Why do women hate on each other instead of empowering each other? (Page 2)

[Anonymous]

I have friends like this now. I’ve known them since I was little and they degrade me and make me feel worthless at every turn. Every achievement is downplayed and every venture is torn to shreds. I thought it was their personality too but they are just insecure themselves. They probably don’t realize they do it or how they sound. But some women are just extremely unable to grasp the fact that we can all win

[roxbby]

Girl, they definitely know that they're doing it. They do it in a way where it seems innocent because they're smart in the way they're phrasing it (because they're so goddamn insecure that they have so much experience doing it). I have dealt with this: my old "friends" would say rude things but in a form where it would seem as if it were extremely honest and of course, any good thing I said about myself was responded to with silence (weird, I know right?). The best advice I can give you is to LEAVE THEM. It is going to be so awkward walking past them by accident and bumping into them, but from my experience, it is SO worth it. You don't realize how much their negativity haunts your subconscious mind: even if you think you're doing fine and handling it, you're subconsciously taking that negativity inside and feeling bad anyway. I remember feeling that I had to hide any flaws that I had because I knew that they were happy to hear anything bad that happened to me (I was crying about a test I failed, and one of the girls LAUGHED) and I must admit, it eats you up inside over time more and more. If you accidentally encounter them, act as dry as possible and say you have to leave for some reason. Be lonely for a while, and discover new friends. If your inner peace is on the line, it's too expensive. Being lonely can be difficult, but you'll realize it's actually a lot easier than dealing with these negative people. Summary: leave these "friends." They hurt you even more than you imagine, seriously.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank youu. I have been debating on it for a while. Sometimes things are good with them and I feel bad for not wanting to be around them but mostly I feel bad about myself around them. The other day one of their little sister told me I was skinny and they got dead silent then said “Yeaa well if u knew her how we know her she done put on all the pounds”. That hurt and I can name a bevy of times in high school they did this to me. I just find it hard to completely cut contact. Especially now that I’m a young woman. It’s scary to have that much change

[Anonymous]

Because they are COMPETITORS with each other for attention--often from potential mates. That picture you chose to illustrate this with is a CLASSIC example. Sofia loved all the attention she got for her beauty and her bust. So when Jayne shows up with her neckline down to her nipples Sofia wasn't going to say "wow--you look STUNNING!" She was going to glare and think "BITCH!" lol!

[olivia8888888]

Ew you have internalised misogyny and it’s embarrassing. Stop perpetrating and pushing patriarchal stereotypes. You definitely from a really shitty country, who tf thinks like this💀💀

[AMS700CX4u2]

Speaking from an evolutionary point of view. There is a built in competitive nature among women. (Who in the Que is marching closest to the leader) I don't even think it has to be conscious.

[Anonymous]

Women compete for male attention. It’s biology.
They therefore do not know how to be true friends.

But those that push the “empower women” nonsense usually are the ones telling girls to be sluts and dress like whores and it’s “empowering”... which is actually doing the opposite.

[annabananna]

Jealousy I never had a woman being negative towards me when I was at my lowest point in life. When I started doing well in my life is when I started getting more slide comments or put downs from women.

[Anonymous]

most women are greedy
evil
selfish creatures
with no CHRIST in them

they shall be placed inside the snake and be tortured in fire
as they circle it and scream in pain

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

I like and admire other women curves, mind, and all. We're beautiful soft, cuddly creatures. Especially if we moisturize well haha.

[Subarugirl]

you just have to surround yourself with people who do... I don't let people like that into my life. If you friend's are putting you down... they aren't real friends

[FilmGuy93]

Insecurity and envy. Women's friends are very much direct competition for social jockeying, where men aren't as much direct competitors in that same way.

[jshm2]

Personality clashes tend to happen everywhere and anywhere.

It's not really something you can help, but something to resolve quickly.

[Anonymous]

jealousy and insecurities. some people (regardless of their gender) love putting others down because of their own envy. they can't stand seeing someone be better than them

[maximumpower]

bc women actually compete for the attention of powerful men.
same way that men compete for the attentions of the best breeding stock in women.
a couple centuries of prudishness can't undo several million years of evolution.

[CallmeTheKnight]

That's not gender exclusive. Men will hate on other men and women will hate on other women. Some people are just catty

[WhitneySnow]

I haven’t noticed this. At least not with my close friends.

[Exterminatore]

I don't know but I love it. Divide an conquer. I’m in favor of disempowering women and empowering men.

[globetrotter22]

Men can do this crap too but not to the extent some women do it.

[overthinker_321]

Personally I find people hate on people, doesn't necessarily have to be female. It always seems to me that misery enjoys company. Let haters hate, stay positive and beautiful. You're never going to make everyone happy.

[schittywok]

It might be the second time I call shenanigans. This is leading. Clearly that woman is checking the other's massive tits.

[Valso]

For the same reason as men fight over a pussy - rivalry. Which I find ridiculous in both cases, since "there's plenty of fish in the water".