Most guys are busy. Most of us have real jobs and can't be on the phone all day. Just this year I have fired 2 guys and had to have 2 others leave their phones in their cars during work hours because their wives/girlfriends thought that it was okay to text them all day long. It isn't.
You are NOT the only thing important in your man's life, and the time and attention he DOES give you has to be earned by getting all of his OTHER stuff done so that he has free time for you. If he's constantly texting you while you're apart, how can he ever earn any free time? Hell, how can he keep a job or get schoolwork done or even just relax?
If you have a REAL, GENUINE emergency, you can CALL HIM. Otherwise, send a text and patiently wait for his reply, knowing he may have to wait for a break or lunchtime before he gets to it.
I'm not sure why so many people feel ENTITLED to have constant conversations over text, but that isn't realistic and most workplaces certainly don't tolerate it. I know that mine sure doesn't.
Accept that texting is a low-priority form of communication - intended for things that aren't especially time-dependent - and that phone calls are for urgent matters. And by "urgent", I don't mean "this one girl talked some crap about me today and I want to tell you all about it." Urgent is something like "there's a gas leak in the house and I don't know how to turn the gas off."
I don't mean to be harsh, but sometimes it's necessary to break through people's "reality distortion field."
Guys have things to do.
Hell, most people have things to do.
So, if a guy don't reply, then assume he's doing things.
Yeah. and we venture out into the real world instead of being glued to our phones. Some girls also have this strange behaviour and take more than 5 minutes to reply.
All the more reason why you need to stop following social normalcy and just do you. ^^
This whole thing about boys will be boys is so out of proportion it's not even funny anymore. Guys may do it because it's what you want or have as a criteria to date them or communicate. I miss the old days where we didn't all have cellphones, you would send letters written and you would speak on landline or meetup in person. It's just so much easier and ethical to stick to those ways of communicating. Too much of this digital age have made us complete shallow.
This is why I always says start out as friends first, get to know who they are, and don't just hand out your number to just any and everybody. And must certainly don't do it just because you want to pickup people, while thinking their cute. You don't need to play hard to get. You need to communicate the way you need to, and unless you want to give the attention, don't. It's all about their personality and how they like to do things. Texting late at night without some type of curfew for you and boundaries is always a no-no. It's not common courtesy and you have to learn to develop that. So what if they take so long? Wait for their reply or just stop communicating with people through text.
When I was your age, this upset me too. It didn't necessarily piss me off, but it made me overthink things and think they weren't into me. Now that I'm older, I'm less glued to my phone and more taking care of business. So a lot of the time, I'm the one who takes forever to text back. And sometimes, I even forget to text back. However, if I like the person, I make sure to text them back usually. I don't expect guys to be glued to their phones either. They've got jobs, hobbies, possibly school, etc. They can't be at my every beckoning call. My crush usually takes a little while to text back when he's at work, but when he's off work, his response time is pretty quick. But he likes talking. Some guys only use phones when they need them.. not for recreation. Don't take it so personally if they don't respond right away, unless they never get back to you. That might be something to worry about.
Exactly. Some guys like me work, and we're professional enough that we abide by workplace policies, or wait until our breaks to reply. On a side note, I dislike wasting money, so I choose a pay as you go /minutes plan. As a result, I dislike people who send me multiple texts that break up what could have been 1 text into 2 or 3.
Guys really aren't into texting I think. Plus texting in my opinion isn't a good way to have a conversation, people get easily distracted, try to text when busy, or just end up forgetting they were talking to someone. Texting also causes misunderstandings and stress, people assume if someone doesn't respond in a certain amount of time then that person doesn't want to speak with them. You can't blame the person for thinking this way either, some people do prefer texting cause it's a lot easier to drop a conversation they no longer want to engage in or stop talking with that particular person. That's why people freak out cause everybody knows people do it or have done it before. It's just better to talk on the phone, in person, and not in a text, if it's something quick like a reminder then sure, other than that pick up phone and call them.
It's honestly a lose lose situation, text to slow then the person thinks you don't want to talk.. respond to quickly then they come across as to clingy or needed or whatever the word is.
It works no favours with me I get you it can be off putting but maybe they're genuinely busy in which case they should let you know
use the phone and call
maybe they didn't see the text or had no signal u start ur timer right away and stare at ur phone like a drug addicted waiting for his dealer... time moves slower... does he take a hour to reply maybe they were getting head from another girl u never know l
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@Foxhoundxof just being real... lol
well, maybe because some of us are more into Facebook texts and not actually into SMS texts, unfortunatelly. I speak for myself.
The point of being busy is not having time to let them know I would if I could.
Also don't think your special sometimes I don't reply to my mother for days one time she asked me about groceries I answered 2 days later.
Also I usually respond in real life
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When you start dating a guy who replies right back each and everytime you text him.. that is the day you are dating a broke MOFO with nothing better to do. Be glad the dude has a life, a job, a passion, maybe even a purpose in his life. Be thankful for that... would you really want your man to be so needy and respond that quickly? I don't think you have thought this through LOL.
If she wants quick responses, then invite me to a coffee date or something. Otherwise, she can wait patiently like I am sure I've done with her plenty of times. Unfortunately, men aren't here to be at a woman's beckoning call and to wait upon her hand and foot, our lives don't revolve around yours so no, we don't realize it pisses you off and most guys don't really care if it does, it makes you seem rather clingy and desperate. The few girls who have expressed annoyance in my response times has received even less attention from me afterwards because it proves she doesn't understand that I have a life and that she thinks of me as some sort of servant if I'm supposed to avoid pissing her off and complying to her "text faster" demands.
She'll get a response eventually, on my break from work or when I'm done playing video games or something. I've noticed women can literally sit there and text all day which means if I'm having to respond every second of the day, my entire day is spent texting and is then wasted. No thanks.
with How easy it is to misread the tone of the text. i have had many occurrences where answering immediately you can not answer the text with the attention it deserves especially if there is something important you need to say.
I've received messages ie. "i hope you get this at a good time iwas so nervous with what to text you that this is my 4th attempt at writing you. because i really like you and did not want to come across the wrong way. (well you kinda just have i bet the 1st one was better like 90% of the time. already the spiraling out of control way away from what was intended. i openly now establish that no serious talk in txts. at least do that in voice. simple yes no questions are what they are for but deeper discussions just wait till you are face to face and do it old school. and you get the bonus of seeing your favourite person physically not digitally. or poke them on fb. when that first came out and i realised that someone who had ill intentions toward me and tried to ruin my life by trying to get me on drugs not go to uni etc. that when i saw he poked me on fb it nearly would have ended in custody. thats how bad the guy was and how he enjoyed manipulating people. so ever since i do t even have a real account i only set it up for the handful of people who insisted i get on there otherwise they couldnt keep me in our circle of friends. so why make the gestapos job rasy incase you tick all the wrong boxes one year when its cencus time. you do know what those numbers tattoed on holocaist survivors arms do t you?
There are a couple reasons why guys may not text back very quickly. For one thing he may be busy. Everyone has got their own life and honestly I'd be more concerned if he was always replying back immediately. Another possibility is that he always has his phone on silent and doesn't check his messages that often. I've got a number of friends who have that problem. And finally he may not be that interested. If a guy isn't interested and keeps receiving texts from a girl, he's likely to slow down or stop responding altogether. I'm sure you can tell from the contents of his texts whether he's interested or not (assuming that's the relationship you two have). Ultimately I doubt he's trying to piss you off, and either has a reason for why he can't respond or he simply doesn't want to talk to you. The easiest way to find out is to ask him. (PS her question was asking for the reasons why guys take a long time to reply to texts. It's not a gender war people, there's no need to point out that girls do it too.)
Does anyone else get the impression, that girls expect guys to be glued on their smartphones nowadays?
No offense but there is much more to life than just smartphones. Believe it or not but life and communication has existed way before smartphones did. I remember when cellphones were kind of hip and trend in around year 200x and I remember the Nokia 3310 being a popular device (which is why it has returned now).
If anything then smartphones make up a tiny portion of anyone's life unless someone has *really* nothing else to do.
Work? Shopping? Cooking? Driving? Social events? Studies? Sleep? Quiet hours? Cleaning the house? Or being outside in the nature?
Are these worth less than being occupied with smartphones?
Unless someone is actively monitoring the chat messages at the moment of occupation, a delayed reply is *to be* expected.
I reply when I see a text. And it can take a while before I see it. My friends can be damn sure though that I'll never leave them on "seen" and stuff like that. If the text has a suitable reply, I make sure I give them that reply.
Thing is, I have my interests to take care of. Sometimes I like to go out for stargazing and I don't use my phone for that duration (except for locating celestial objects to look at through my telescope). Sometimes I like to play videogames which I don't pause for anyone except when it's an emergency (it's my me-time). I'm a musician, I don't like listening to half a song. When I start listening to a song, I don't like it when it's interrupted because I have to start again.
They're not interested trust me. There's this guy who says he's interested and for centuries he would reply a minute after 5 minutes after or a second after. I wouldn't pay much attention because I would be busy and he would reply too quick or we're on FaceTime most of the time. No need to stress yourself because guys most definitely feel the same way when a girl he likes is taking too long to respond. He's not responding? Call it a closed case and have conversations with other people no need to stress. If someone is showing you their true colors? Believe them and take that as your red flag and dodge the bullet. Telling them won't change their actions they'll only continue on what you allow them to do. *CUT OFF*
Once that person is aware they have control of your feelings? Good luck.
I don't believe in the
1) guys don't like to text
2) busy
3) he didn't get it
4) not a texter
^^^ excuses, excuses. If he doesn't like to text he'll force himself to just because it's you.
He's busy? He'll make time during his business. There is no such thing majority of individuals text while walking, eating, and taking a dump.
He didn't get it? Oh please because when he's eager for that text from you he will be checking back often.
Not a texter? He'll be on the phone with you 24/7 from sun up to sun down.
I fell for the "he's not a texter, or a slow texter" and had my feelings shattered back to back till I finally opened my ears and mind with some common sense.
Depends. If y'all asked him a question, or you tried initiatin' a convo... yeah, he should reply within 8 hours or sometin'... like a work days length... if he don't.. and it's like 24 hours.. but does consistantly, he could be a busy fella, or doesn't wanna come off TOO interested... some guys are just slow with gettin' back to everyone, not just you...
-Yer better off just askin' politely though - "Hey, this isn't a huge deal, jw why you take so long to respond?" Ya don't wanna overreact or be overly emotional on the fella if he don't know he did sometin' wrong... that's where things get outta whack, and its usually because the person feelin' more insecure chooses an improper route like usin' the silent treatment as a way to "teach a lesson." Smh.
we are guys most keep busy or we drink too much. the doers and shakers can't look at there phone five times an hour to see if they got messages. lol cause back in the day when there was no cell phones and texting. we had no leash and now its in male DNA to roam free and not teathered. don't forget men used to explore the open planes. the expansive mountain ranges. its still in our blood and we can't be answering text messages when a thousand buffalo are stampeding at your heels. or maybe they are having too much fun where they are and if they answer they will have to go home. there all good reasons. the last being the most common lol
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It's basically like a game. Reply back too early and you come across as needy. Reply back too late and you come across as not interested.
I'm pretty sure you are annoyed because you like this guy. If another guy you messaged you much later, you probably won't care at all.
@stawrman I see it as genuine interest in getting to know a person. And the way you talk to a person usually makes it clear whether or not you're actually desperate, so I think it seems a little silly of a notion. It's like, I get the motive and I understand why people would and do think that, but I don't think it really makes that much sense in practice.
Wait a minute, wait a minute. I have to disagree. As a guy it's almost ALWAYS been the other way around. Most times times it's the chick who doesn't get back to me for hours or even a day later.
In my case it's never intentional. I don't keep my phone on me when I'm home half the time so part of it is not seeing that I even have a text. If I'm doing something on the computer and someone sends me a facebook message I might check to see what it is and then have something come up to distract me from replying. I try to be the kind of person who apologizes when that happens. It's never really intentional on my part, it just happens. Also I find the whole "playing hard to get" is just ridiculous.
I have asked my son the same question when it comes to his girl friend, he says that he is busy at work and work comes first and some times he's in the middle of a video game and doesn't care to answer right away. men and boys are the same we don't care to answer right away that just life.
No. Just…no. Wrong!
I reply when I can. Usually instantly. And you know what? I don’t think, that the girls like that. They probably think I’m into them or something, when all I want, is just to talk with them.
And I can imagine, how some girl is writing article here, how guys are so annoying and keep texting her.
So, what the fuck then?
And you know what? To take it one step further, why girls cannot be bothered to answer? Just couple of days ago, in my FB group, some girl, attractive one, if I may add, was able to answer all 3 questions correctly. First one in entire day. So, I wrote her. Just about that, nothing more. Answer? None. So…can I just go kill myself now, or what?
It’s not about sex, it’s about people, who are just assholes and cannot reply. They are probably used to everyone writing them all the time. It would be really nice to lock them somewhere and just leave them. Without any contact.
I've had guys get annoyed with me for not texting back fast enough. I think this is something a lot of people get annoyed by.
For me, I'm pretty introverted and busy a lot. Maybe I don't know what to say. Maybe what they said doesn't warrant a response in my mind. Maybe I'm working. Or sleeping. Or with friends/family that I'm not trying to neglect to appease someone who isn't even there.
Whatever the reason, there's nothing more suffocating than having someone nag about this.
Unless they're blatantly ignoring you while posting on social media or something. But even in that case, let it go and move on because that jerk doesn't deserve your attention or effort anyway.
my boyfriend bitches about me not calling him on his breaks at work when i do he doesn't answer and it pisses me off so either way someones pissed at 3am
It has nothing to do with playing hard to get, a majority of guys are just busy or have their phone away from them.
I've had a few moments where I'd see I got a text and just finish what I'm in the middle of before replying, but then I'd completely forget I received a text by the time I'm done.
It's an honest mistake and it happens to quite a few people.
Guys feel and know very well that replying a little late to a message isn't going to be the end of the world, so it's not going to be on the top of our priority list.
Just be grateful he's replying at all, it shows that he's interested, even with his other things going on.
I am guilty of this myself, and yes I know its rude. I cannot speak for other men, but here are the reasons I reply late sometimes.
1. I miss placed my phone. There are times I cannot find my phone and it might take me awhile to find it.
2. I get caught up in a movie or tv show.
3. I get a phone call from a friend or family member
4. I am busy working around the house, cooking or cleaning and its hard to stop and answer questions.
Try not to take it so personal and if a guy you like takes awhile to answer the text message, tell him in a polite way, you wish he was faster to respond. I do not think its personal or it reflects the way a guy feels about you.
I am the worst at replying to texts, if I'm busy when I read it I totally forget to reply later. I don't do it intentionally, I don't play games with guys. I just genuinely forget.
I also don't get pissed of when guys don't rely straight away, getting pissed off won't change a thing so what's the point?
It can work with girls, this is true. But it's not why guys do that.
They do it for two main reasons. 1) Texting does not demand an immediate reply. If it's important, make a phone call. And 2) Guys do not measure the passage of time the way girls do. What seems like a long time to you, can appear to be a very short time to a guy especially if he's got his focus and attention on something else.
And yes, by the way, teenage boys often have zero idea that it annoys girls.
We may want to play hard to get sometimes, but we never want to *annoy* girls that we're sweet on.
I'm going to restate what most others are saying - it's because we're normally busy with something. Not necessarily something that you think is important, but that's just a matter of learning that other people don't think the same way you do.
I think that viewing it as "playing hard to get" is probably the mistake that you're making. There's a good 90% chance that their not responding immediately has nothing to do with you at all. And ultimately, one of the advantages to text messages is that we do not have to respond immediately, that we can get to it when we get a chance. Guys take advantage of that.
It could be for various reasons:
- they don't like texting as much (I often hear/read that guys, in general, are not fond of texting.)
- busy
- doesn't think texting is as important (my guy is introverted and has been a loner most of his life and feels that he doesn't need constant communication. He still talks to me online almost every day, and calls me on his drive home from work, which I find super sweet and shows me that he truly cares. With him, he prefers talking on the phone and doesn't like texting as much. One of the main reason is that he feels that texting suck at "emotional transference*.)
- not interested in the girl
- don't know what to say or maybe even nothing to say
Those are just some reasons I could think of. I'm pretty sure there are plenty more reasons as the reasons vary between guys and the situation.
+1 for the emotional transference part. Most people learn to confirm before keeping to conclusions from easily misinterpreted texts as they get older. I also prefer talking on the phone as opposed to texting because then there's very little to confuse. Even if they say something that sounds vague and has multiple meanings, you can tell by the tone, breathing, silence between talk, and so on.
@everdream Exactly. Just like sometimes when we talk online while we're both at work, he'd ask me if I'm alright, and I'd be like, "Yea, I'm fine. why do you ask?" And then he'd say, "Oh, it's just that it sounds emotionless over text so he wasn't sure"... things like that.
It's your damn problem. if guys answer to fast they are desperate if they take to long they don't care, bla bla bla this shit doesn't come with a manual, we ask whenever the fuck we do, if we take ours its normal. if we take ours within every single text then its not damn normal. if we answer each to days then the dude is super active and doesn't have time for your crap or he doesn't care about your crap.
Women you always want things your way and expect men to be a weird version of a Female. well we are not, with don't play your stupid games and we don't guess what YOU think we are "supposed" to do.
For me, it depends on the girl. If I know the girl is a terrible texter, i won't text her back usually or put in the effort unless it's business related. However, if there's a girl who actually puts in effort to talking to me, then I will put in the effort. I believe my time is valuable and I hold myself to a certain standard and I won't put up with girls who don't put in effort. Also most of us guys get busy. We all usually have jobs. Not every guy is a prick or a cheater. Texting on the job or while we're doing some type of manual labor is not gonna happen. We're all not bums and actually have things to do. There's ultimately a lot of contributing factors but if you find it a problem and it's affecting you, be open with us about it. If they switch things up for you then you have your answer. If they don't, then you still get an answer, just a different one
nope it doesn't piss me off, most the guys i have ever talked to are busy with work, school, etc.. its life! if you feel that he is playing games with you or playing hard to get then call him out on it and let him know you dont find it attractive or stop wasting your time!
Honestly if someone sends me a message I think it's rude to not respond after I see it unless I'm doing something important. It's just courtesy. But I guess if someone sent "Hi" and I really didn't wanna talk I probably wouldn't respond. As for if I messaged someone and they didn't respond, well it is one of 2 things: 1, they are busy in which case they will get back to me when they can or talk to me about it in person. Or 2, they see it and don't respond, particularly if it is actually an important question, in which case I'm just not going to want to send them a message again.
because weve learnt not to, many guys will have made this mistake..
you got a new girl, you're into it, dont like to be apart, text non stop, and with time, that puppy love clears up
but the instantly texting back had become a routine, that now, when you no longer text back immediately, she thinks somethings up, she stops trusting you, and shit begins
Sigh... It's because a lot of dating gurus tell guys not to reply to girls so that they want him more. It's total bs but we all fall for it.
NO, it's not because we have better shit to do than text back. What kind of retarded excuse is that? We have our phones fully charged with 4g on us all the fucking time, probably masturbating to porn. Hanging out with friends? Yeah as if a bathroom break is a big deal.
And yeah girls do it to us too. And its so fucking annoying that I fuckzone them and block them.
I learned my lesson fair and square. Now I text girls every chance I get. And to the guys that think this makes the girl go away. It doesn't. It attracts EVEN more girls.
Be a gentleman.
I think it all depends on the guy to be honest.
There are some guys I know that don't like texting so it isn't a priority for them. Some are just genuinely busy or are thinking about what to say.
But sometimes I purposefully take a long time to reply to guys' text, especially if I like them. I don't want to seem too clingy. However, I also take a long time with people I don't want to speak to, but you can tell the difference as my texts are more detailed with the guys I like and less with those I don't.
Obviously can't speak from a guys perspective but this is my take on things.
I think most guys know that it's fairly unreasonable to get upset over something as insignificant as time taken to reply to a text, unless that text is somehow unusually important.
There's always the risk that if you placate your partner by doing things they expect, but which are unreasonable, you set a standard where they can expect that behaviour all the time.
Odds are if you're being emotional about this perceived problem, your guy is likely thinking in the back of his mind that if he continues to delay texts he'll eventually set your expectations to be more reasonable.
Of course good relationships and friendships are based on honesty, so actually just confronting people and telling them they're pissing you off is probably the adult thing to do. But be prepared for an honest answer back if you're acting like you're out of your mind over something that's basically trivial.
It's because we learned when we're younger that if you text as fast as girls do you lose interest and seem desperate or needy. The latter is the main reason and by making wait and go mad in between texts keeps you keen and wanting more. He might also be busy and not have the time to text back we do usually have more urgent matters than entertaining woman. Just be patient and he will eventually get back to you.
he replies late to make you think he doesn't like you. I had a boyfriend who I was friends with for a couple of years and he always did that. then we started dating and he was like "I always replied after a long time because I didn't want to seem eager or make it look like I liked you" 😂
cool story bro
dont worry, I will downvote this here you go
I don't know im bored out of my mind right now its nothing personal, I just downvoted a few other people here
nah im like this in real life too im the real deal
I've had girls straight up tell me that i need to ghost on girls and be just a little bit of an asshole at first bc it makes them think that ur not desperate and dont care so they gotta win u over and they made u into a nicer guy so they feel good about themselves... id much rather just let the girl know that im into them and that i am desperate bc if im not with someone i feel lonely and of course i ain't getting laid then either lol i want to treat and make her feel like a queen and treat her with respect, why would i want to be an asshole to anyone much less a girl i want to be with
@Mattjb83 be honest man, also girls love big muscles so you got to pump iron.
well yeah im a annoying but I have to be annoying somewhere else in about 15 minutes I would say so im on a tight schedule
@Mattjb83 lmaooo. Yeah but you dont have to go to the gym. Just find somebody outside and pick them up and start bench pressing them
well weight lifting has a lot to do with texting you see..
@Mattjb83 well mat I see you only have 5% mho I feel bad so im going to follow you
dont worry im leaving lol
@Mattjb83 yeah, thats where I was going with this lol...
@Mattjb83 man look at all the downvotes LOL! guess I set an example haha
well I got a notification and it reminded me, not like I was thinking about you all day or something. I was going to take my downvote off because I felt bad, but I think i'll leave it for a little while until you are nice
@Mattjb83 lol
i upvoted because this guys acting like an asshole xD
@DontStopBelievin34 haha
alright fine Ill take my downvote down but only if you guys compliment me
ok, let me know when you are ready.
Just don't complain guys because there a lot of ladies who r late to leave reply's even after seeing the messages.
Its according to the occasion, that's how i say it. I am a person who likes to reply fast to the messages and flood inbox with texts. If i am slow to reply, then i must be busy out here. That's the meaning. Just ask him/her if they r busy or not if they give late reply's. If they say that they r ok and they can hang out sometime with u, then proceed for that chat, else u can text him later by saying a bye.
It almost never pissed me off when my boyfriend (or my ex) took long to reply to my texts. I mean, they have life to live, and so do I. I don't expect my significant other's nose stucks on the screen 24/7. In fact, that would bother me more...
However, I noticed that I feel this way because no matter how busy he is, he would try to make time for me, at least letting me know that's he's busy etc. So I never get annoyed or feel left.
The reason for this is that many guys text girls with the method TTT Text - Tease - Takeoff.
The method works like this, A guy texts a girl, you can really talk about anything but the best way for the method to work is for the guy to tease the girl about something she dose or says. Next part of the method requires the guy to "disappear" for a certain amount of time. If they text everyday, than the guy may "Dissapear" for a day. That will leave the girl wondering where the guy went, and if maybe she said something he didn't like. Then after the time period is up the guy will "reappear" and continue texting as if he never left. This method is psychologicly proven to make the girl more attracted to the guy, and that is why many people use it
do girls text you back quickly after you "reappear?"
yep. point proven
it is very popular however not many people know the name
Are you in a relationship with the guy? If so I'd expect them to respond promptly. If not then they're probably busy or just not that into you. Some times people check their messages, mean to respond but forget. It all depends what you texted him as well, if it wasn't something that needed a response then he probably just read it and that's all.
Every single person!! "Hi, how are you doing? " "fine. Doing this and that. " (reply quick)... (No response)... Me "so blah blah"...(OK then. Put cell away , start to go back to whatever) "oh blah blah blah" (dig out cell) "great blah blah"...(me)."blah? "...(nothing. Put cell away. REPLY!!!)
Don't be so clingy and give the man space this is how you chase off men and give them the vibe you're a psychopath and need to message you back 24/7 they have goals and things to do in life every one does so don't stay so glued to your cell
It doesn't piss me off unless it's time-sensitive... like trying to make plans for later that evening. I'd rather a guy have a life and not be glued to his phone or stalking me 24/7, so if that means taking several hours to reply to a text that's good in my book. Now if we're talking days, that would just signal to me that he wasn't into me and I'd attempt no further contact.
u Why do girls expect an instant reply to a text? Don't they know it pisses us off?
That is the most stupid question ever. As if women are diffrent species than men. They all the same cunts and will treat you like shit of you let them. That wasn't even a question.. that was you seeing your arse cause your boyfriend or ur crush won't respond quick. There was no need to turn it into a question.
Lol @ you if you're at your phone 24/7. Sometimes I don't even go on my phone for weeks, or even keep it charged for that matter. Furthermore constant communication's boring, ruins the amount of topics to talk about IRL during meetups if you've been chatting all week.
they have a life outside of girls. it's not all about you all the time
Sadly, I take it not all girls are as smart as you are. The way I see it, we do it because it doesn't make us seem desperate.
Regardless, you needn't mind so much, because there's a legitimate chance they have an actual chance to attend to (and coming from someone who used to hate that "excuse"). Unless they're taking hours to reply, it can't be that bad.
I hate it when they take a long time to reply Iknow it may not mean they are not interested in us, they could be busy also at work or with other stuff but at least acknowledge that they are there, just with a tiny message it doe snot ahve to be a long text conversation, I dotn expect that but just a tiny thing that will do and no I dont like to play hard to get but Im aware we do it and sometimes it work.
Taking along time to reply to text is not a behavior unique to guys; we all do it. Sometimes it IS playing it cool (but girls do this just as often, if not more than guys), but more often than not they really are busy (work, class, etc) and can't reply right away.
Thank God someone said it!!
They could be genuinely busy. But after 24 hours he's not interested. Whether he's busy or not he would let you know to put your mind at rest.
Had this with a guy I was seeing, then he ghosted me after 5 months when I decided he wasn't worth a timely reply. Lesson Is, don't invest your time and effort until he makes the effort.
“What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly"-Thomas Payne. Might as well ask why girls make you wait X number of dates before they sleep with you. Do they not know it pisses us off? Same principle-your wanting him to do so is hooking you in. Yeah its stupid and a game but that's also how it is. The other possible reason is much worse-he's just not that into you.
It's actually happening right now as we speak. I'm waiting on a guy who messaged me on facebook but takes forever to respond. I am a first choice, that simple. I've only been talking to him for a few mins. If he keeps it up for like 10 more mins I'm out. I don't play that BS!
my boyfriend has certain breaks all his breaks his phone was off except hus last break it was on but he didn't answer got so pissed threw my phone 6times and punched it 3times everytime his voicemail came on and i was looking at his face, surprised my phone ain't broke, i got my moms bad temper tho.
Wow, get some lives please ^^^^or talk to people that want to talk to you. How naive can some people get? So into yourselves it sounds like. Maybe deal with people that dont treat you like crap, ever think about that?
I've been with him for a year and 3months we live together our relationship started out as us being homeless together its an impossible bond to break
@kelseywilliams he may have been busy. If he is working they would explain it. I wouldn't stress about it ♡
That* would explain it, I meen :)
In my case, I usually reply to SMS as soon as I am not busy especially if the girl that kind important for me, I like here, or I have a fair with here. Otherwise It is not necessary to reply to here SMS asap, it might takes longer than whole day and nigh to reply.
sometimes it's not playing hard to get. maybe they just don't check their phones as often as most girls do. it also takes quite a lot of time to maintain a conversation if they do reply, which won't work too well if they're busy. doesn't mean they don't wanna talk to you, sometimes it's just a lot easier and better to talk in person.
the fact that he even replies to you should make you happy. lol some guys won't even give you the time of day if they don't care about you. and men who actually don't have time to reply to you right away is because they busy making money, living the life or banging other women. Chill :P ya it does piss me off too but I do the same thing too. I even forget to reply hahahaha
It mayyyy be because there is other shit that happens in life off of the phone. I sometimes go hours without replying because I have spotty reception at work, or my phone died, or I don't have it with me, or I'm working on something, or I'm having a conversation with a friend, or I'm on a phone call, or-and this one is my favorite-I don't want to answer right that second.
Here's a fun inverse of your question: Why do some people feel like they're entitled to an immediate response?
The truth about it is that you don't text me like crazy. You can write what you want to say in a long text and point out your view or don't write at all or give a simple call when I ask you can and gently ask if can call me. Just a line. And don't tell me words by words like 100 text lines at a go when you can patiently write all one shot. So to make you a fool and will read and not reply because I don't want you to continue writing but some girls can be annoying they will keep writing even have hit to ask why are you ignoring me. OMG I will just block you
Tbh my friend who's a guy flat out said im "mowing the lawn" or he'll say he's using one or both hands to jerk off, therefore he's busy, I just say okay talk to me when you can or he'll talk to me instead but, tbh guys got shit to do i got shit to do therefore calm yourself make yourself busy and don't be so desperate😁
TBH I only don't reply if I'm driving or working. I can't carry my phone on me at work as I work in electronically sensitive areas or at extreme heights (a drop destroys your phone btw). As for taking too long right now I'm finding that to be on the girl end more often then not. I text people on Monday and am lucky if I see a reply by Friday. Guess I'm just not exciting lol.
Well boyfriend does it sometimes he will leave it there for 5 hours and he reads the text, it's annoying even when I told him I hate it he still does it, I have no problem if he takes long to reply but if he reads it and doesn't reply it pisses me off. I get it he has a life but its seems as if men love getting on our nerves.
exactly thats what i think they love getting on our nerves it drives me nuts
My comment in no way suggests your comment. You seem to be under the impression that all guys always ignore texts with the specific intent of annoying you. I am suggesting that many of us read texts but are busy doing other, non-phone related things, such as manual labor, operating a computer, check stand or piece of equipment, taking inventory or other occupation-related tasks, and in the process, either forget you sent a text to begin with, or decide that replying to your text would prevent them from working, which could have poor reprocussions.
i was actually trying to reply to carly99. well it seems like it 99.9% of the time and my boyfriend is on his phone 24/7 so its kinda annoying
and i kno exactly wen his breaks are and he bitches about me not calling him on his breaks wen i dont
I can understand that, but you also have to remember that you aren't entitled to his time, or how he chooses to spend it. Now, we all wish that the people we care about would choose to spend their time with us, and we all feel a little hurt when they choose to do other things, but we can't force the people we care about to choose us over everything else. Personally, I think that if we could, it would only decrease the value of their time.
yea he spends more time on an online dating site looking for people to do a 3sum with me and him instead of with me yea it can get a little annoying
yea it sucks he said he wants me to b more dominant, so does that mean he wants me to grab his phone and stick it up his arse?
lol that was only for laughs and giggles i kno what he meant by it
then its hilarious
@kelseywilliams I think that he's only visiting the online dating site to piss you off because he want to bring out your dominant side so take charge of the situation demand him to do as you say ps. don't say I demand you.
Falls into the category of control. If you are working on building a romantic relationship with someone you will make time to communicate with them. No excuses. This "I'm busy" excuse is a cop out and will be interpreted as you just aren't interested or the behavior will continue with the receiver. I prefer actual talking to text but if me or my SO can't talk to each other immediately shooting a quick text takes less then a minute.
So I guess I just won't do my job, which means I won't have money, which means I can't pay when we go out and I can't buy you anything, and eventually, I can no longer support myself as an adult, I get evicted, lose my phone plan, so now we can't talk anyways, and I have to move in with my parents, and generally not contribute to society.
Well, I talked to one girl recently and she suggested me to write back with a little delay at least. If I write back immediately, it means I´m too available and the girl has to wait a little for the message, so she is happier when she finally gets it. This is how I was told, but should not always be the case. Sometimes we are really just busy.
It's because we're scared that we might say the wrong things
I guarantee that from when he recieved your text to when you got a reply, he was furiously analyzing the wording of his text trying to make sure that the chances that his text doesn't end the relationship is greater or equal to the amount of anxiety he is experiencing about sending it
Honestly, I'm not sure how relevant this is, but I'm a girl and I often don't respond to friends' text messages for days... nothing against them, I just don't feel like sending a text
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