too but he started harassing me and getting others to join. Like everybody. So i left town. Because i thought they were all going to kill me. I know of him from the gym. Now I'm at a new gym and old people who know of me are at that same new gym i go to and whispering about me to future people. Like I've noticed the moment i get settled in to workout people leave. So I know I'm being talked about

[NZGirl07]

Honestly it is hard, but you know the truth about yourself and that's what matters. If anyone wants to ask you about it they can to your face. Just ignore the gossip, don't give a reaction, everything fades eventually. You can meet new people outside of the gym.

[Asker]

I thought itd disappear too but nope. Its following me.

[NZGirl07]

It can take a while, it did for me, but trust me life moves on.

[VanillaSalt]

In regards to what exactly?

[Asker]

To where she can't make friends

[VanillaSalt]

Who the hell does this?

[Asker]

I dont understand it either. But look at the other girls comment

[VanillaSalt]

People don’t avoid people worth hanging out with. Just saying.

[Asker]

But these people dont even know me. And I'm very friendly. So it's people making rumors about me