Why do guys take so long to reply to texts? Do they not know it pisses us off? (Page 2)

Question

Guys are so annoying replying so late I know girls do the same but does playing hard to get work with you girls it doesn't with me

Regular1 · Answer

So this question is basically "I want this person I texted to immediately drop everything else they are doing and answer me now!"

Sorry, sweetie pie. I answer you on my timeline not the one you have set in your mind.

sineater8 · Answer

A lot of guys don’t want to come off looking desperate because they think it might drive you away, so they usually wait a bit to show that they are not desperate. Also they are very worried about what they write and may brood over how to respond for a while. Its just a silly thing we do, if you want him to text you back faster tell him you like it when he replies right away, then he will do it all the time, freaking out all the way that he might say something that might come off wrong.

ciitruskiwi · Answer

I just think that they might be busy. After a while if not hearing from them I just assume they weren't interested and didn't have the balls to actually tell me so I just move on. Clearly they aren't worth my time.

Giacomanzo · Answer

Depends on people, and has nothing to do with dating either. Some just do everything else before replying to any kind of messages even in group chats.
And it's freaking annoying. I'm trying to organize the evening for EVERYONE, don't you realize you answering 8 hours late is slowing us down too?

clumsy_g · Answer

Well i know man also have their business.. But come one at least at night not busy right

Currently my "close" friend missing for last 2 night...

I wonderingvwhat happened...
Seems like nothing is wrong

IslandGent · Answer

For me, I just like enjoying my own time. I have a life, full of adventure and barely any sleeping. I got priorities too, and I know you're one too but let's be real, I got things to do for the both of us and mostly myself. Idek if your words are just words, you can be unloyal asf to me. I don't know, texting ain't nothing but a conversation in our heads. Sure, you want to talk to me, but most guys need their time alone.

ranma187 · Answer

Texting is lame. I put almost zero effort into it as to just use it to set up a meeting. and to answer: If you text back right away all the time they assume I'm desperate and stop texting me. Story of my life, this is also why I hate texting... It takes a VITAL human element out of interactions.

Dahlius · Answer

Either busy or unsure what to say, as many women fameously look too deep into something, assume the worst and then get mad. So really we're just sitting ducks since you also get mad if we don't reply right away. Also in my opinion, playing hard to get just gives the impression that youaren't interested. Which might be the reason for slow replies

jtink · Answer

If we're really into you, we won't make you wait to hear from us. That said, I work in construction, the only times I can talk is when I'm off, sleeping, or it's the weekend. If I can, I'll let her know when I can talk or when I can't.

the50wattbulb · Answer

he might be busy, he might forget to reply or he might do the not desperate rule that boys and girls do and wait an amount of time before. my mate does it and its stupid but does keep convos going for longer.

lacinovav · Answer

they dont care as much about texts. plus, they dont have their phone attached to theri hands as many girls do.

CoffeeGirl456 · Answer

why wait just sms from someone? 😂😂 if no reply than 1 hour... for me lets move on the next 😂😂😂 and next... no reason to wait if he doesn't care to reply u. . .

Anonymous · Answer

cause when they do it too fast, we say they are needy. there is no winning with us women... .

Zer0Ghost · Answer

I respond when I can, and in college I forgot often. I don't complain when someone takes hours, people have lives of their own. The types that can't understand that I don't need

Sweet_serenity11 · Answer

i remember texting a guy who had stage 4 bone cancer, and he couldn't text a lot because he was hooked up to machines. i haven't heard from him in almost a month util i got a text, and when it finally popped up. it was his sister who text me that he just passed away. he was a really great guy. :(

JonM40026 · Answer

I have experienced this before where my ex wanted me to respond in a timely fashion to her text messages which meant right away but most of the time I was working and because of privacy regulations I couldn't have my cell phone on me because of my job she can understand that so realize it could be work it is nothing directed towards you to make you feel angry

redsox490 · Answer

I hate when playing games and when girls do it too. The only time I would be late replying to a text if I'm busy with something going on in my life or, I'm giving you your personal space. I respect that and I don't want to come off as clingy.

If I'm busy with something. I let them know ahead of time what I'm doing and can't talk or tell them afterwords why I wasn't responding.

hiphopbean · Answer

Because we're not glued to our phones 24/7. We got a lot of stuff to do. Hanging out with friends, sports, gym, GAMING, goofing around and seasons. So, it takes us late to reply.

beast_monsta · Answer

Take it easy and make yourself busy then you won't put your attention on when reply will arrive... it all matter of priority you're at.  @ nobody is too busy

Chanel1981 · Answer

I generally assume he is busy and will reply when he has a moment, seems to be working :) if I'm busy I don't reply immediately either

Botchie · Answer

It's a losing battle for both sides because neither person wants to come off as clingy nor distant. We don't know when the best/most convenient time to reply is. I just reply whenever I get around to it.

Sakamoto-san · Answer

Actually I only started it because my ex used to do it... and now its just become a habit! 1 bad grain ruined the whole batch (isn't the saying something like that)
Well the ultimate irony is that we broke up because of "lack of communication " lol who saw that coming!😂

Mr_Kapstar · Answer

I used to reply fast. Now however, I usually take time, mainly for reasons such as: multiple people are texting me, I'm playing a game that I can't just pause (and if I keep replying then I won't get a chance to properly enjoy the game), something important happening in the house/wherever I am, etc.

MadeInCanada · Answer

Maybe they're busy? Maybe they're with someone and out of respect not use their phone as often? I personally don't reply if I have nothing to say, if the person is boring and is basically bringing it upon themself, or if I'm mad.. Many reasons and guys who reply late have their own reasons.

Dolynne · Answer

I'm guilty of it too... But it isn't because I want to play hard, but because I think it's more fun to talk in person, rather than pick up my phone each time because I'm not really on it very often. But I do let them know I'm doing something else, something I would appreciate others do as well instead of not answering

normielover6969xD · Answer

Hah. I've been told by many girls that I became annoying when I replied too fast. Now I just dont talk to girls because its fucking pointless lol

AKilani · Answer

I don't, actually I will reply even if I was sleeping, driving (175 Kmph) sometimes.  And the opposite happens to me, some people don't reply even after days!'

Artelutio · Answer

It's not necessarily playing hard to get. Some people get busy and just can't reply as quickly as you'd like them to. Have some consideration.

denisenic01e · Answer

Most guys don't pay as much attention to their phones as females do

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

Because technology addiction is stupid, and people don't have to be/shouldn't have to be constantly connected with their phones. If he doesn't reply right away, oh well. Read a book or something until he does.

Psychlopic · Answer

Speaking for myself, I answer texts when I'm on my phone. If I'm not on my phone and doing something else, it'll wait until I pick up my phone again. I check it every once in a while, but not constantly.

JamesC1994 · Answer

It could mean several things, he could be too busy with work, helping out with family problems, financial difficulties causing him to focus on other problems just be patient and wait if he doesn't reply for days at a time then there's something wrong he might even only have time to reply when he's going to bed but he should reply at some point

Rox95 · Answer

Maybe they are genuinely busy. I text my boyfriend whenever I'm thinking about him but I know that he will only reply when he can because he's busy working hard.

carlisleous · Answer

There is no single answer to this question, no one reason, there is a plethora if reasons why a guy won't answer.

Top 3, they're busy, they dont have they're, and/or they dont want to talk right now.

but its not a guy thing ita a people thing. recent generarions, my generation included, dont really know how to properly communicate. its all via text or im or snaps, which is not real communication anyway.

it is felt that is needs to be right now, but thats almost never the case.

lidiaP · Answer

I don't care cuz it's usually me taking my time to respond to texts because I always struggle with convos

DinaM · Answer

Um... it doesn't piss me off. I'm generally thinking that the guy is busy or maybe didn't see/hear the message. I know I miss the occasional message because I forget to check my phone.

McKellar · Answer

I have a life & believe me,... I'm usually VERY busy in that life. If a girl texts me, she will need to wait until I'm done being occupied. If it's a girl who placed me in the friendzone... she can wait longer.

SteveJRN · Answer

I shall bring you the answer! You see if a person is hard to get you will automatically become more attracted to that person. Because people always want what they can't have. So thers a big chance he is playing you so you will become more attached to him. With other words 😉 he likes you

pinkylatte · Answer

I know what you feel :( its really hard to accept the fact that he doesn't into us if he not reply us really fast ;(

annie2016 · Answer

I also feel that way when I was still younger but as I grow older I began to understand that its not a big deal if he is not replying to my text immediately as long as he replies within the day.

Ssimon91 · Answer

I just made a status today about this. I have a life outside of you, I can't always respond fast if me having a life is bad, we need to break up. being clingy isn't cute

kneil4248 · Answer

I use to text right back every time! In doing so it became an expected behavior from me! On occasion when I didn't text right back, that's when I was accused of having affairs with other women! I am not a puppet on anyone's string and I am not a cheater! That's why I am single and giving my opinions here! Accuse me again!!

annonboy · Answer

for most guys girls are like a piece of puzzle cut the wrong wire and the bomb explodes, its not necessary that we try to trigger flags with every girl we text but we sometimes treat mosts of the girls the same way probably for any future possibilities

zanthras · Answer

Every time I see women talking about this, I can't help but wonder how much they text the guy. If you are in his eyes pestering him, he is going to be more likely to give up answering cause it's going to do no good to answer. Same with anything, when it becomes useless to do something cause it will yield no results a guy gives up on doing it at all.

verybusyguy · Answer

happens to both  but may be it's just a part of Dating game ( to check how desperate the other person is ) boys usually text instantly if they are interested in chat  otherwise I have bad news for you

baegirlbae18 · Answer

They're busy. They've got stuff to do. I don't reply when I'm busy.

Rieser · Answer

personally, when I take a long time to reply, it's either because I can't reply right away for one reason or another (phone battery dead, in class/at work) or because I want to think about my answer becore I day anything since I've had many cases where girls would suddenly start hating me because of one stupid inoffensive thing I said without really thinking about it. But I think most guys are just trying to play hard to get

TheGingerAwakens · Answer

If guys are replying late it's probably not because they're playing hard to get but because they do actually have life's and their entire day doesn't revolve around texting with you.

Matti_Jr · Answer

Because we're busy. A lot of guys don't have the time or desire to check their phone constantly.

sanguinnia · Answer

i just assume they are busy, it does not piss me off when they do that i like to think i respect their space

druciferre · Answer

Usually the only time I don't reply immediately is when I'm at work. However, I have the opposite problem of women not replying to me despite knowing they've replied to someone else, or been browsing Facebook.

Anoukkadijk · Answer

It's not just guys. It's everyone that is busy threw most of the day.

RoseRed7616 · Answer

He could be busy, tired or not know what to say. Who knows and the same applies to girls because we have so many things going on in our brains at once.

Mandolinist · Answer

I always reply super soon. Sometimes creepily soon. Like she'll send it at a random time in the day and it'll immediately say "read" and then the typing logo cuz I was just looking at her texts or something.

Shimy · Answer

Maybe because they're busy? I take quite some time to answer too because I'm busy doing something else

Anonymous · Answer

If anything for me it's the other way around, my guy is office based so is mostly available, I'm not so I rarely get to reply much from work except on breaks.

rico99 · Answer

Ummm... Most of the time i personal won't respond to text cause its so bullshit and a half (if you wanna communicate fucking wait and call me) but i sleep around 8-20 hours a day so if i dont text back its cause the question is not for me to answer or i am sleeping

Brometheous17 · Answer

most of the time for guys it's cuz were busy, whether it's super important like work or sometimes just hanging with friends, videos games or movies/shows there's times when a lot of us don't check our phones. for me it's mainly work cuz I can't text on the job

Kru2020 · Answer

I usually always have my phone on me. So you'll get a response within minutes unless i'm in class or at work. So yeah, its just the ones you're texting. It takes less than 10 seconds to respond so i don't really see an issue.

Wick_Ed · Answer

well to me there might be a couple of reasons, if a guy doesn't respond within a few minutes then the girl might not be that important to them, and next no service or they dont have their phone with them but more than likely its the first sorry girls y'all wanted to know

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