Was she playing me, and if yes am I playing her right now?

[Anonymous]

I was always treating this girl right, sometimes she wouldn't even respond. Now i don't really give her attention and now she is instant reading and responding. Even tho i leave her on delivered for hours now, and don't respond on her snaps. She allready knows i want more off her but until now she never had to do anything to earn my attention our affection. So what is she chasing now is it me or just the things i stopped giving?

[sage2021]

There was a question on here the other day about a guy that was pretty bummed out cause the girl he cares about so much just wanted to be friends with him. He came to us for help.
Most people said to just find someone else - which is not easy these days. But I gave him a different answer, similar to what you're asked ng about here.
I told him to back off for a while. Don't be so available. Give her time to miss you and what you and her had together. If someone else should happen to come along then you can decide what to do.
There is this book I read called *Come Closer Go Away". This very thing is what happens. You get close, then she wants you to go away. Then when you do, she wants to be close to you again. Rinse and repeat. This behavior can go on for a while.
One of you, and I'm guessing it's her, doesn't want anyone to get too close to her because she will feel suffocated and want you to back off. Then when toy do, she wants to be close to you again.
One thing that personally used to turn me off about a guy is when he would put me up on a pedestal. Too much of him suffocating me too fast!
This might give you an idea of what is happening between the two of you.

It's funny, the GaG member that asked the question the other day said he would do what I suggested because of my age (68). I have lived long enough to give some good advice. People can take it or leave it, but at least I take the time to lay it out there. Good luck to both of you.
Sage🌹

[Asker]

It was me

[Asker]

And yes its about the same girl

[Dranana]

So there are some girls who do not like it way. Like guys who are there for them 24/7 . So if you all of a sudden change into "I don't give a heck about you"towards her, she would find it very attractive. Hard to get guys arouses them thus making the chase more fulfilling for them. They love guys who are hard to get, a guy whose emotions cannot be seen up his sleeves. It's weird right? But there are some girls like that.

[Asker]

Yeah I've been like that, until 5 years ago i went to therapy, got back in touch with her later she said i really became better. Was a lot more open about emotions and about what i wanted from her now i Just quit it. Trying to get back in my pre therapy state except for the depression part a lot of guys are asking het on dates. I am Just pretending to not give a fuck now since the day she had a date i told her im not gonna be around to watch how other dudes get a shot. When i don't when im literally the kind of guy she is asking for. Took her 3 days of no contact to try snapping me again. I offcourse left her in delivered for a few hours. And then ignored the snaps.

Today so 2 days later i Just included her in the same kind of snap , so useless information. I instantly gotba snap back of her talking about herself only opened it hours later and reacted with out any emotion.

She is happy with me when i act like a boyfriend with out getting the benefits of actually being the boyfriend.

Im Just now show showing her, i won't anymore. Its gonna be all or nothing. She said she was afraid of losing me the day she said she Just sees me as a buddy and that isn't gonna change in to more.

Well she has to change that if shr wants me back in her life on my max effort for now i Just ignore her a lot until i don't want her anymore or she throws herself at me.

[Asker]

Hate these games tho it goes against everything i been told to act like if i want to get a pretty woman

[Asker]

She actually your age, maybe you are her 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Dranana]

Hmm... it's hard

[Dranana]

Hahaha

[Asker]

Yeah it really is, cause iknow she csn Just call or text any guy and bam she will have a New boyfriend and she is into Girls too, so double the competition but she is less popular with them i think

[Asker]

@dranana can you add me back i need to understand the game again

[Guy13]

She is an attention seeker. She don’t care about you. She wants to feel good and that is managed by your attention given.

[Asker]

I took this away, and she is doing a lot too try to get my attention again.
I was her bestie cause of what i gave her but offcourse what i gave her i was expecting something more in return.

Now she gotta fight for even about 2% of that attention. a lot of guys give her attention but i probably did it the most.
If she want that attention back she gotta be mine exclusively first.

If not she gonna keep getting little to eventually no attention from me at all.

I didn't wanna play this game but it seems it Just has to be like that

[Guy13]

Women are foolish snd unfortunately it is like training a dog…. which I also enjoy to some degree. Not giving attention is necessary in this case 🤷🏻‍♂️

[utopiandream_]

You deserved better than play games with a girl

[Asker]

Yeah , i always been good to her. I helped her out on everything. My thanks i get to be the buddy and stay in the friendzone broken hearted.
She liked me before. But she was too scared it only was gonna be sex if we met up. We didn't speak for a few years cause i came back in her life a better person then i was then.
She agreed on me being better then before but now she sees me as only a buddy and says to he unable too see me as more.

I'm now considering going full ghost mode, delete all social media apps and no texting or snapping anyone for 6 months People don't care