Am I just another option to her?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been kinda seeing/kissing this shyish girl for about a month now. We first kissed back in March and a couple of awkward months followed where neither of us understood how each other felt. Presently, I feel like I’m stuck in a bit of a situation. We’ve kissed on several worked nights out and have chatted lots about our situation, but I’m still confused. I asked her out about a month a bit ago out of the blue and she declined stating that she was only out of a thing (which she was), but I seen her on tinder and that pissed me off.
Two weeks later we were out with a mutual friend, she went home and we kissed and talked and she said she felt bad for “rejecting” me but claimed that I believed she was easy, which obviously isn't true.
It happended twice more but last week was different. She called me late last week Friday and asked if we could meet up in town which we did. She said that we have a connection but was still so stubborn in relation to saying what she wants. Is she being sincere or am I an easy target to give her attention?

I feel like she wants me to make a move now in terms of asking her out, but after being “rejected” the last time and her claiming that she only wants casual has totally put me off.

[MzAsh]

A woman always has others options no matter what you do or don’t do, let’s just get that fact out of the way. But her other options have nothing to do with you. You either be the best option or not. To me it’s seems you’re trying to play it safe and that will cost you. You’re going to have to take a risk if you like this girl. If you don’t like her that much then it might you be that’s trying to fish for attention.

[Asker]

I understand that, but didn’t I already take a risk by asking her out? She knows how I feel and if I were to ask her out again I’d look extremely desperate and she’d know that she has me by the nuts. We’ve started to talk a lot in work with her her starting convos, which didn’t really happen before, so maybe she’s dropping hints? Although, she still acts awkward too as if to avoid me, but maybe that’s another hint that she likes me an is rather nervous? I really don’t know.

[MzAsh]

Your ego is getting in the way. If you like her and she’s not your girlfriend yet, it’s up to you to pursue that. Quit worrying about how his will make you “look.”

[LazerBean]

I don't know, all I can say is that is why you don't get attached or kiss people who won't even define what they are wanting from you.

[Iron_Man]

She doesn’t seem very serious is this girl really worth it to you

[Amelie28]

I think she doesn’t know what she wants at present. If I was you I wouldn’t go there. Spare yourself from getting too invested. As you will likely only get hurt.

[Guy13]

Yippeeee!! You have a work Wifey !!!