Why are women especially in. media pushing men to be vulnerable when they are never attracted to men in touch with their emotions?

[Anonymous]

[rip999]

5 years? Nah bro you can't blame women you must be doing something wrong. You're good at talking to girls. From the beginning do you show interest on being more than just friends? Do you flirt? Where are you finding these girls? How do you dress? Are you always clean cut? What's your weight and height? Are you maybe being too nice? (Yes I know it's dumb but it's a thing and a whole other conversation)

[Asker]

Been called too nice by women before.

I try to flirt in the beginning.
Where i find the women differs.
From clubs to the internet.

I mostly dress casual

Im 174cm wich is quite long above most Girls length but Just below average men length

I weigh a healthy 62kg and im building it up to a healthy 70 with muscles

The Girls are always shorters than me sometimes even a bit chubby.

I always trim my beard , and been going to an actual barber for the last 2 years. need to go next week again.

But sometimes i don't start flirting until im sure she is worth it in my eyes.
I don't want to select on appearance anymore since the first girl cheated on me and Just broke me in half that's why i don't allways flirt right away. But try to do flirting a lot before i try to ask for a date

[rip999]

The reason it's bad being too nice is because you can be looked at as an ass kisser. Think about it like this. When a homeless man approach you what's your first thoughts? "Awww man this dude wants something from me" so if you look/act like an ass kisser that's girls first thoughts in my opinion lol Looks like body wise you got it under control. in my opinion I'd flirt more. If the girl doesn't flirt back go next. No feelings hurt no time wasted. You need to pay attention to how you flirt and where the conversations go. You ever heard "step your game up"? It's a thing and you need to improve it. Also, do you put girls on a pedestal? When you do that you act different around women. Put yourself in the pedestal. What can these girls do for you? After that you don't have to prove nothing to them it's the girls that have to prove to you.

[Asker]

Yeah i been doing the pedestal mistake. Not a lot of Girls talk to me in the first place so I try to make them feel as comfortable as possible around me when they do.

Thats probably where i fail. This was the last girl i ever did that too tho. Im not even looking around anymore. Im Just going to focus on the gym.

Its the 4th day since i asked her to leave me alone cause i need my space yesterday she snapped me 2 times pretty useless.

A day after she unfollowed me on insta. today she checked the. snap story i. made. yesterday.

So she does intent to get back in my life. But im not answering these attention attempts

[rip999]

Girls keep men around for attention too. The second they lose that attention they lose it (ego boost and when you take the attention away they crumble LOL) see, don't make them feel comfortable. Make them feel uncomfortable. Let them feel intimidated by you. once again, make them have to prove themselves to you. You're not responsible for other people's feelings. Only your own. If they feel uncomfortable they can always walk away. When you put yourself on the pedestal you show confidence and girls love that. Now that you found a flaw you can fix that. Find other flaws and correct them. Never blame people because you will never improve with that mentality. For example if a guy is being a dick head sure that's not your fault but it is your fault if he continues to be a dickhead. If you stand up for yourself he will stop. A girl cheated on you? Your fault. Should of seen the red flags. Your girl is toxic? Ur fault for continuing to be in that relationship.

[Asker]

Yep , i am not letting myself be kept around for attention anymore

[Asker]

I was big fan of eminems alter ego slim shady when i got the Girls. So lets get back in the game and only care about a girl from now on after i have had her in my bed. And not a second earlier

[Anonymous]

Damn, men on here are so clueless about women. ☹️

[rip999]

Explain. Id like to hear your opinion of this. :)

[Asker]

Yes explain, cause women allways complain men aren't emotionally open enough but as soon as they meet one that is they are never attracted to them.

So how does that work, lady🤔

[rip999]

Alright bro calm down. Who hurt you? All girls aren't the same. Some girls want a sweat heart while other girls "daddy issues" wants a dick head.

[Asker]

Who hurt me, women by always saying the first. And doing the second.

I need answers

[rip999]

You're saying "women" like all girls are the same bro. Now, if you're talking from personal experience from multiple women maybe you're too sensitive? Too emotional? I don't know know the story so tell if you want

[Asker]

Until now i haven't found an exception. So thats why the question

[rip999]

How many girls? Remember that nothing in this life is easy. You need to find the needle in the haystack. If everything was easy nothing would get appreciated. Also, I ask how many girls because you can only blame others so many times until you need to evaluate yourself and see that maybe you're the problem. Like, how in touch are you with your emotions? Are you overwhelming emotional?

[Asker]

Lets Just say women want to be around me but they don't want me in their pants for the last 5 years. They like to talk to me , cause i actually listen to them. But the more i have that with any girl the less sexual attraction there is on her side. When on my side it actually grows because of that. I been told too stay in the friendzone 5 times in a row now

Before that i had a girlfriend but as soon as the love matured she dumped me trying to get me back in the friendzone same with the one after her.

I been raised with 8 women around me. So listening to women is natural to me.

Offcourse the times I agreed to stay in the friendzone because actually cared more bout them then Just wanting sex it went too shit when they complained about the guys they wanted to date and sometimes even complained they wanted a guy like me. I Just wasn't an option.

This time i decided to walk away before it can happen. I told her if she can't be more then a buddy for me im not gonna sit around watching her date other men.

[rip999]

One more thing I need to mention. Have girls that are friends. ONLY FRIENDS. girls are always in competition with eachother. Always trying to win. At one point I had a bunch of female friends at my last job and a bunch of girls were jumping at me. It's a thing 🤷 they thought I was some player and just wanted a piece of the cake.

[Asker]

Yeah when i had my first girlfriend i had about 5 other girls i talked a lot too in my Phone ass well they were all about the same level of hotness. some of those i haven't talked to in years but still check my snap stories

[Asker]

I Just snapped that one thst i haven't talked to in 3 years but thst still checks my stories Just to see what happens

[rip999]

See... to your ex you were the reward. She won. All these girls and you chose her. You're getting it 😂

[Asker]

Sadly i chose wrong cause i chose the slut.

[rip999]

Needle in a haystack my friend. Once you find a good one you will be able to appreciate it a lot more. A lot more since you know how much trash is on this earth. Nothing in this world comes easy. You keep on soul searching. She's looking for you too.

[Asker]

I Just realised where my game went. Someday i started caring about what i said to Girls and how many Girls i said it too. But when i still got some i was always juggling around with at least 3 Girls. Saying the same shit to all of them and they confessed feelings for me instead of other way around.

Maybe i can get my game back.

[Asker]

I weighed 10 kilo's lighter, so very unhealthy and i didn't even comb my hair , trim. my beard or care about my looks. Im a far better prize now but i got them fighting over me when i wasn't a prize at all

[Asker]

Thanks @rip999 i needed to realise that i was doing the right thing before