Am I over thinking this?

[Coyote12]

Over a year ago I matched with a girl in a dating app. We've talked and I asked her out 3 times but she basically declined, then she decided she just wanted to be friends. We both became single again and she asked me out to hangout (that's what she called it). We ate, laughed, locked eyes, she even touched my arm a few times and then later we went rollerblading when I was taking a break she kept roller blading and smiled at me really hard. On my way to drop her off he liked my music and complimented my voice and wanted to sing with me so we did. Is she gaining interest in me? She 110% knows I have interest in her. We didn't hug, hold hands, or kissed at the end of "hanging out".

[DaveJord]

Honestly, Dude... I don't know what to tell you. Just do you.

All I know is that I would waste my time with an online chick that had no romantic interest. Women eat that friendship bullshit up, because the get everything they want out of a friendship without romance. So if that's not what you want, then forget thischicken, I mean I'd have that discussion with her one last time and if the answer is anything bit yes let's date... then forget this women. It will only end in one of two ways.

1. Some deep and meaningful friendship, with out romance, up until she or you met some else.

2. You getting totally frustrated and annoyed with yourself... for getting played like a lap dog.. dig... whe she told you from the start she's only interested using you for friendship, at her personal gain.

[cookiesncream1800]

From what I understand, this girl does seem interested in you. I would just hang out casually a few more times to see if her interest grows or if she is just looking for a guy friend. Then ask her on a date one more time or casually try to hold her hand. If she refuses, play if off and just be friends. But if she accepts that's a solid answer for you that she wants to move it to the next step.

[Coyote12]

Are you saying the next time we hang out I should try to hold her hand? How would I go about that? Just grab her hand when it's resting on her leg? Also since she recently became single do you think it's too soon to try something like that? I'm thinking if she has any interest in me then the break up wouldn't matter but I could be wrong.

[DaveJord]

Dude your 28, taking advice from 17 year old. Man up, bro.

[Coyote12]

I don't think age has anything to do with this. I've met younger people who are way more mature than older people. Also I'm curious to hear from a female point of view. Thank you for your opinion though.

[cookiesncream1800]

I would hang out maybe two or three more times just to see if she still seems to want more. Sometimes girls struggle with taking the first steps to start a relationship. As for the handholding I think you will know when the time is right. For example my last boyfriend and I started off as friends we went out to just hang out spontaneously a few times, we were just messing around went in for a high-five and he just grabbed my hand and didn't let go. But if you don't feel comfortable enough jumping into something like holding her hand maybe just ask her out on an actual date (I would still hang out with her a couple of times before jumping into this.) Or even do something as simple as offer to pay for dinner if you two go out casually. It is kind of an unspoken thing that when a guy pays for dinner it is seen as more of a date, and if she accepts she might think so as well. Honestly I think it is about gauging her reaction, and if you are both on the same page it should flow rather naturally. Again I wouldn't jump into any of this right away. It can be hard to tell if a girl just wants a friend or wants more than that. I think if you guys just hang out a few more times you'll be able to see if this is just friendship or flirting. Going out in a group can also be a good thing because a lot of times our friends can see more clearly whats going on because their sight isn't blinded by wants or wishes (if that makes sense).

[Coyote12]

We went to a restaurant and I paid (She did offer to split) and I paid at the roller skating rink. She did say she'll help pay *next time*. She also did overly touch my hand when I gave her a plate (I'm not complaining) and touched my arm twice when I almost fell at the rink. But today she did ask for my snap and sends me selfies with captions. So I guess it is going somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she wants you as a friend. We have a hard time finding guy friends we like.

[DaveJord]

See this women is being honest... she saying thr true... which means this women wants no romance with you.

[In_Trance]

Lame. Shoot your shot