Why do guys get angry if you don't reply on their messages on time?

[Anonymous]

He’s not even my boyfriend.

[Marshymallow]

How long are we talking about here? The time? If it’s more than a few days then I could see why anyone could get upset.

[FilmGuy93]

Well... the guys who do care about that kind of thing are bothered because they see timely responses as a respect thing.

[Asker]

Even if they themselves sometimes reply late?

[FilmGuy93]

The beautiful thing about being a hypocrite is that you don't have to live by the same standard you hold other people to

[Asker]

So many guys would still get mad at girl for nit replying to them quickly enough? To get her respect what would guy then do next in those situations?

[FilmGuy93]

I'm sorry, but I don't feel comfortable speaking to all that. Every guy is unique and sees the world in his own way. If you want to know how a guy is going to react, you have to talk with him.

[UniquelyBasic]

Probably feels like a waste of time

[Asker]

What feels waste of time? And why?

[Jen_27]

May be he's just aggressive

[ChrisMike1919]

Not all get angry. And not always.

[Asker]

We’ve mainly communicated on whatsapp. One time he sent me a text 1pm. I replied to him almost 12h later. Then he replied to that message almost 2 days later saying sorry I didn’t get push notification and didn’t check whatsapp ( I feel like he just got mad and wanted to get back at me or something)

[Asker]

Then another time he left my text on delivered for 6 days after it took me 23 hours to open his text.

He probably saw that I was online on whatsapp when I didn’t open his message (his message wasn’t a question and didn’t require a reply). I open it and replied to him after 11pm when I got home.

Do you think he’s mad about that and got his feelings hurt?

[ChrisMike1919]

Not necessarily mad but maybe upset about all this.

[Asker]

Upset about what?

[ChrisMike1919]

About all this delayed reply or messaging back.

[ChrisMike1919]

It's a small thing tho, I wouldn't get mad about this but I would be a bit upset. I find more frustrating when he/she lets you on "seen".

[Asker]

He was on delivered. After that he left my text delivered for 6 days until I deleted it. Do you think I did the right thing when I deleted the message? :D

[ChrisMike1919]

You did the right thing deleting it. I went through the same thing and the frustration of waiting made me delete it.

[Asker]

How do you think he felt when he saw that I deleted the message?

[ChrisMike1919]

Did he said something after you deleted that message?

[Asker]

No he didn’t

[ChrisMike1919]

He could've said something, anything... in the end I guess he was upset and decided to do nothing. Maybe he waiting for you to say something.

[ChrisMike1919]

Damn egos...

[Asker]

Say what like ” why are you ignoring me” :D

[ChrisMike1919]

Why not, it was just between you and him.

[Asker]

That would be desperate …

[ChrisMike1919]

See, it's the ego. Sometimes we should let it aside. I know cause I do these things and I'm sorry after and I'm questioning myself "what if" this, "what if" that. In the end we're getting nowhere.

[Asker]

I would do that if I knew if he’s just upset or because he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore…

[ChrisMike1919]

Yeah but neither you or I cannot know what's in his mind.

[Asker]

Which do you think is probably more likely?

[ChrisMike1919]

I can only go guessing so I assume he let the ego "speak" for him. That's why he said nothing after the deletion. It's a lack of reaction.

[Asker]

What does his ” lack of reaction.” show? That he doesn’t care?

[ChrisMike1919]

Could be this, or could be that "would be desperate". Although it's not always seen like a sign of weakness.

[Asker]

I decided not to send him any message after I deleted the message. I feel like if he wants to continue to chat he can reach out to me.

[ChrisMike1919]

You decided well.

[Asker]

If he got upset by my late reply does it show that he has feelings?

[ChrisMike1919]

Yes it does. Although if he has feelings, he can't stay upset for long.

[Asker]

How long can a guy stay upset if he has feelings?

[ChrisMike1919]

I think that no more than a week cause it's going eating back his heart.