My friend Erin and I have been talking a lot more frequently than usual. I moved away a year ago, but still keep in touch. The other day, she messaged me randomly saying that she doesn’t understand why I have a hard time getting a girlfriend because she thinks that I’m a nice guy and a great catch. I told her a story about how my last date went awful. I bought a girl flowers and she rejected them. Erin left me on read.
Then a couple days later she sends me a picture of her and another guy that’s not her boyfriend, so I ask her what’s going on and she replies telling me all the things she doesn’t like about the guy in the pic. She also confessed that she broke up with her boyfriend months ago and vents to me about how he mistreated her.
I tell her that I’m sorry to hear about her situation. She said she’s ok and ready to move on. I confess that I had feelings for her and it sucks that we’re so far apart now. She laughs and says d’awww. I tell her that I want to fly out and take her on a date. She says, “I won’t reject your flowers!”
I’m confused. Does she like me back and is being coy about it or does she only like me as a friend and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings or could she be unsure about her own feelings and not want to give me a definite answer or something else I can’t think of? I opened up to her and was clear about my intentions, why can’t I get a clear answer back?
What Girls Said
huh its really hard to say, if she freshly broke up she might not yet be ready to date but more likely i would say she is not that into you and see you more as a friend (sorry, just my opinion, doesn't have to be true). She might consider dating you cause she knows you are a great guy but yet she might not be that attracted so she is conflicted. However doesn't mean you need to give up, try to set a date or whatever and see if shell go, her loss anyways if she doesn't. Sometimes you put an effort and girls come around, sometimes there is no chance so its really on you to asses if there is any chance. Its also important if you know eachother in rl or just online, cause if its only online its hard to know anything before you see eachother in rl.
We know each other in real life. We were co-workers and hung out several times outside of work. I moved because I got a new job.
I am always honest. I don't apply standards of expectations to others, I don't expect of myself. Being elusive is not a good sign and for me if a guy were doing that I definitely would be asking questions as well.