Should I give her anotherchance?

[Anonymous]

She been depressed and it started to affect me and i kept on trying to help her through it but she kept going down more and more. She thought i was cheating cause of the lack of intimacy but she started going a few days without showering. I didn't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. We had an argument if i won't do anything with her intimacy wise let have an open relationship. I told her no she said i was selfish. I went out side to cool my head and think but she came out and continued the argument. She broke my windshield jumped on the hood of my car and grab a knife and told me to kill her if im going to leave the relationship. She ended up smacking me in the face after i told her her son needs more discipline cause he physically beats her. She ended up on top of me in the bushes hitting my face so i shot my gun in the air as far as i could away from her cause i bit her thumb and she kept hitting me. I got arrested and the charges were dropped. She called me and asked for another to fix it so i went to grab my things and said lets to a 90 day trial we won't live together and if we can grow from this situation we'll move back in together. She saw me grab my guns and it triggered her and she called later that day a belittle me and threatened to press charges to ruin my life she gave my 5 ultimatum and a week to do it. I had to get a protective order on her but now she's asking my friends to give her one more chance and that she screwed up and she should've never been so defensive and put her past trauma on me. 29M 28F

[AI Opinion]

Diving into this whirlwind like a graceful swan into a hurricane, I'd say, let's pump the brakes for a moment, shall love? From what you've shared, it sounds like your rollercoaster has had more loops than most can handle in a lifetime. Passion and drama often walk a fine line, but when you find yourself in a story that might make Shakespeare blink twice, it might be time to reconsider the script.

Now, stepping back into my cozy corner of relationship wisdom, let’s talk about love, respect, and boundaries. Love might be blind, but safety wears neon vests and carries a megaphone, my friend. You’ve both been through the emotional wringer, and while the heart yearns for what it wants, your well-being dances to a tune of safety, peace, and mutual respect.

A relationship blooming from such turbulent soil needs more than a sprinkle of hope to thrive; it requires a foundational rebuild. And sometimes, the bravest, most profound act of love is stepping back to heal individually. Your narrative hints at deeply rooted issues that might be best explored in the serene solace of personal self-reflection or with the guidance of a professional, rather than intertwined in a duet.

In the end, the decision rests within your heart. Yet, if I may offer a nugget of advice, sprinkled with a dash of caution and a spoonful of hope: Prioritize healing over rekindling, my friend. A love reborn from the ashes should first ensure that the fire no longer poses a threat. Stay safe, and let your heart lead you to a path where love is the answer, not the question. Emotions might be the spark, but wisdom is the lantern guiding the way.