There’s this girl at my job. She’s younger and lives with her boyfriend. Last year she was flirting with me pretty heavily but earlier this year we had a dustup; I raised my voice pointing out that she was going out of her way to get my attention but then being flakey when I communicated with her. Like she told me to message her and when I did she was responding at first but then faded out.
But when I noticed that and left her alone she came back poking and prodding me for attention. So we had a very short heated conversation and she unfriended me (she had friend requested me first). Said she’d only speak to me about work.
Within that same month she was up talking to me about her hobbies in the same “oh I do the same things for fun you do kind of way.” I’ve kept my distance bc I’ve heard no explicit change.
But now she’s acting weird, where before she’d glance at me all the time she now does so only from a distance and less often. Ducks her head walking by me. If I talk to her about work her eyes either get real wide like Bambi in the headlights or she’ll look away and down.
I’d chalk that up to her disliking me but if her cubicle-mate talks to me or my friend does she’ll chime in very hastily, often if they’re talking about my appearance (I’m one of 3-4 guys in office of 30+ women.) She’ll mumble stuff that’s directed at me but like inaudibly soft that I don’t pay much heed to bc it’s usually in passing when I’m in motion.
Probably 80% of the time I’ve known her she’s seemed much bolder chatting with me in a group or at least loudly in earshot of other people but 1-1 she gets all hesitant flakey, disengages…but she won’t totally disengage like I have and avoid me; she still goes out of her way like I said.
I’ve found questions on the internet about girls who only talk to guys 1-1 and not in groups but this is the reverse. Any insight girls & guys?
