How can I regain my dignity and power?

[Anonymous]

My ex broke up with. I ended up calling him and kinda begging for a second chance. Then I reached out to him twice. First conversation went good. Second conversation I got left on delivered ( Maybe because I opened and replied to his message almost a day later)
I eventually deleted my text.

I definitely won’t contact him unless he reaches out to again.
How can I regain my power even if he decides to reach out again?

[FearedMoose]

Lmao the replies so far are so vague. Work on yourself for a bit, find what makes you confident, find your worth, stuff like that. Don’t even think about him for a bit, or try not to. Do things that make you happy, hang out with friends, stuff like that. What makes people put sort of have obsessive behavior (not saying you’re obsessed but I think this kind of applies) is that they put the other person on a pedestal and imagine that they are such a great person. Try to envision it the opposite. Think about the qualities you hold that any person would want in a partner. You’re a badass and knowing that is the biggest step.

So. If he comes back, remember that. It’s YOUR decision of he should be in your life or not, not his. So talk that way. Act that way. You’re in control, and if what he does or says makes you doubt him even for a second, he’s gone.

[Guy13]

Go live your life... take couple photos... post one at different venues over time. NOT one big avalanche of pictures.

[Asker]

What if he reaches out again?

[Guy13]

I would not respond but that's me. I do not feel obligated to respond to every little thing a person or people do. I have done this in the past. "Our Place" or "Our Thing" to do together was original my thing. It is lot of fun... every girl enjoys it. So, that place/thing get some "Group or Two Selfies". Can't talk now... send pic. Get it?

[Asker]

You’re not making sense..

[Wise4myage]

Don’t go begging again.

[Asker]

What if he reaches out again?

[Asker]

Am I still desperate?

[Wise4myage]

Make him chase you.

[Asker]

Let’s say he texts me and I reply to him, am I desperate?

[Wise4myage]

Depends on what you say. Like I said, just don’t be desperate

[Asker]

What shows desperate while texting? I definitely won’t text him first again.