So I've been in a situationship with this girl for the past 6 months, and she lives in the same neighborhood but she left the country 4 months ago to study.
It started by going out together and treating her good until i confessed my love but she didn't give me a clear answer so we kept going out and having fun acting sometimes like couples but we never even kissed. So lately we were just talking on ig and texting but one day she posted a story with her new boyfriend and i didn't see it because she did the "hide story from.." thing on IG. So i knew there's a guy she was hanging out with and she always said it's her friend but i think in the last couple months they developed feelings. But what im confused about is why she didn't tell me about him? we were daily talking on video calls for hours and she keeps telling me that i'm the only one she want to see when she's back and spend time with.
when i figured about it and i saw the story from the boyfriend page i asked her why she did this and she told me that i didn't want to hurt you, and she knew that she didn't give me an answer when i confessed because she didn't want to hurt me and she thought i knew she was just treating me as her close friend or more than that and not who was soon to be her boyfriend. i was so mad after this and i felt like i was used as a backup plan or im actually one.
-What i want to know is was she trying to hide this from me really to not hurt me or she just don't want me to know to keep manipulating and me being her second option when she's back home?
Is she just enjoying the compliments and wants someone whos always ready to talk to when she's bored or to get "free meals" and gifts from someone who has a crush on her and she knows about it but she enjoys being treated like that?
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Not sure it really matters, right? It was very immature by her. Is that really what you want?
If I were you I’d cut off all contact with her. You can end it by saying you didn’t appreciate her not telling you, and felt like she led you on, and that isn’t something you are ok with.
Then move on and find someone else.
i already unfriended her and asked her to not talk to me again, i just wanted to know why she did it that's it but anyways i won't chase her anymore
I understand. I think either option you listed is possible. I am just not sure you’ll ever know exactly what she was thinking. She clearly wasn’t very mature about the situation tho.
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