I have a close friend whom we sre very close fir many years. I noticed recently she can talk about problems with me and i listen and or help. But when the roles reverse she seem offended. She gets possesive of me and want more of my undivided attention. She never like the women i talk to. If they are actually pretty or what she consoders my type she becomes angry. I don't think she realizes that she even get mad. Then she claims i'm replacing her with these new women. Like what? She claim she doesn't like me like that
When i talk about a woman problem she will listen and shut down or offer generic answers which isn't helping at all. But few days later something happens and she mentions the girl i'm talking to in a sarcastic jealous way. I thought it was a joke at first until a guy she was dating told me she highly spoke about me on a date. Why tf she's talking about me on a date with another guy?
Why isn't my female friend helpful with my women problems like i am with her guy problems?
When i talk about a woman problem she will listen and shut down or offer generic answers which isn't helping at all. But few days later something happens and she mentions the girl i'm talking to in a sarcastic jealous way. I thought it was a joke at first until a guy she was dating told me she highly spoke about me on a date. Why tf she's talking about me on a date with another guy?
Why isn't my female friend helpful with my women problems like i am with her guy problems?
What Girls Said
I'm guessing she is insecure for one reason or another.
she might actually like you but is not ready to admit her feelings to you or herself, and might be scared that confessing said feelings will ruin your relationship.
if she really doesn't like you in that way she is probably scared of losing you as a friend. I have been in such a situation and it is really hard to even admit those feelings and even harder to talk about them.
my advice? talk to her, tell her that whatever happens your friendship is going to last, that either of you getting into a relationship is going to change the dynamic of your friendship but it won't ruin it, and that you will be there for one another.