Why do most females’ treat men like we don’t have feelings?

[Finchie40]

Basically her way or no way

[WhereIsMyMind]

Because some women are selfish bitches that only care about their own personal gain, so they just use men to get what they want. A man's feelings are the last thing they care about because if they did, they wouldn't get to obtain things from them such as attention, sex, money, etc.

Men do it too, it's not just a 'female' thing.

[Finchie40]

Yes I agree , so many selfish people out there that only truly care about themselves , that want their cal and want to eat it to , why I no longer give my heart completely to a girl right away , I been burned to many times , so I have walls up around my heart protecting myself from being backstabbed and betrayed. I still treat a girl the same way I want to be treated in return but it usually only lasts the short haul these days. Once she gets bored she usually disappears , so basically thanks for a good time but not a long time

[chrissykerdock]

i think there's serious narcissistic things going on... for both genders... your a man so you'll see it from the man's side... i'm a woman i see it from a woman's perspective... often i feel like a device instead of a human being

[Finchie40]

Yea narcissism seems to be a common thing these days , it mainly stems down from selfish behaviors is how I see things , People only wanting what is best for themselves but don’t consider their partners’ feelings , basically my way or no way. So until I meet a girl that c’s things like I see things , my ass is staying single and living my selfish life because I am perfectly capable of supporting myself , Like I said I don’t want any misery in my life , just happiness , I will settle for someone that wants me like I want them , other than that , thanks for a good time but not a long time

[bededazzle]

i get what you mean but be careful about this belief. it could have something to do with your attraction pattern. otherwise, girls are raised differently. they may have their pick of the litter and don’t have to play by the same rules. but keep an eye open for kind women. there are a lot of them.

[NathanDavis]

you and I... have had completely different life experiences

it goes both ways... you either connect with great people, or... with shitty people|

but you are always the common denominator in either case... so, very much worth to give that a deeper look and thoughts

[norinorinori]

because y'all doesn't show much emotion, when we told u guys to loosen up and be vulnerable, you guys says it's a sign of weakness. Then we got comfortable with guys not showing emotion, so maybe try be more open about your feelings instead of minimising it, tbh i like it when my boyfriend becomes vulnerable with me instead of hiding when he is hurt

[Juxtapose]

Do you ever use his vulnerabilities against him when you are most angry at him?

[norinorinori]

@Juxtapose neverrrr, i would never do that to someone i love. he trusted me and showed his vulnerable side to me so i don't have the right to use it against him

[Juxtapose]

Then good on you! That's the number one reason why men will not share some things with women.

[IslaTheWitch]

I have the same experiences with some men... so I would assume it doesn't depend on the gender :D

It's more a matter of upbringing or excessive self-confidence.

[Anonymous]

Because right now in our culture there is a prevalant female supremacy attitude. There is hate for men, not on a large scale, but enough for it to be noticable and affect laws and attitudes.

[aceleon]

because it makes it easier on the concious (might spell it wrong) to trying to make us be like them.

[exitseven]

Guys are raised to not have feelings and if they do have them they cannot ever show it Its in the guy code, look it up

[Anonymous]

Females who? Female is a term for any species.


The same reason men treat WOMEN like we don’t have feelings.

[Guy__xyz]

I know both genders do it, but I'm baffled by women who get surprised when I say I felt shy or I felt heartbroken or even when I bring up events that scarred me. It's like in their heads men are these numb heartless monsters who prey on women.

[Opinion Owner]

Because for the large majority for us that is the case and until I know that you’re a genuine person who’s intention isn’t to be a dick like the last few men in my life including father and step fathers then it’s hard to feel immediate sympathy. Lowering my guard is what gets me heartbroken and from now one I will protect myself first.

[Finchie40]

I can see your point of view , i knew girls’ that were raised by shitty men in their lives or have a track record of having shitty men in their lives , that they didn’t feel accepted by , so basically their mindset is to assume all men are assholes. I dated my fair share of girls’ that grew up that way and it was a shock to her , when she finally meets a guy that is actually nice to her , she has a hard time trusting it and thinks he is talking out his ass for the most part.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah the distrust pretty much starts with my own father. He tried to kill me and he raped a woman in front of my half brother and half sister. He has a million kids but he’s only in contact with two of them. My experience with men has been shitty since day one 😅

[Finchie40]

Yea , that definitely had to of been very hard for you to go through for sure , I am sorry to hear you went through that. Most parents’ don’t realize how much their actions and choices can affect their children , and traumatize them. Me being a parent myself , made me realize that for sure., especially after the shit my ex and I went through with each other. We don’t really think of the effects we have on our own children. All we can do is choose to make better decisions and chooses for ourselves and for are children. Life is a crazy rollercoaster ride for sure. My experiences with girls’ hasn’t been an easy ride , why I just been focusing on my kids and trying to get them on their own 2 feet to enter the world. Once that happens I am probably going to just focus on myself and try to enjoy the rest of my life , I am not getting any younger, so I am pretty much set in my ways of doing what is best for me. I no longer want misery in my life , the less the better lol

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, I appreciate that. And I’m sorry you had those experiences with your ex as well. Your kids are lucky to have you, I wish you all the best.

[Anonymous]

Girls don't grow up being taught how to treat a man. They only know how a man is supposed to treat them. I don't know about others, but I stopped showing my emotions when I understood no one cares about them.

[Anonymous]

Because of having countless options, you can see a lot of older women are nicer compared to younger.

[hevafa87822]

Because we are not solipsistic and childish like them.

[dudeinohio]

You have to find one who isn't like that.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because women have very little empathy.