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It could be for various reasons:
- they don't like texting as much (I often hear/read that guys, in general, are not fond of texting.)
- busy
- doesn't think texting is as important (my guy is introverted and has been a loner most of his life and feels that he doesn't need constant communication. He still talks to me online almost every day, and calls me on his drive home from work, which I find super sweet and shows me that he truly cares. With him, he prefers talking on the phone and doesn't like texting as much. One of the main reason is that he feels that texting suck at "emotional transference*.)
- not interested in the girl
- don't know what to say or maybe even nothing to say
Those are just some reasons I could think of. I'm pretty sure there are plenty more reasons as the reasons vary between guys and the situation.
+1 for the emotional transference part. Most people learn to confirm before keeping to conclusions from easily misinterpreted texts as they get older. I also prefer talking on the phone as opposed to texting because then there's very little to confuse. Even if they say something that sounds vague and has multiple meanings, you can tell by the tone, breathing, silence between talk, and so on.
@everdream Exactly. Just like sometimes when we talk online while we're both at work, he'd ask me if I'm alright, and I'd be like, "Yea, I'm fine. why do you ask?" And then he'd say, "Oh, it's just that it sounds emotionless over text so he wasn't sure"... things like that.
It's your damn problem. if guys answer to fast they are desperate if they take to long they don't care, bla bla bla this shit doesn't come with a manual, we ask whenever the fuck we do, if we take ours its normal. if we take ours within every single text then its not damn normal. if we answer each to days then the dude is super active and doesn't have time for your crap or he doesn't care about your crap.
Women you always want things your way and expect men to be a weird version of a Female. well we are not, with don't play your stupid games and we don't guess what YOU think we are "supposed" to do.
For me, it depends on the girl. If I know the girl is a terrible texter, i won't text her back usually or put in the effort unless it's business related. However, if there's a girl who actually puts in effort to talking to me, then I will put in the effort. I believe my time is valuable and I hold myself to a certain standard and I won't put up with girls who don't put in effort. Also most of us guys get busy. We all usually have jobs. Not every guy is a prick or a cheater. Texting on the job or while we're doing some type of manual labor is not gonna happen. We're all not bums and actually have things to do. There's ultimately a lot of contributing factors but if you find it a problem and it's affecting you, be open with us about it. If they switch things up for you then you have your answer. If they don't, then you still get an answer, just a different one
nope it doesn't piss me off, most the guys i have ever talked to are busy with work, school, etc.. its life! if you feel that he is playing games with you or playing hard to get then call him out on it and let him know you dont find it attractive or stop wasting your time!
Honestly if someone sends me a message I think it's rude to not respond after I see it unless I'm doing something important. It's just courtesy. But I guess if someone sent "Hi" and I really didn't wanna talk I probably wouldn't respond. As for if I messaged someone and they didn't respond, well it is one of 2 things: 1, they are busy in which case they will get back to me when they can or talk to me about it in person. Or 2, they see it and don't respond, particularly if it is actually an important question, in which case I'm just not going to want to send them a message again.
because weve learnt not to, many guys will have made this mistake..
you got a new girl, you're into it, dont like to be apart, text non stop, and with time, that puppy love clears up
but the instantly texting back had become a routine, that now, when you no longer text back immediately, she thinks somethings up, she stops trusting you, and shit begins
Sigh... It's because a lot of dating gurus tell guys not to reply to girls so that they want him more. It's total bs but we all fall for it.
NO, it's not because we have better shit to do than text back. What kind of retarded excuse is that? We have our phones fully charged with 4g on us all the fucking time, probably masturbating to porn. Hanging out with friends? Yeah as if a bathroom break is a big deal.
And yeah girls do it to us too. And its so fucking annoying that I fuckzone them and block them.
I learned my lesson fair and square. Now I text girls every chance I get. And to the guys that think this makes the girl go away. It doesn't. It attracts EVEN more girls.
Be a gentleman.
I think it all depends on the guy to be honest.
There are some guys I know that don't like texting so it isn't a priority for them. Some are just genuinely busy or are thinking about what to say.
But sometimes I purposefully take a long time to reply to guys' text, especially if I like them. I don't want to seem too clingy. However, I also take a long time with people I don't want to speak to, but you can tell the difference as my texts are more detailed with the guys I like and less with those I don't.
Obviously can't speak from a guys perspective but this is my take on things.
Also, when it comes to playing hard to get, having to hang around for a text doesn't really make a difference for me. If I like you, I like you.. length between texts doesn't change that.
I think most guys know that it's fairly unreasonable to get upset over something as insignificant as time taken to reply to a text, unless that text is somehow unusually important.
There's always the risk that if you placate your partner by doing things they expect, but which are unreasonable, you set a standard where they can expect that behaviour all the time.
Odds are if you're being emotional about this perceived problem, your guy is likely thinking in the back of his mind that if he continues to delay texts he'll eventually set your expectations to be more reasonable.
Of course good relationships and friendships are based on honesty, so actually just confronting people and telling them they're pissing you off is probably the adult thing to do. But be prepared for an honest answer back if you're acting like you're out of your mind over something that's basically trivial.
It's because we learned when we're younger that if you text as fast as girls do you lose interest and seem desperate or needy. The latter is the main reason and by making wait and go mad in between texts keeps you keen and wanting more. He might also be busy and not have the time to text back we do usually have more urgent matters than entertaining woman. Just be patient and he will eventually get back to you.
he replies late to make you think he doesn't like you. I had a boyfriend who I was friends with for a couple of years and he always did that. then we started dating and he was like "I always replied after a long time because I didn't want to seem eager or make it look like I liked you" 😂
cool story bro
k then?
dont worry, I will downvote this here you go
tf is your problem
I don't know im bored out of my mind right now its nothing personal, I just downvoted a few other people here
that makes you a troll smfh
nah im like this in real life too im the real deal
annoying
I've had girls straight up tell me that i need to ghost on girls and be just a little bit of an asshole at first bc it makes them think that ur not desperate and dont care so they gotta win u over and they made u into a nicer guy so they feel good about themselves... id much rather just let the girl know that im into them and that i am desperate bc if im not with someone i feel lonely and of course i ain't getting laid then either lol i want to treat and make her feel like a queen and treat her with respect, why would i want to be an asshole to anyone much less a girl i want to be with
@Mattjb83 be honest man, also girls love big muscles so you got to pump iron.
well yeah im a annoying but I have to be annoying somewhere else in about 15 minutes I would say so im on a tight schedule
i got the only big muscle i need 😂😂😂😂 but no seriously i do know what u mean there... sigh the gym is such a waste of time!! i like working out but hate the time it takes
@Mattjb83 lmaooo. Yeah but you dont have to go to the gym. Just find somebody outside and pick them up and start bench pressing them
Why is any of this relevant. pm each other if you want to talk about that
well weight lifting has a lot to do with texting you see..
smh😒
@Mattjb83 well mat I see you only have 5% mho I feel bad so im going to follow you
dont worry im leaving lol
lmao thats one way to do it, some people might not like that idea so much haha
yes see we are texting haha u just have to find something they want to talk about and theyll text
@Mattjb83 yeah, thats where I was going with this lol...
irrelevant
all great minds think a like! even tho i didn't catch that i guess haha
@Mattjb83 man look at all the downvotes LOL! guess I set an example haha
Damn, i wonder what there reasoning was haha u sure didn't hide ur reason lol
Wow it's sad that u care so much about how many downvotes my opinion gets a day later
well I got a notification and it reminded me, not like I was thinking about you all day or something. I was going to take my downvote off because I felt bad, but I think i'll leave it for a little while until you are nice
@Mattjb83 lol
i upvoted because this guys acting like an asshole xD
@DontStopBelievin34 haha
looks like a couple other people agree with u lol @DontStopBelieving34
alright fine Ill take my downvote down but only if you guys compliment me
ha it's funny that you think I care that much
ok, let me know when you are ready.
smfh
Just don't complain guys because there a lot of ladies who r late to leave reply's even after seeing the messages.
Its according to the occasion, that's how i say it. I am a person who likes to reply fast to the messages and flood inbox with texts. If i am slow to reply, then i must be busy out here. That's the meaning. Just ask him/her if they r busy or not if they give late reply's. If they say that they r ok and they can hang out sometime with u, then proceed for that chat, else u can text him later by saying a bye.
It almost never pissed me off when my boyfriend (or my ex) took long to reply to my texts. I mean, they have life to live, and so do I. I don't expect my significant other's nose stucks on the screen 24/7. In fact, that would bother me more...
However, I noticed that I feel this way because no matter how busy he is, he would try to make time for me, at least letting me know that's he's busy etc. So I never get annoyed or feel left.
The reason for this is that many guys text girls with the method TTT Text - Tease - Takeoff.
The method works like this, A guy texts a girl, you can really talk about anything but the best way for the method to work is for the guy to tease the girl about something she dose or says. Next part of the method requires the guy to "disappear" for a certain amount of time. If they text everyday, than the guy may "Dissapear" for a day. That will leave the girl wondering where the guy went, and if maybe she said something he didn't like. Then after the time period is up the guy will "reappear" and continue texting as if he never left. This method is psychologicly proven to make the girl more attracted to the guy, and that is why many people use it
I do this without even thinking about it like that lol
do girls text you back quickly after you "reappear?"
Lol yes. And it's like something happened and now they are all about me when before they were somewhat distanced
yep. point proven
Is this method very popular? Because it perfectly makes sense, but I haven't heard of it before.
it is very popular however not many people know the name
Why do girls expect an instant reply to a text? Don't they know it pisses us off?
Are you in a relationship with the guy? If so I'd expect them to respond promptly. If not then they're probably busy or just not that into you. Some times people check their messages, mean to respond but forget. It all depends what you texted him as well, if it wasn't something that needed a response then he probably just read it and that's all.
Every single person!! "Hi, how are you doing? " "fine. Doing this and that. " (reply quick)... (No response)... Me "so blah blah"...(OK then. Put cell away , start to go back to whatever) "oh blah blah blah" (dig out cell) "great blah blah"...(me)."blah? "...(nothing. Put cell away. REPLY!!!)
Don't be so clingy and give the man space this is how you chase off men and give them the vibe you're a psychopath and need to message you back 24/7 they have goals and things to do in life every one does so don't stay so glued to your cell
A watched phone never rings
It doesn't piss me off unless it's time-sensitive... like trying to make plans for later that evening. I'd rather a guy have a life and not be glued to his phone or stalking me 24/7, so if that means taking several hours to reply to a text that's good in my book. Now if we're talking days, that would just signal to me that he wasn't into me and I'd attempt no further contact.
That is the most stupid question ever. As if women are diffrent species than men. They all the same cunts and will treat you like shit of you let them. That wasn't even a question.. that was you seeing your arse cause your boyfriend or ur crush won't respond quick. There was no need to turn it into a question.