Why does no one talk to me unless I talk to them?

Question

This has been happening to me since birth ain't even kidding! I have always been ignored in a group of people and when I contributed to the conversation they just seemed unimpressed anf didn't even reply sometimes. I only have those two friends who do like me. Why had this been happening to me? What am I doing wrong possibly?

BoobSlayer · Accepted Answer

There could be many reasons why people don't initiate conversations with you. It could be due to shyness, lack of interest, or a lack of common ground for discussion. It could also be that people are not aware that you would like to talk to them. Some ways to increase social interaction include initiating conversations, finding common interests, and joining social groups or activities. Remember that everyone is different, and some people may simply be more introverted or prefer different forms of communication.

It's always a good idea to build a good self-esteem and confidence, that can help you to approach people, and make them feel more comfortable to start a conversation with you.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

You're not doing anything wrong. It's your confidence. Many people are intimidated by confidence.

Paulalove98 · Accepted Answer

Maybe they aren’t your group of people? I don’t know you well but you seem like a chill, nice person and I feel the same way although when I was growing up I had two best friends then we just would hangout with a few other kids from class at lunch or recess but I’m sure the right people will come in your life. I even met people from work and I didn’t really have to initiate the conversations since they’re friendly people who started to get to know me.

desidoll · Accepted Answer

So your circle is small which is good for you girl! I have learned my lesson when I was younger. The more people you know, the more troubles are you going to get into. Trust me quality wins quantity. As for them ignoring you, if they are women I think it has something to do with jealousy or intimidation. If they are men, maybe they don’t want to send you the wrong signal or just not good with talking to the opposite gender.

20yearsolder · Answer

I'm sorry to hear that, here's what I can tell you. Feel fortunate that you have two real friends. You don't need any more than that. Those are the people that count in your life. Be yourself, that group of people that doesn't want to pay attention, it's their loss that they don't get to know you and hear your opinions.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I get ignored by my aunts and uncles and cousins and it’s because I’m not rich so I’m viewed as a servant and not a leader by a lot of people in my family. If my mother hits my dad, he laughs but if I even give a light frown, he yells at me for being rebellious and rude. His philosophy is, I’m behaving above my social privileges when I frown because he thinks I’m lower than them since he makes more money then me.

melanieeeB · Answer

Either you're just surrounded by superficial people or like I don't know maybe you come off as a wallflower and like shy-ish? But like even if... like at work for example, even if someone is shy but participates here and there this person will be included... so probably not... weird.. I gues it's really just the people you're around with

But in the end at least you have a few really good friends🙏🏼

Kaneki05 · Answer

Generally I have a rule I don't talk to anyone unless they talk to me because I figure if they aren't that bothered neither am I. And I don't like to start conversations really.
Pretty much grants the only people who will talk to me are people who are actually bothered.

Guy13 · Answer

Because you are pretty. And men are still boys…. bigger packaging. Sorry to tell you but it does not improve much 😏

RavVid · Answer

I tend not talk much unless I have a point but maybe you are a little diffident in speaking. Usually in a group conversation is dominated by a few people who often talk over others. I don't know that your experience is that different to most.

LazerBean · Answer

I'm sorry to hear that, I don't know why that would be. All I can say is hang on to your good friends and maybe you will be able to make more in the future.

Finchie40 · Answer

Cuz you are a pretty girl and they are insecure and jealous of you , you intimidate them , realize that’s their problem not yours , surround yourself with people that want to talk to you

Levin · Answer

Maybe you resonate on a different frequency, mademoiselle. Maybe you don't have much in common with la grande messe

lightbulb27 · Answer

have to see a picture of what you are saying when you aren't saying anything... what are you projecting? otherwise, don't know...

AmeerX · Answer

Actually it's what happened to me too until I went to University. Do you have strong a strong opinion on things? People usually don't mingle with others who are either too good or too notorious

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Something makes you unapproachable. Don’t know what it is but based off what you described you have a visible bad habit that either makes people avoid you or at least not entirely notice you.

Cassie88 · Answer

What Kostas said. That's the only explanation really :)

Berethor · Answer

Maybe you do that a lot so they count on you to talk to them anyway, they take for granted.

weysally · Answer

maybe with the wrong people, I talk and write,

Sparkie460 · Answer

You look very confident and more mature than your actual age. Maybe they think you are more superior than they are so they don't talk to you.

AydenHazor · Answer

I tend to have the same happen where I blend into the background in groups of people. Give it time and you'll find good friends who care about you

es20490446e · Answer

You are doing something wrong. Talking to that kind of people.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

You're so beautiful and awsome they feel they aren't worthy😂😂😂

TallAnon · Answer

I feel like this happens to most people, me included.

xJayleenx · Answer

I think that’s how most people are nowadays. I go through the same thing.

PatriceONeal · Answer

Maybe you are trying to be around the wrong people?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's better like that. Most people are just going to talk useless ish to you anyways.

msc545 · Answer

Maybe you should start the conversation as you have by asking a question here?

CubaPirate · Answer

Because you're obviously too nice to talk to and guys are scared of rejection obviously

supercutebutt · Answer

You tend to associate with autistic individuals (your boyfriend for example). People on the spectrum have difficulty picking up on social cues. So they may not be ignoring you on purpose. They are just content in their own little world. :)

jshm2 · Answer

You probably smell, or look like someone with a vanilla personality

eagle1951 · Answer

well your in a relationship, so someone must

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

I've talked to you. I've reached out.

Biancam13 · Answer

They aren't your people. Trust me.

exitseven · Answer

You hang out with a bunch of self absorbed ninnys.

Saamee · Answer

Are you an aquarius?

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Same here.

Degenerate · Answer

Just dmed you lol

EaterPeter · Answer

Coz you are taken?

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