There was a girl in my class who said she liked body and personality of a guy. in my opinion guy was douche and had only body and zero personality ( am saying that cuz i was freind of that guy ). do women usually lie about the personality thing. I ve worked a lot on my personality i ve even done stage shows and stand up comedy just bcz i can become interesting.
Is it a lie that women say they like personality just to be perceived as nice and not be judged?
Personality is absolutely something women find critically important (except for maybe the most extreme-shallow 1% of girls... but you don't want them anyway).
I don't understand why there is so much confusion over this. Guys are the same way. Guys like a girl who's attractive, sure... but guys DO want a girl with a good personality. SOmeone who makes you laugh, someone who is fun, kind, honest etc. It really IS girls with a good personality who end up being the attractive ones. (not just the 'good-looking ones' but the ATTRACTIVE ones)/
The same holds true for girls. They want a guy who... they like AS A PERSON! Someone who they enjoy talking to, someone who makes them laugh, someone who seems trustworthy, fun, interested, etc etc.
Here's what I think might be at the root of the confusion. Girls DO want 'nice guys' insofar as they want a guy who is generally kind-hearted, considerate and respectful. But they don't want a pussy. They don't want a guy with no backbone. Or a guy who lets people mistreat him, or walk all over him.
So there is absolutely something to the whole "personality thing". It's just somehow guys have decided that "a nice guy" means a totally spineless pussy. So guys who try to cultivate a "super-nice-guy" personality are not going to find it helps him with women.
Basically, with personality, it's "be yourself" (I mean... who else can you try and be). Be polite, considerate, generous, and assertive. Not every girl is going to be into every guy (obviously). Trying to CHANGE one's personality in hopes of winning a girl will never work. Just..."don't be a dick, don't take any shit, and be yourself". Other than that, it's just a matter of whether you bump into the girl who likes what you seem to be about. 🙂
Both trait have to coexist to be attractive regardless if you are a guy or girl. You have to meet a minimum threshold for looks and a minimum threshold for personality. Where those lines are drawn is different with every person. The girl you're talking about probably is really physically attracted to him and maybe likes his confidence/charisma. So maybe he's batting higher in looks than personality, but he is confidence/charismatic, but otherwise is a dumb ass with no other redeeming traits. For now that's enough for her. She just wants to be with a hot guy that takes charge and is comfortable in his own skin. She's a shallow simpleton... She wouldn't be the first.
I don't care how others perceive me. Looks are important, yes, but only during the initial stages of getting to know someone. I cannot date someone I'm not attracted to, but at the same time, I will not continue dating a jerk or an abusive man just because he is genetically blessed. Looks attract me, but it's the personality and character which makes me stay.
I would rather date a guy who is appearance wise a 6 and has a great personality than a guy who is a 9.5 and has a trashy personality. That 6 could turn into a 10 if I really like his character. If a man cannot have a scintillating conversation with me, he is not worth my time or my energy.
I have been attracted to "6's" before. An average looking man can be an amazing man for me.
Think about this for a minute, would you ever date a woman who is pretty but has a shitty personality? There's your answer.
I'm bisexual. I date for soul, not form. I care about their looks only if it's a result of living a life that would be incompatibile with mine. An obese lazy person who doesn't like exercise wouldn't fit with my desired lifestyle. A stick thin lazy person also wouldn't fit.
But even then, if they want to live my lifestyle and they're capable of handling the adjustments themselves, I'll consider them if their personality is a fit with mine.
Personality is so hard to train, it's actually in the literal textbooks for HR to hire on personality and train up the technical skills.
Someone's personality is also a conscious effort - or, in worst case, a consequence of ignoring the effort. Changing it takes a lot of work and time, so I'd rather date on personality than body (relatively easier to work on).
However, the tricky part is that everyone's personality is different and everyone likes different types of personalities. Some people like goofy comedians, some people like serious types, some people like mellow athletes, others like nerds etc. The types are all different. So in the end even if he was a douche, some douche girl felt they were a match made in heaven.
On a side note, one doesn't need to alter or hide or tone down their personality to get dates. You just have to be confident in who you are and what you like. If you like to put ranch on burgers and watch cinderella ypu have to be proud about it. Thats whzt gets girls, confidence an authenticity... not being afrsid of judgement
Everyone is different, a girl will view one guys personality different to how his friends view him, equally his friends will most likely (if being truthful) view other friends personalities differently.
the right personality for a girl is fairly important, more so that simply having a good body etc.
It's complete horseshit and we all know it. I know some amazing guys who can't find women who would "accept" them due to income/status/introversion/height etc. Women are hypergamous, emphasis on "hyper".
They said it when it was trendy to have 6ft only on their dating profiles and society has no problem with the word manlet even though it's monstrously bigoted. I'm 5"7 and I've had 5 ft nothing women shame me for not being 6ft. It's usually the shorter girls who are obsessed with the dudes height becuase they feel they are so lacking. Women's insecurity encroaches onto everyone else.
Yes most women ride the cock carousel through their 20s chasing the best men they can find in their phones. When those men eventually use them and the majority of other women trying to lock him down due to the 80/20 rule. They then turn around and "settle" for a beta male provider to secure her future. It's petty selfish lizard brain thinking and I detest it.
It's socially accepted if not praised here. Women in most other countries still have traditional values. Women aren't totally done, just the spoiled rotten westernized ones. It's 2022 in the best country in the world as far as privilege and women spend their time championing the right to child sacrifice. They are corrupted and should be treated as such.
It depends on your age girls will say that when they are young and go for a shallow guy, relationships from 16-22 usually aren’t going anywhere, as you get older you want a relationship that has more substance and start to actually apply that.
Maybe personality matters , but there will be that one asshole in every girls life for who she will break her every expectation and hopelessly fall in love to get her heart broken offcourse they have to be tall and hot and nothing else matters
Echoing @wonderbell99 the character especially honesty is what will keep me. As soon as a man lies or shows some other lack of integrity or cowardice, he looks like Shrek to me.
Worse in worse u get used and not cared enough for sticking around i rejected many good girl just bcz i thought 1 girl was worth my efforst initially the and was later on dumped cuz she found me always availble.
Welp that is a logical explaination to that question. I don't know i dont see women seeking long run relations. And if even if they do they loose interest and cheat at times. ( both sexes cheat am not blaming anyone just saying my observations )
I ve tried to improve my personality i changed myself completely for someone i liked they left me and treated me like a garbage despite i did all to make em happy
Sometimes the chemistry or compatibility just isn’t there. There are no character attributes, physical characteristics, or anything else guaranteed to make people desire anyone or want to date them.
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