She played me….
In April, my girlfriend of 3.5 years told me we needed to take some space apart and play things by ear cause I needed to work on things. She said “I don’t know what our future looks like but I know things can change for the better if you make them happen”. We kept talking and hanging out without the “label” for a few weeks until I checked into a rehab program to get my shit together.
Unbeknownst to me, she immediately starts dating a guy she had met at our college graduation a few months earlier and was always bringing up the idea of hanging out with him. They already went on a trip together after 2-3 months. Meanwhile, I’m in sober living and we’re talking a bit and met up twice and had a great time. The second time I asked her what she thought about us and she got very cagey and distant and acted like she didn’t know what I was talking about.
A month later I texted her saying I respected her decision and why she felt she had to end things. She told me it was ok, but it didn’t discount our friendship and memories. A few weeks later she posts a pic of the new guy and I start to put the pieces together.
When she texted me a few days later for my birthday, I said thanks but we need to stop communicating because I need to move on. She she said she agreed we both needed space, and then I told her I’m not sure I can be friends cause things ended really vaguely and we were together for a long time. She then got upset because she assumed we could just still be friends. Afterward, she started posting a lot more on Snapchat when she discovered I unfollowed her Instagram and was more active on Snap (her best friend posted a racy text she had sent to the new guy on her Snap story). She also started lurking on my LinkedIn to see my two new jobs I got.
Do you think she’s trying to have her cake and eat it too, or did I respond immaturely?
