Why are women insensitive to male feelings?

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Lost_in_the_Woods · Accepted Answer

Most people are insensitive to everyone else's feelings.

That's just how people are. It's about what makes them feel good, sometimes being nice to others makes them feel good, but if your feelings get in the way of someone else's happiness or sell constructed idea that they are a good person, 9/10 will shit on you and tell themselves it's because you deserve it.

It's not intentional. People just thrive off of their own happiness so, if you aren't a positive for that you must be one of the bad guys so, it doesn't matter how you feel.

Women usually have more compassion than men, but at the same time they are emotionally driven. That's why if a man's says it hurt his feeling that a lady was mean to him, and she feels bad, she is far more likely to go right to "he deserved it"

Its kind of ironic, but not giving a shit about others helps people feel good about themselves and not feel guilty. Most people will write off anyone they hurt as bad or insignificant to avoid the guilt. That's how the world has always been and always will be.

Don't expect anyone else to care about how you feel unless there is something in it for them. Women know guys are easy to come by so, if you mention that they hurt your feelings they are more likely to just keep walking.

Guys care more about logistics than feelings, but we are more logical so if we hurt someone we are more likely to think we made a mistake. Also, girls can more easily just find someone else so, we are more likely to be motivated to care and try to fix it.

justlookin69 · Accepted Answer

Yes ladies, we do have feelings and although we’re taught to “be a man” about how we show our feelings, we still process those emotions quietly in back of our heads… well, at least most of us do. With this new movement going on; this “strong woman” attitude, “i don’t need a man” mentality; and in some case, women lying or exaggerating a situation, from what I’ve seen and heard from other guys, is why so many men have gone #MGTOW and #RedPill, (to protect themselves) for this very reason. Not saying there aren’t jerks out there that won’t violate, but the majority of men isn’t like that. Some women make it hard just to say “Hi” or even ask out on dates. And NOW, from my lady friends anecdotal experiences and hearing from other women on YouTube, and at work, they mostly complain about is how men won’t approach them now, or won’t pay for the bill on first dates, and/or the biggest one of all, they won’t commit.
Because of these “insensitive” attitudes and lies, more men are pulling away from the modern woman to hold out for a more “traditional” woman, if any exist still. So, ladies, you call it being insensitive to a man if you/she doesn’t acknowledge his sentiments and hear what he has to say, but real talk!!! Men see it as being disrespectful and that’s not something men want to deal with. The back talk, the nagging, and the masculine energy from women. It’s just a hard “No”. Again, this is just my opinion

hi_it_is_me123 · Accepted Answer

In my experience men on gag are more insensitive to male feelings. I have seen them trashtalking gay, transwomen, feminine men, men who respect women. Men also get cuckshamed for not dating virgins or women with low bodycount by men. Men also get shamed on and dont get serious for being raped by the society. Whenever i told my former guy friends that men get raped by women too, they did not take me serious, laugh at me and told me i can rape them 🙄
HOWEVER, this is anecdotal. So i dont know all men or women. So you may be right but you dont know the whole female population. However, I am sorry as a woman if you had bad experiences with women

v666_ · Accepted Answer

I think there is a stigma surrounding male feelings in general. For a long time society has had this way of regarding male feelings as inferior, "Joe's being a pussy", "Kevin is crying like a bitch again", "What's that Kyle, you got your period?" Etc etc. I feel like this has an effect on people knowing how to deal with emotions. So if a woman comes off as insensitive, there is a chance she is not sure how to handle it leading her to respond inappropriately. Some women are actually just insensitive, but not all.

ToastyOats · Answer

A complex issue for sure.
Feelings are universally seen as a sign of weakness. When in leadership roles women understand this and will always put on a hardened facade, just like men do in such roles.
The strange contradiction is how many women will try to use perceived weakness to bait men in conflicts when they are in everyway equal. Using this tactic against men who are engaging with them openly and honestly. I have experienced this double standard of me expressing my feelings being frowned on and for her, being totally legitimate.
It can be especially frustrating as women will at once outwardly seeking equality in gender roles but when any deviation on the mans part suits there goals in a relationship they will use it to put him down. You see this a lot from liberals who will mock conservatives for being gay like its an insult and conversely many openly white nationalists will try to "play gotcha" by calling out leftists for racism or fascism.
I really think what's happening, and men are guilty of this as well, is that the world is FULL of people who are not brave enough to be intellectually honest with themselves and others; while still seeking to use consistency as a moral principle in debate.
Its hard to blame people when the whole society is largely untrusting. Many do not have a true inner circle of friends OR family having been betrayed by those closest to them. The best you can do is try to mutually draw closer and build trust with your partner. If they are, for some reason are unable to, enter into that level of trust; just let them know that it is a dealbreaker for you or just accept that that level of intimacy is not going to part of your relationship. Tough but true.

CMeow · Answer

I don't think we are. However it depends on the man. If you are a man who doesn't listen to or respect the woman's emotions, then she will return the same consideration to you.

Second to that, some men can have "irrational" feelings the same as women can, and may act out in negative ways as a result of them. If your feelings appear to be unwarranted, and are causing you to treat her poorly, she is not going to feel sympathetic. She will be resentful.

Lastly, some women can be selfish and self centered. The same goes for some men.

Notanotherpurdyface · Answer

While some women may be insensitive it’s definitely not all. I actually think many women would welcome it if men talked about emotions and feelings more often. Society in the past has dictated that in order for a man to be “manly” they should rarely show emotion. While some of that antiquated notion remains today, I think it’s more accepted and encouraged that men show emotion and discuss feelings. I think it’s important that boys are taught and men are encouraged that it’s ok to cry, it’s ok to have strong feelings and to express them and talk about them. After all we are all human regardless of gender and emotion is part of being human, showing emotion does not equate to weakness.
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TruthBringer · Answer

Of course not all women are like that. However, what women don't want to acknowledge is that they are consciously or unconsciously dismissive on a man's feelings. Whenever a man shows sensitivity or vurlnability, he risks getting ridiculed or turning her off. Of course the comments is filled with women claiming they do care. But if there is 1 thing we men have learned over the years is that often what a woman says and what she does aren't always in line.

Also, many women happen to be insensitive of a man's feelings because it debunks their misandrist views on men (often feminists) or those who aren't feminists don't want to acknowledge that men have feelings. Because it would absolve them of the excuse of playing victim and they would not be able to demonize men for what they did to them.

Anonymous · Answer

Women only want you to show emotions when they deem it appropriate, only the emotions they deem appropriate, and only in the amount they deem appropriate.

Scenario: you and your girl are at a club and some guy approaches and hits on her. If she wants to cheat on you with him, she won't want you to get jealous. If she's not attracted to him, she'll want you to get aggressive and run him off. If you get jealous about the guy she wants to sleep with, you'll be shamed for overreacting and feeling "threatened". If you don't get jealous about the ugly guy, she'll call you uncaring and unattentive. It's all about what she wants.

Stop basing ANYTHING on what women want. Just be men, and be good at it.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Are they though? Or is it society that taught "Real men don't cry" and other men that say that to men more than women do...
Yes, there's some females that act like any man that shows any emotions isn't manly, but that is certainly not true for "all" women..
And also, it's harder to do so, of men don't feel they can share/express their emotions/feelings... Women aren't mind readers any more than men are... If you want someone to care about your feelings, you have to show them/express them🤷

Novacane · Answer

I think it has to do with how we view the opposite gender, women naturally want a man that is more dominant than submissive. So it's not that they are insensitive about male feelings it's just that they also carry the notion that men are supposed to be strong and hide their feelings. So when they see a man being vulnerable and showing emotion they tend to see that as a feminine tendency and then leads to them not respecting you as a man anymore. This is from MY personal experience, but I have seen many women claim that they want a man to be more in touch with their feelings and when given that option they are turned off and they usually end up picking a guy that is more dominant and shows fewer feelings.

ChiTown33 · Answer

It only seems like that because of the way women think. Women generally are more sensitive even to men. But but their sensitivity comes off as pity. Something they don't get that guys don't like ( well generally any guy who can call himself a MAN). Guys generally just want an acknowledgment of the s*** we go through from time to time (as all human beings do). Women can be weak it's acceptable. For a guy it is not! Women don't get this. They just know their programming.
It their minds you're either man and you can rub some dirt on whatever you're dealing with or you're a boy.

And women aren't changing man. So while I get what you're saying. You need to learn to just accept this fact man.

backblueblack22 · Answer

Women want to date a man who is (much) more emotionally stable than herself. She needs that strength and security. Then they friendzone guys who are more like them. They “say” they like sensitive men but what they really like is that emotional men make them feel better about their own emotional problems. Their true motives are actually really selfish and shitty on that.

Even guys who are semi emotional (not as bad as them) are in danger of being friendzoned if they are not as steady as what the woman’s high expectations are.

Now what I’ve said above is very cynical and a generalization. There are a minority of women out there who “get it” but they are the exception not the rule.

But I just wish women would STOP telling men it’s okay to be sensitive when it’s the ugly truth it’s not.

TrueConfection · Answer

Some of us are sensitive and care deeply about men's feelings.

Men have the ability to approach problems with logical thinking while not adding their emotions to the mix which may be why some women don't notice a man's emotions.

in my opinion

bamesjond0069 · Answer

If you mean crying its because men who cry are disgusting to women. They like men not crybaby little boys.

If you mean actual masculine feelings its because even the most mature women are somewhat immature and self centered.

This is life. Just learn to thrive independent of women validating your feelings.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because (for the most part) they've never had anyone teach them to take our feelings into consideration. Every time I hear the expression "emotional labor" to describe listening to a man open up about his feelings to a woman, I honest just want to throw up.

It is SOOOOOOOOO self righteous.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Never noticed this.

I have depression and PTSD, which pretty makes me a pain to live with lol.

however in marriage and relationships, even one night stands, I have had loads of support and definitely sensitivity to me as an individual.

For you, bad luck, culture maybe, you 3rd world type country? That can play a part I think.

jackderby_01 · Answer

Cuz a girl doesn't want to be her boyfriend's mom. From a long time gender roles have been like that. Both have a logical and emotional side, but in general men are more logical and women more emotional. It is just because of simple biology. Also emotions can affect your perfomance if you let it. That's why we see athletes coolen up before a match as much as possible. You don't want to have emotions to influence you so that you can be fully focused on your goal.

sage2021 · Answer

Not ALL women are insensitive to a guy's feelings. We are both sensitive when it comes to not hurt each other's feelings. We are both sensitive and get our feelings hurt easily. So, we watch how we word things so as not to hurt feelings. How can you group ALL women are like that. Better said SOME women. We aren't all alike ya know.

Anonymous · Answer

We aren’t insensitive, we’re just not very bright sometimes. It’s hard to pick up on male social cues since men are socialized to be emotionally stunted. The first time one of my male friends cried in front of me, I didn’t know what to do so I farted really loudly to try to cheer him up. He kinda laugh-cried and then went back to full on crying. I felt like a dumbass

cth96190 · Answer

Because women see us as support drones, who can be discarded when we break, or a better deal comes along.
If a female cared, she would be unable to monkey branch to the better deal.
Most women despise us. They pretend to like us only so long as we are useful.

annyasansiri · Answer

thats not true. women like men, can be insensitive to many things. so it really depends on the person. is that woman/man someone insensitive normally? maybe the two have history, making person a not liking person b, resulting in being insensitive... just be aware of what youve done, right or wrong, who did you wrong, and is that the actual reason the woman became insensitive to you? or that woman is just nasty. then dont think twice. just dump her. lifes short

dustybiker · Answer

This is going to be personal to the individual not gender. The way we react to others is more about maturity and respect we have for others. Some have it, some will get it through life experience, others are so thick-headed it’s doubtful they ever will. If people around you can’t accept you for who you are it’s healthy to step back from them.

Coulis · Answer

We've been conditioned that men should not have over emotions. So both men and women have to unlearn these toxic ideas.

Kaamraj · Answer

I feel that women cannot understand men's emotions. And for them an ideal man is one who either has no emotions or has them under control. A man expressing his emotions or being overwhelmed by them is huge turn off. These days women want men who already have it all figured out, they are literally after the top 1-5% of men.

Anonymous · Answer

umm I think men are insensitive to each others feelings... men always cry for women and women always defend men's emotions while men deny they have feelings to be "manly" if anything we call that toxic masculinity and women promote that men share their emotions... you got it twisted

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

This is a comment I hear too often by women:
"I want a man not a boy"

Women expect men to the be the leader who never gets hurt or upset. This is so they themselves can be the ones to get upset and cry complain. Not a lot of women think men have feelings. They test it out to their own detriment.

Minamikun · Answer

Because it's literally a culture that men can't express much feelings, and this culture has been implanted since Ancient Greek era and still apply to nowadays

When a woman says "I like sensitive men", it's probably a lie because all that she wants is a man that know her feelings and know how to help her

No one likes sensitive men

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's a conservative/ traditional social and cultural belief. A certain segment of the female population, due to the way they were raised, hold certain expectations in their mind for what a man should be. And "sensitive" is not included in that list of "macho" qualities. So they don't want to hear about your feelings. They have no interest in any man who is "weak."

Sarahr123 · Answer

Who is? I’m not. All the women in my family are misogynistic and hate women and totally dismiss female feelings. Men are treated as kings and all their physical and emotional needs are tended to. Girls have to bear the brunt of everything.

YESIMFUNNY · Answer

I'm nice if you're nice! I usually only get all mean if men are pushy after I told them, no, or they're just being rude. If they do stuff like that I couldn't care less about their feelings. Same with every gender!

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I'm not, men are human to. They have emotions as well. In my opinion it's good for everyone to get out emotions in healthy constructive way

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Depends on the situation. A woman won't be insensitive if something horrible happened to a man, but if a man is moaning and whining because he lost his job or his favorite team lost a silly game and he whines about it then women don't find that attractive in a man.

Women are attracted to men who are strong both physically and mentally, not a little cry baby.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Just like men, some are kind, some are not. And some take it out on the innocent, because they feel they have been wronged by the other gender. It's retribution by proxy.

Reyow · Answer

Eh id say its more the new wave of feminists or as i call them feminazis. There was alway a stigma around men having feelings but with how the media and shit has exploded and some how come to the conclusion that is one man dose something bad it is some how all of our faults has made it worse and we are actively put down on social media for having dissenting opinions

Titanya · Answer

Don't generalize I'm not insensitive to male feelings They are humans too

Rachelspiks · Answer

I'm not. You shouldn't generalise like this. We're not all the same you know.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

I'm too sensitive to people in general, and it's gotten me into sticky situations with men because I dont want to hurt them. That's about to change though.

kc_4308 · Answer

No I like an expressive man that expresses his emotions and feelings

Asianguy123 · Answer

They usually bug their wife to accept them acting like a child or baby. I mean they are man but then they turn into a baby after they get married. I think it's unfair sometimes that they turn into something that they are not showing before their marriage. If they can't be a man, the wife should divorce him.

Slartybartfast · Answer

It's part of our culture for men to be stoic.  Like they say, if you want a girl to be your friend, tell her how you feel. If you want a girlfriend don't.

askandgiveAnswers · Answer

Media and schools don’t teach relationship classes, neither does news to broadcast information of this. Instead people learn from others. That is not always helpful. Sometimes it can be. Healthy relationship understanding.

Ronald_25 · Answer

Yes, usually, most of them prefer their men to be tough emotionally, while men are usually more sensitive if women are emotional, which is an inequality in itself.

Jfranco12 · Answer

Because they find it weak and are repulsed by it no matter what they say.

Ayanna240 · Answer

On GAG, it’s men who are the most insensitive to women’s feelings. This is a website entirely run my misogynists who love shitting on women.

Juxtapose · Answer

Because weakness is not attractive. Be real.. doesn't it kill your attraction when a woman is a downer to be with?

Anonymous · Answer

We care a lot but you don’t show your feelings to us. If a man wants to show me his feelings, i can listen to him and try to help him. I think it will be great for both of us.

Massageman · Answer

They just think we don't HAVE any.  They just need to learn how to open our "feelings" box. Mark Gungor, "Tale of Two Brains" gives the answers in about 8 minutes.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they want MEN that they can count on in tough times. Not a crying in-touch-with-his-feelings pussy.

MrJMM · Answer

Society told people that men need to be strong and emotionless for their women. If I had a time machine I would hit those fuckers that made that ridiculous thing because let's be clear they made the mess that we have today.

slatyb · Answer

My wife is exquisitely sensitive to my feelings. What happened to you?

Anonymous · Answer

I would say I’m a HSP and all my previous gfs would invalidate my feelings and make me feel usually worse than I was, except my current girlfriend, which made me understand my own feelings more and not be ashamed of it. I don’t remember the time I felt bad around her and we’ve been dating for a whole year. She’s my whole world and a rare fucking gem, so to answer your question not every girl is like that but vast majority is because they’re brainwashed

007kingifrit · Answer

because they keep trying to treat us as if we were women. not understanding we aren't the same and don't have female emotions. men and women are different

Nazgol · Answer

I'm not. I welcome it and appreciate it. If a guy needs a warm hug and a crying shoulder I'd offer

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because they can be. Seriously, simp nation will forgive and enable any bad behaviour by women.

grega239 · Answer

Probably because they weren't raised to give it any consideration, unlike men who get bombarded with how much they should care about women.

Browneye57 · Answer

They look for you to be their emotional rock. Not some cry-baby whiner. Buck it up little pony.

genericname85 · Answer

I guess cause their empathy only works for children.

S3ntnl · Answer

The women who are sensitive to male feelings tend to be manipulators. They use guys. Simply, they're players.

Anonymous · Answer

No you're wrong and you know it. Men are the ones insensitive to their own feelings and feelings amongst themselves and other people's.

NightHawk99 · Answer

The modern generation demonizes men. Props to the women who see through that fuckery.

Somegirl408 · Answer

why are men insensitive to womens feelings?

Anonymous · Answer

Because men shouldn't have them and the women are trained on this expectation during their formative years

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I say it’s about the same as men being insensitive to female feelings

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