Girl asked me why I get nervous. What do you even answer to that?

[Anonymous]

So there is this girl that i have a crush on. I was eating my food and she had to open the cupboard and she was kind of close so i naturally moved back. She said “no it’s okay” when i moved back and then she asked me why i get so nervous. I didn't know what to say so i just said “what?” and then she said “yes, why do you get so nervous?”. Her saying that made me even more nervous and I didn’t know how to reply so i didn't say anything. She then went away. Im not sure how she can tell whats going on because we have never talked, very little. So now the question, what do you even say when someone asks you that?

[Gene9]

It’s a little inconsiderate of her to ask, because she probably knows why. But she should respect the fact that you’re not ready to let her know what you feel about her?

[Asker]

Wait so she knows why i get nervous? How?

[Gene9]

I mean, unless she’s stupid. Girls usually know when a guy likes them, unless the guy literally never reacts to her and keeps his distance like at all times. If she has noticed you’re getting nervous, she probably knows why that is. Orrrr could also be that she is used to guys acting a bit nervous around her, perhaps she’s attractive and she might just think you’re attracted to her but not interested in her?

[Asker]

Hmm I’m not sure which one of those cases it is.

From what i have seen other guys from our social circle talk to her just fine without getting nervous.

[Gene9]

They might not be into her then. How does she ask you why you get nervous? And how does she act with you in general?

[Asker]

How did she ask me that day why i get nervous? I’d say the usual way people within your social circle would ask something; friendly and smiling.

And how she acts with me in general, hard to tell, because we rarely speak. But i’d say friendly like with everyone else. She’s outgoing.

[Gene9]

Hmmmm if she was being friendly and smiling while asking you she probably knows. Girls never confront someone about their behavior if they’re creeped out or scared of the guys behavior, then she’s try to distance herself. But whether or not she likes you back I don’t know, because she could just be asking for attention?

[Asker]

I see, i guess ill just go about my day.

Thanks for helping.

[Gene9]

If you really like her, and want to get to know her, you could try and talk to her a little and see how she responds to you. Tease a bit, perhaps jokingly flirt with her - see her reaction and then maybe try to ask her out. Take you time, and feel confident. I personally feel there's nothing more cuter than a guy who's nervous around me ;)

[Asker]

that sounds pretty difficult to do tbh. Maybe this week I’ll try if i can.

As for your last line, why do you find it cute?

[Gene9]

It’s cute because guys are usually told to be strong and not show feelings , but when they’re nervous it sort of reminds me that’s they can feel as much as a woman can and it’s so cute when they try and hide it ❤️❤️❤️

[Asker]

I see, well thanks for your time.

[Gene9]

❤️ no problem

[JakeS00]

I'd say I'm not, just wanted to move out of the way is all.

[Asker]

I couldnt come up with anything but what you said is good

[JakeS00]

Thanks