Ladies, what do you wish men understood about women that we don't understand?

Question

Help us to better understand what it is like to be a woman.

curlyfirecracker · Accepted Answer

Sometimes we are just upset, mad, angry, sad... we just want to vent. DO NOT take that personally that we are attacking you. Sometimes, it is you we want to confide in. A stable, safe place we can go to who will just listen. Just hug her and let her vent. As she ages, hormones balance more, and she experiences more of the world around her; it is more often than not, not a problem anymore.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

Woman are often just as confused with their own behavior as you are. Hormones suck.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I feel, personally, that perhaps one of the greatest divides, differences, between the two sexes is this idea of women being more emotional. The highest number of upvotes I've ever received on a single comment was on this topic. My comment was nothing profound (at all; trust me on that), and it was very brief (especially for me, ha ha.) I wrote it on a person's mytake who has a reputation for being incendiary (which he does on purpose, to incite conflict, and then "study" us. Yeah, whatever, dude. His insights are lame. For those reasons, I am not re-posting it.)

What was nice about the whole thing was that many men did not agree with his thesis (pretending to believe that "women are manipulative liars" - he was trying to enrage us), and instead of it being a dogpile of negativity and trash-talking, there was a fairly decent dose of moderation and self-restraint, and even acknowledging that, in fact, both sexes lie and both have emotions! I know, shocker. I take issue with men who try to claim, only for themselves, the "logical" adjective. Pshaw. I've had plenty of experience with all ages of men now, and I can assure you, men's emotions do rear up; they just might appear in slightly different forms than in females.

Thinking about how to answer your q, this is where my mind went. And the fact that our brains have significantly more cross-lateralization, which results in us thinking and processing our experiences a bit differently. What we think, how we feel, and how we make decisions, takes in more information at a given time. This is both good and bad/detrimental and beneficial; just depends on the circumstances. We think about the social/emotional implications, and how something will affect us, the other person, and everyone else, potentially. Men surely do that too. But women will probably weight the feelings of others more. Our brain functioning is not as compartmentalized. One way to look at that is this is that we often have a more holistic view. Not big picture/zoomed out, necessarily; holistic. When we think, it involves our senses, memories, and emotions/feelings (proven in brain scans), often simultaneously. We're also more verbally-oriented (and verbose.) I think it is these things that create a quite different experience of the world for us. I guess we are more emotional, and certainly society has not forced us into suppressing them as much, but we can also feel beholden to the flurry of information/data points being considered, at times, and that can feel oppressive, not being able to push them aside, or analyze or deconstruct situations with setting them aside. Our senses fire up when a memory is recalled, and that may trigger an amygdala response, while the prefrontal cortex is also working away. So, combined (found in studies of females vs. males in brain scans), we have a likely richer, yet perhaps also overwhelming, experience, often times.

Here's more on that:

Are men just as complicated as women?

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But here's a more specific answer to your q. This is the best answer I have ever read on this site, regarding this q. I did not write it. The author was @inexpensivefurniture. He has since closed this account. And who better to explain the different male-female experience, than a trans person who transitioned and experienced both?

'Do women have it easier?'

"Definitely not. I feel I have a unique perspective on this because I am trans. I lived the first 16 years of my life as a girl, and I've lived the last 6 as a guy. Since I've transitioned, here are some things I noticed:

-I don't get interrupted nearly as often. It went from being a daily occurrence to something that only happens when I'm talking to certain people

-Doctors actually believe me when I say I'm in pain, or that I don't think their last diagnosis was correct, or that I think one of my medications is making me sick. Before, I was constantly dismissed, not believed, told to go home and see if it got better on it's own.

-Men don't crowd me. I was so used to moving away from men standing too close to me at the store, in elevators, etc, it was such a relief when they started actually giving me appropriate space

-When I make a suggestion in a group, guys listen and credit me with the idea. Before my transition I would often be ignored, and then a minute later some dude would say the same thing I'd just said and get credit for "his" idea

-It's been years since I've noticed a man following me on a walk

-I don't get "accidentally" bumped into anymore

-I get credit now for doing the exact some stuff that was expected of me as a girl. Now when I say I like to clean, I can cook, I'm babysitting my neices, etc, I get people who are surprised and delighted to hear a guy enjoys doing these things

-People look me in the eye and shake my hand when they meet me. Before, I would maybe get a glance and a quick hello

-Teachers called on me way more in class, even though I raised my hand the same amount

-I don't get men yelling obscene things at me across the street anymore. Which is a really nice change from walking home at 14/15 years old and being asked if I swallow"

From this q:

Things About Females We Might Not Know?

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

I hate when people automatically assume I am something because of my gender. Such as:

(*Bullshit train*)

Excessively afraid of sa,

Afraid of men,

Afraid of bugs,

Weaker personality,

Weaker physically,

More emotional than men,

ALWAYS WANT SYMPATHY FOR PAIN. (AS IF I HAVE NO DIGNITY! AS IF I WOULDN'T HATE MYSELF FOR CRYING IN PUBLIC! I WOULD!)

Look, just because some idiot says 'women are more emotional, women always want sympathy'... God.

I believe that if you have more sympathy for one gender but not the other, that is no "gender equality."

So, I treat people the way I want to be treated. I ask if they want it before I give advice or sympathy, or even certain compliments. I always ask.

Never assume what someone is, or what they've gone through because of appearances or gender. And I don't want any bullshit about why people should assume things about people and show it, it's just that, bullshit. And rude. Thanks.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Dude... all we want is for our man to look at a room and think to himself, "Wow, the dishes need to be put away," or, "That picture needs to be hung on the wall." And then just do whatever needs doing without me having to ask or tell him.

Any man who thinks, "Just tell me what to do and I'll do it"... Mothers tell children what to do. If I have to mother my husband, I will not be performing wifely duties. The roles of wife and mother are different and if you're electing to behave like a child then that's how I will treat you. 🤷🏼‍♀️

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I sometimes want guys to talk to me because I want emotional sympathy and not because I want them to solve my problems. Some guys do not understand that speech is a normal human need. The other thing is a lot of guys don't understand why I choose not to be emotionally involved with people who disrespect me if they give me money or help me in material ways. One guy slandered me and then hated me for judging him because he gave me rides home from church and he thought he purchased my friendship with his gas money even though he lied about me and was rude to me.

BlueScorpio · Answer

That not all of us want bad men, sometimes a guy will pretend to be a good man only to show his true colors later on down the road. If we where psychic, we avoid such men in a heartbeat.

Wanting a stable partner mentally and financially is not being high maintenance or being goldigger. That's thr bare minimum, every should want level headed, stable partner.

PrincetonGirl97 · Answer

If you send me a picture that I didn't ask for. It doesn't mean it's fair that should I send you a picture. So few men understand this logic. This is one of thousands of things men fail to comprehend.

Bethany22 · Answer

That housework and paid careers should not be viewed as equal. Men think that because they work all day at the office, while their wives stay at home to clean, things are exactly equal when it is not whatsoever.

LaBokaChula · Answer

That paying attention to our silent behaviors is a BIG thing. (at least it is for me)

Darine123 · Answer

You don’t have to pretend like you like or love her when you just want to fuck

Sour-rose · Answer

I do not care about your dick. If anything, you send me a pic and I'm gonna accept it as an invitation. As in to come and cut that shi off for ya and you consent.

sassy_receptor · Answer

to be more empathetic and actually think about how your actions will make someone feel. i feel like men have a very hard time with this.

Anonymous · Answer

Finally it's good too see a guy realizing this. We'll be more understanding, loving, be considered.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

The whole penis size question spam needs to go.

Anonymous · Answer

You dont need to be attracted to a woman to be a decent human being to her.

kikissss · Answer

Stop being selfish for a change! Be consistent when you want us if not live us alone!

18Uma21 · Answer

I'm not optimistic enough to try making anyone understand anything

Anonymous · Answer

We don't owe you anything.

Debbie14217 · Answer

our periods

ZenJen444 · Answer

I dont care what they think.

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