How do I stop being shy?

Anonymous

Ever since I was younger I've always been shy and afraid to do things. The main reasons I am shy is because my fear of being embarrassed or laughed at. It has happened in the past and it crushes my self esteem. I also have a fear of being called ugly since thats all I've been called when i was younger like it was my first name. I was also called beautiful too when i was younger but it was mostly on my Facebook pictures when i wore makeup. I haven't been called ugly since 11th in high school (2015) and just have been called beautiful and pretty.. sometimes gorgeous all the time. Its to the point i dont think im ugly anymore but still afraid for some reason. its getting worse.

I work in an environment where you have to communicate and talk with colleagues and strangers (customers). When I get a rude customer, my heart starts to pump really fast and my feelings get hurt easily. Most of the people I work with are loud and not shy as me so they easily get awards and appreciation. We have to do things that involve getting the customers to sign up for reward cards or credit cards and i haven't gotten one yet. One of my coworkers im close to has 125+ customers he has gotten to sign up for credit cards. I don't know how to talk to customers or how to even hold a conversation. Some of my coworkers are good at it and I feel left out.

There's a couple of guys that like me or will have a crush on me and ask me out to go public places but I always turn them down because im so scared. The guys end up getting hurt and feeling bad because they think i dont like them when im desperate to get to know them. There are some guys who i like who are into girls with personality and are more outgoing.

I do like to go places, party just not alone by myself, someone ik. I gravitate towards the loudest person in the room because being friends with them brings me comfort and it trains me to be just like them. Also these people stand up for me and do things for me im afraid to do myself.

How do I stop being shy?
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