Is there a reason she will talk to other guys in person, but seems to struggle talking to me if at all?

[Anonymous]

I really like her. I noticed she doesn't talk to me as easily, but will talk normally to other guys.

[Guy13]

She likes you which always lead to some discomfort or butterflies or stomach turning...

[Asker]

Like she certainly doesn't avoid me I was talking 2 other people and she came over asking me a question. She did say goodbye to me tonight so I wouldn't say she is avoiding me. But I've just noticed she talks to other guys more than me. But she'll talk to me if the 2 of us are alone

[Guy13]

I would have already time, place, and what we are doing her. In short one sentence with a smile but a seriousness tone..."you really do not have a choice so c'mon on lets have some fun" Vibe. Now after she thinks about it let her change the place or destination BUT let her bring it up if a change desired... Otherwise lead he like she's craving.

[Asker]

What are you saying? Do you think there is something going on with her

[Asker]

What about the fact that she chose to sit directly behind me. I just feel like she hates me

[Guy13]

YOu have to get over that and demonstrate confidence and RISK. I much rather be told "hell No" and be in Regret than never take action and reflect with regret and self-degradation for not acting.

[curlyfirecracker]

It might be much easier to talk to other guys. She might think more about what she says to you because she likes you. She wants you to like her, too.

[Asker]

Would that include the fact she basically did not talk to me at all last night. I've only ever been nice to her and we've had conversations in the past. So why would she be acting like this towards me, by hardly saying anything to me

[curlyfirecracker]

Are you waiting for her to make a move? Have you told her or insinuated how you feel about her?

[Asker]

No I haven't yet. It's just hard cause she gives me mixed vibes like she talks to me when we're alone. Then I get vibes like she doesn't like me at all. Like she sometimes reads my Facebook messages and doesn't reply

[Asker]

Like all I asked was "how was your holiday?"

[curlyfirecracker]

Ok, my first thought is maybe you are too available to talk to? Just because she doesn't respond doesn't mean she didn't see it. Does she ever bring up the messages while you are alone talking? Does she ever respond? Either way, I wouldn't take that to heart. When I am busy, I could see similar, smile, and just move on. Not saying to play games with her, be there if she does want to talk, but maybe take a day or two to not be right there? I might be misinterpreting this! If you are, maybe take a few days to not be so available. Then she can miss you a bit. I would also say though, above all that I've said, talk to her. Let her know that you like talking to her and spending time with her and you'd like to do that more, if she would, too. No one here knows the full situation and only you can judge what is the best move.

[Asker]

Honestly I haven't actually spoken to her for over 2 weeks. Cause I felt discouraged. Then I tried again and she did respond. Then all I asked was "how her holiday was". She said nothing 😔

[curlyfirecracker]

That is a loaded question. I feel she would say, "fine" or, "good". Try asking something else like, "I'd like to hear how you've been. Want to meet for coffee soon?" Showing you are interested and want to see her without pressure.

[Asker]

Do you think she hates me? I just feel very down tonight

[curlyfirecracker]

Nope. I think you are overthinking it. If you do like her, tell her and the worst is she doesn't reciprocate those feelings. I suggest asking in person and not over text or messages.