On nights out I've rarely bought my own drink but don't get me wrong I'm a smart girl and I always come to the bar with them so I know they haven't done something to my drink.
I've even insisted on paying on many occasions but guys always tell me to stop being silly and to put my money away.
It doesn't help most my friends/ work colleagues are male so whenever I go out for drinks with them they always think they have to buy the ladies drinks. I do feel bad about at times because they shouldn't be wasting their money on buying drinks for others when they have there own bills to pay and such.
My boyfriend doesn't really care and sees it as a good thing as long as I'm safe about it because it's free and saves me money sometimes he's even got me to get a second one for him when they don't know he's also with me.
I've had guy just buy a drink as I'm standing at the bar because they say they just want to because I'm a nice girl and they don't expect anything for it.
I've e even had bartenders give me free shots and got me to try out there new cocktail ideas.
I'm aware this is straight up white women privilege/ pretty privilege and one day men will no longer be buying me drinks. Most people tell me to make the most of it whilst I'm young and pretty as long as I'm safe but I do worry one day I will get myself in trouble and I'll be seen as the one to blame. Not being drugged wise just a guy taking buying me a drink as a ticket to my pants.
I don't really go out as much now especially with men because I know how dangerous things can get from past mistakes. They might be my friends but you don't know who to trust unfortunately. when I was 18/21 I was a big party girl and it was different. I have a boyfriend I'm buying a house with and I'm ready to settle down.
