Women's behavior while in a commited relationships?

Question

Do women in general, tend to keep a possible person of interest on the back burner or be on the look out for their next partner during thier current relationship?

Pegases · Accepted Answer

I always find it funny how many women come out of the woodwork to say they don't do that, when so many women do. Which leads me to believe that the women saying they don't do that are either lying to themselves and us, or they aren't attractive in most cases. Very few attractive women in my experience, talk to just one guy at a time, especially today. Feminism has placed women at a perceived advantage when it comes to dating, so they most often exercise hypergamy, but ironically the advantage deosnt produce the ideal outcomes for the majority of them, also due to hypergamy. Hypergamy is ultimately all about security. So in order for a man to level the playing field, he has to be willing to also keep women on the back burner as well. How you do this is by having female friends, that you consult with about your relationship. They will find you more attractive as most women find men in relationships more attractive, and you'll have someone to vent to. Then if things go south, you'll also have a woman that cares about you to ease the transition, and even fill that void. The logic here is women are far less likely to work through the everyday normal ups and downs of a healthy relationship when they have so many back up plans. It's led to women that expect perfect relationships, and almost half of women are single, meanwhile over 80% of women say they'd like to be in a relationship. So the only way to protect yourself, is to play the same game. In the long run a man has better odds of finding a mate in this dating market because men tend to be more realistic with their options, and dont have the same biological clock that women have. As we age, we also become more valuable as opposed to women. So time is on our side, meaning dont take itnpersonally how women today behave, just adapt. Good luck.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So, in my experience one person's understanding of a committed relationship differs by the individual.

So, to me, a committed relationship means that the two of you are in a relationship with the expressed intent of building toward a future together... be it a possible marriage, living together or whatever.

Some people just think being in a committed relationship means that you both agree to be monogamous.

But to answer your question, absolutely men and women back burner each other all the time. I have had women say they want and that we are in a committed relationship... and everything goes amazingly well for the first 4 to 8 months, but eventually some type of conflict arises. There will be adversity or challenges within any relationship. Then they seem to withdraw from the relationship instead of wanting to really put the work into it and figure out the process.

So, to them committed meant just being monogamous, so they would not feel cheap. But when it comes to working together to build a truly committed relationship, they were never truly in a place to want to work with someone else. They wanted to go it alone, and just be in a relationship as long as it convenient and easy for them.

Msputiton · Accepted Answer

The answer to this is no.

Because you can not generalize billions of women in the world to all act the same way.

Each woman will act differently based on their values and how committed they are to the relationship.

The generalization of a sex is why some men go I don't understand women.

A random woman will say something about what they want from a man.

That man will go this one woman said it so all women want this.

Now they meet another woman who doesn't want that in a man.

That man goes women don't know what they want.

No that particular man doesn't understand how humans work.

And yes i am aware there are women who do that too.

sassy_receptor · Accepted Answer

no i’ve never done that. i do have a bit of wandering eye and will think about how attractive other men are while i’m in a relationship. or maybe i’ll develop a little class or work crush on someone i find attractive in those settings, but they’re solely eye candy and i would never cheat on my partner to pursue that eye candy. when i’m in a relationship i’m all about my partner and i love them and only them. i’m just not blind lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Rule of thumb. If a woman cheats on you EVER. Dump her! There is no middle ground with women. A woman who cheats on a guy WILL do it again. It's only a matter of time. A woman is loyal or she is not. It's really just that simple. Women justify thier actions through thier feeling ("I felt this so I did that". Is what she thinks to herself). And women believe what they feel JUSTIFIES anything they do. Both good and bad! This is why bad women will cheat on a guy they're mad at. They can justify it in thier warped little mind. It's also why women stay with abusive guys. Because he says he loves her she stays with him even though he beats her repeatedly. Women's tenuous grasp on reality at best is what can make them very loyal and also the bane of your existence. 🤣🤣🤣

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If they are not committed, that is exactly what they do. They'll "monkey branch" when a better deal comes around or move to that back burner situationship as soon as she's not feeling her current relationshit. Some women do think morally though and they're not all the way like that unless they really don't value you beyond what you're good for at the moment.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes and no. Yes they do but not if you keep challenging them to stay with you. Don't ever relax and just be like no matter what your good. Say hey baby you're slipping with... work, gym, being sweet, sex whatever and it needs to improve to keep me attracted to you, horny for you, proud of you... make it real, have standards. Women eat that shit up and will be too worried about being good enough for you than to look around and be finding someone better than you.

watercolor_lions · Answer

A poll was done saying 50% of women have a back-up relationship, in case things fall out

I got rid of mine, but I still have dreams about him, and becoming friends again. I talk to my husband about it...

Paulalove98 · Answer

I don’t cheat on people ever I’m loyal in my relationships and friendships to the core. There’s no backup person or rebound, nothing like that. I don’t even socialize much to begin with or go out like that.

inhua · Answer

attraction will always override good treatment in the end no matter how politically incorrect this is to say.

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

Most do but most are not the ones you want to be in a relationship with them to begin with!

Anonymous · Answer

Everybody does that, or tries to. Men do the same thing.

jayhams · Answer

Sadly that is fairly common but it is easy to spot

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Women like to keep a back burner or play innocent

Teriyaki70 · Answer

I never have done that

In_Trance · Answer

Not always

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