Lol @ you if you're at your phone 24/7. Sometimes I don't even go on my phone for weeks, or even keep it charged for that matter. Furthermore constant communication's boring, ruins the amount of topics to talk about IRL during meetups if you've been chatting all week.
Sadly, I take it not all girls are as smart as you are. The way I see it, we do it because it doesn't make us seem desperate.
Regardless, you needn't mind so much, because there's a legitimate chance they have an actual chance to attend to (and coming from someone who used to hate that "excuse"). Unless they're taking hours to reply, it can't be that bad.
I hate it when they take a long time to reply Iknow it may not mean they are not interested in us, they could be busy also at work or with other stuff but at least acknowledge that they are there, just with a tiny message it doe snot ahve to be a long text conversation, I dotn expect that but just a tiny thing that will do and no I dont like to play hard to get but Im aware we do it and sometimes it work.
Taking along time to reply to text is not a behavior unique to guys; we all do it. Sometimes it IS playing it cool (but girls do this just as often, if not more than guys), but more often than not they really are busy (work, class, etc) and can't reply right away.
They could be genuinely busy. But after 24 hours he's not interested. Whether he's busy or not he would let you know to put your mind at rest.
Had this with a guy I was seeing, then he ghosted me after 5 months when I decided he wasn't worth a timely reply. Lesson Is, don't invest your time and effort until he makes the effort.
“What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly"-Thomas Payne. Might as well ask why girls make you wait X number of dates before they sleep with you. Do they not know it pisses us off? Same principle-your wanting him to do so is hooking you in. Yeah its stupid and a game but that's also how it is. The other possible reason is much worse-he's just not that into you.
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It's actually happening right now as we speak. I'm waiting on a guy who messaged me on facebook but takes forever to respond. I am a first choice, that simple. I've only been talking to him for a few mins. If he keeps it up for like 10 more mins I'm out. I don't play that BS!
my boyfriend has certain breaks all his breaks his phone was off except hus last break it was on but he didn't answer got so pissed threw my phone 6times and punched it 3times everytime his voicemail came on and i was looking at his face, surprised my phone ain't broke, i got my moms bad temper tho.
Wow, get some lives please ^^^^or talk to people that want to talk to you. How naive can some people get? So into yourselves it sounds like. Maybe deal with people that dont treat you like crap, ever think about that?
In my case, I usually reply to SMS as soon as I am not busy especially if the girl that kind important for me, I like here, or I have a fair with here. Otherwise It is not necessary to reply to here SMS asap, it might takes longer than whole day and nigh to reply.
sometimes it's not playing hard to get. maybe they just don't check their phones as often as most girls do. it also takes quite a lot of time to maintain a conversation if they do reply, which won't work too well if they're busy. doesn't mean they don't wanna talk to you, sometimes it's just a lot easier and better to talk in person.
the fact that he even replies to you should make you happy. lol some guys won't even give you the time of day if they don't care about you. and men who actually don't have time to reply to you right away is because they busy making money, living the life or banging other women. Chill :P ya it does piss me off too but I do the same thing too. I even forget to reply hahahaha
It mayyyy be because there is other shit that happens in life off of the phone. I sometimes go hours without replying because I have spotty reception at work, or my phone died, or I don't have it with me, or I'm working on something, or I'm having a conversation with a friend, or I'm on a phone call, or-and this one is my favorite-I don't want to answer right that second.
Here's a fun inverse of your question: Why do some people feel like they're entitled to an immediate response?
The truth about it is that you don't text me like crazy. You can write what you want to say in a long text and point out your view or don't write at all or give a simple call when I ask you can and gently ask if can call me. Just a line. And don't tell me words by words like 100 text lines at a go when you can patiently write all one shot. So to make you a fool and will read and not reply because I don't want you to continue writing but some girls can be annoying they will keep writing even have hit to ask why are you ignoring me. OMG I will just block you
Tbh my friend who's a guy flat out said im "mowing the lawn" or he'll say he's using one or both hands to jerk off, therefore he's busy, I just say okay talk to me when you can or he'll talk to me instead but, tbh guys got shit to do i got shit to do therefore calm yourself make yourself busy and don't be so desperate😁
TBH I only don't reply if I'm driving or working. I can't carry my phone on me at work as I work in electronically sensitive areas or at extreme heights (a drop destroys your phone btw). As for taking too long right now I'm finding that to be on the girl end more often then not. I text people on Monday and am lucky if I see a reply by Friday. Guess I'm just not exciting lol.
Well boyfriend does it sometimes he will leave it there for 5 hours and he reads the text, it's annoying even when I told him I hate it he still does it, I have no problem if he takes long to reply but if he reads it and doesn't reply it pisses me off. I get it he has a life but its seems as if men love getting on our nerves.
My comment in no way suggests your comment. You seem to be under the impression that all guys always ignore texts with the specific intent of annoying you. I am suggesting that many of us read texts but are busy doing other, non-phone related things, such as manual labor, operating a computer, check stand or piece of equipment, taking inventory or other occupation-related tasks, and in the process, either forget you sent a text to begin with, or decide that replying to your text would prevent them from working, which could have poor reprocussions.
I can understand that, but you also have to remember that you aren't entitled to his time, or how he chooses to spend it. Now, we all wish that the people we care about would choose to spend their time with us, and we all feel a little hurt when they choose to do other things, but we can't force the people we care about to choose us over everything else. Personally, I think that if we could, it would only decrease the value of their time.
@kelseywilliams I think that he's only visiting the online dating site to piss you off because he want to bring out your dominant side so take charge of the situation demand him to do as you say ps. don't say I demand you.
Falls into the category of control. If you are working on building a romantic relationship with someone you will make time to communicate with them. No excuses. This "I'm busy" excuse is a cop out and will be interpreted as you just aren't interested or the behavior will continue with the receiver. I prefer actual talking to text but if me or my SO can't talk to each other immediately shooting a quick text takes less then a minute.
So I guess I just won't do my job, which means I won't have money, which means I can't pay when we go out and I can't buy you anything, and eventually, I can no longer support myself as an adult, I get evicted, lose my phone plan, so now we can't talk anyways, and I have to move in with my parents, and generally not contribute to society.
Well, I talked to one girl recently and she suggested me to write back with a little delay at least. If I write back immediately, it means I´m too available and the girl has to wait a little for the message, so she is happier when she finally gets it. This is how I was told, but should not always be the case. Sometimes we are really just busy.
It's because we're scared that we might say the wrong things I guarantee that from when he recieved your text to when you got a reply, he was furiously analyzing the wording of his text trying to make sure that the chances that his text doesn't end the relationship is greater or equal to the amount of anxiety he is experiencing about sending it
Honestly, I'm not sure how relevant this is, but I'm a girl and I often don't respond to friends' text messages for days... nothing against them, I just don't feel like sending a text
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Lol @ you if you're at your phone 24/7. Sometimes I don't even go on my phone for weeks, or even keep it charged for that matter. Furthermore constant communication's boring, ruins the amount of topics to talk about IRL during meetups if you've been chatting all week.
Sigh I meant replying once a day
they have a life outside of girls. it's not all about you all the time
Sadly, I take it not all girls are as smart as you are. The way I see it, we do it because it doesn't make us seem desperate.
Regardless, you needn't mind so much, because there's a legitimate chance they have an actual chance to attend to (and coming from someone who used to hate that "excuse"). Unless they're taking hours to reply, it can't be that bad.
meant they have an actual life to attend to, by the way
I hate it when they take a long time to reply Iknow it may not mean they are not interested in us, they could be busy also at work or with other stuff but at least acknowledge that they are there, just with a tiny message it doe snot ahve to be a long text conversation, I dotn expect that but just a tiny thing that will do and no I dont like to play hard to get but Im aware we do it and sometimes it work.
Taking along time to reply to text is not a behavior unique to guys; we all do it. Sometimes it IS playing it cool (but girls do this just as often, if not more than guys), but more often than not they really are busy (work, class, etc) and can't reply right away.
Thank God someone said it!!
They could be genuinely busy. But after 24 hours he's not interested. Whether he's busy or not he would let you know to put your mind at rest.
Had this with a guy I was seeing, then he ghosted me after 5 months when I decided he wasn't worth a timely reply. Lesson Is, don't invest your time and effort until he makes the effort.
“What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly"-Thomas Payne. Might as well ask why girls make you wait X number of dates before they sleep with you. Do they not know it pisses us off? Same principle-your wanting him to do so is hooking you in. Yeah its stupid and a game but that's also how it is. The other possible reason is much worse-he's just not that into you.
It's actually happening right now as we speak. I'm waiting on a guy who messaged me on facebook but takes forever to respond. I am a first choice, that simple. I've only been talking to him for a few mins. If he keeps it up for like 10 more mins I'm out. I don't play that BS!
my boyfriend has certain breaks all his breaks his phone was off except hus last break it was on but he didn't answer got so pissed threw my phone 6times and punched it 3times everytime his voicemail came on and i was looking at his face, surprised my phone ain't broke, i got my moms bad temper tho.
Wow, get some lives please ^^^^or talk to people that want to talk to you. How naive can some people get? So into yourselves it sounds like. Maybe deal with people that dont treat you like crap, ever think about that?
I've been with him for a year and 3months we live together our relationship started out as us being homeless together its an impossible bond to break
@kelseywilliams he may have been busy. If he is working they would explain it. I wouldn't stress about it ♡
That* would explain it, I meen :)
In my case, I usually reply to SMS as soon as I am not busy especially if the girl that kind important for me, I like here, or I have a fair with here. Otherwise It is not necessary to reply to here SMS asap, it might takes longer than whole day and nigh to reply.
sometimes it's not playing hard to get. maybe they just don't check their phones as often as most girls do. it also takes quite a lot of time to maintain a conversation if they do reply, which won't work too well if they're busy. doesn't mean they don't wanna talk to you, sometimes it's just a lot easier and better to talk in person.
the fact that he even replies to you should make you happy. lol some guys won't even give you the time of day if they don't care about you. and men who actually don't have time to reply to you right away is because they busy making money, living the life or banging other women. Chill :P ya it does piss me off too but I do the same thing too. I even forget to reply hahahaha
It mayyyy be because there is other shit that happens in life off of the phone. I sometimes go hours without replying because I have spotty reception at work, or my phone died, or I don't have it with me, or I'm working on something, or I'm having a conversation with a friend, or I'm on a phone call, or-and this one is my favorite-I don't want to answer right that second.
Here's a fun inverse of your question: Why do some people feel like they're entitled to an immediate response?
The truth about it is that you don't text me like crazy. You can write what you want to say in a long text and point out your view or don't write at all or give a simple call when I ask you can and gently ask if can call me. Just a line. And don't tell me words by words like 100 text lines at a go when you can patiently write all one shot. So to make you a fool and will read and not reply because I don't want you to continue writing but some girls can be annoying they will keep writing even have hit to ask why are you ignoring me. OMG I will just block you
Tbh my friend who's a guy flat out said im "mowing the lawn" or he'll say he's using one or both hands to jerk off, therefore he's busy, I just say okay talk to me when you can or he'll talk to me instead but, tbh guys got shit to do i got shit to do therefore calm yourself make yourself busy and don't be so desperate😁
Hahaha. Shut up
TBH I only don't reply if I'm driving or working. I can't carry my phone on me at work as I work in electronically sensitive areas or at extreme heights (a drop destroys your phone btw). As for taking too long right now I'm finding that to be on the girl end more often then not. I text people on Monday and am lucky if I see a reply by Friday. Guess I'm just not exciting lol.
Well boyfriend does it sometimes he will leave it there for 5 hours and he reads the text, it's annoying even when I told him I hate it he still does it, I have no problem if he takes long to reply but if he reads it and doesn't reply it pisses me off. I get it he has a life but its seems as if men love getting on our nerves.
Maybe it's because he's doing something important, like his job, and is planning to respond when he can later...
exactly thats what i think they love getting on our nerves it drives me nuts
My comment in no way suggests your comment. You seem to be under the impression that all guys always ignore texts with the specific intent of annoying you. I am suggesting that many of us read texts but are busy doing other, non-phone related things, such as manual labor, operating a computer, check stand or piece of equipment, taking inventory or other occupation-related tasks, and in the process, either forget you sent a text to begin with, or decide that replying to your text would prevent them from working, which could have poor reprocussions.
i was actually trying to reply to carly99. well it seems like it 99.9% of the time and my boyfriend is on his phone 24/7 so its kinda annoying
and i kno exactly wen his breaks are and he bitches about me not calling him on his breaks wen i dont
I can understand that, but you also have to remember that you aren't entitled to his time, or how he chooses to spend it. Now, we all wish that the people we care about would choose to spend their time with us, and we all feel a little hurt when they choose to do other things, but we can't force the people we care about to choose us over everything else. Personally, I think that if we could, it would only decrease the value of their time.
yea he spends more time on an online dating site looking for people to do a 3sum with me and him instead of with me yea it can get a little annoying
Well that's just an unfortunate situation, and for that I have no response other than to give you my sympathies.
yea it sucks he said he wants me to b more dominant, so does that mean he wants me to grab his phone and stick it up his arse?
ummm... I lack the qualifications to answer that question.
lol that was only for laughs and giggles i kno what he meant by it
It's all shits and giggles until somebody giggles and shits.
then its hilarious
@kelseywilliams I think that he's only visiting the online dating site to piss you off because he want to bring out your dominant side so take charge of the situation demand him to do as you say ps. don't say I demand you.
Falls into the category of control. If you are working on building a romantic relationship with someone you will make time to communicate with them. No excuses. This "I'm busy" excuse is a cop out and will be interpreted as you just aren't interested or the behavior will continue with the receiver. I prefer actual talking to text but if me or my SO can't talk to each other immediately shooting a quick text takes less then a minute.
So I guess I just won't do my job, which means I won't have money, which means I can't pay when we go out and I can't buy you anything, and eventually, I can no longer support myself as an adult, I get evicted, lose my phone plan, so now we can't talk anyways, and I have to move in with my parents, and generally not contribute to society.
Well, I talked to one girl recently and she suggested me to write back with a little delay at least. If I write back immediately, it means I´m too available and the girl has to wait a little for the message, so she is happier when she finally gets it. This is how I was told, but should not always be the case. Sometimes we are really just busy.
It's because we're scared that we might say the wrong things
I guarantee that from when he recieved your text to when you got a reply, he was furiously analyzing the wording of his text trying to make sure that the chances that his text doesn't end the relationship is greater or equal to the amount of anxiety he is experiencing about sending it
Honestly, I'm not sure how relevant this is, but I'm a girl and I often don't respond to friends' text messages for days... nothing against them, I just don't feel like sending a text
trust me I know how you feel. your friends get upset because you didn't respond which upsets you because they just don't understand, sigh😒