Girls, Why is she behaving different towards me in conparison to other guys/girls?

[Anonymous]

She seems shy with me and acts more herself towards other guys. I've seen it in person and it's making me feel like she dislikes me

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Comparison I mean

[Msputiton]

That is something you to have to figure out.

There are several reasons.

She has a crush on you.

She finds you not as fun to talk to as the others.

She just tolerates you but doesn't like you.

She could find your behavior creepy.

She could also think you don't like her, so it makes her nervous to speak to you.

But you want it to change or get answer. You both need to discuss it to figure it out

[rienna888]

Does she look at you sometimes and shyly look away? I know I’m extremely shy towards my crush to the point of ignoring them. But I do stare at them occasionally

[Asker]

No we have these small eye contact moments, next minute she says something to me from across the table like " did it just get louder in here". It's an interesting thing it's like I feeling of been drawn to her and I can tell she wants to say something to me too.

But then she also ignores me sometimes but will start small talk with me. She is quieter with me as oppose to other guys/girls who are probably on same level of association as I am with her

[YaYa_P]

She could be more shy around you because she is attracted to you which has made her nervous but it could also be that she may not be as close to you as she is to the others which is why she may not act like she does with when she is with you.
Do you notice any body language that she uses when it's just you two like eye contact or lack of also any types of questions she may ask to get to know you more?

[Asker]

These other people are about sane level of closeness with her as I am.

I noticed that she and I have had some level of just random eye contact especially when the 2 of us are alone. She and I are making eye contact when talking, I noticed she a couple of times when talking to me she didn't maintain eye contact.

I have notices she starts small conversation with me too. Like she came up to me at the bar and asked what I'm drinking. The other thing was she says to me with eye contact from across the table " did it just get louder here". So I could tell she is trying to speak to me

[Midgetmcwidget]

Maybe she likes you

[Asker]

Like she acts quieter towards me for no reason. But then she comes up and starts small talk with me. I'll try and get the conversation going but she seems to struggle. I've seen her talk to others normally but not with me

[Midgetmcwidget]

She soo likes you, I’m the same! Try to keep her talking about absolutely anything she will calm down eventually. When a guy I like looks at me let alone talks I can’t believe my luck and mind goes blank.

[Asker]

What do you do?

[Midgetmcwidget]

Panic, I didn’t use to panic as much but I have doubts he may like me or that he will go to a manager and get me into trouble so I’m stuck thinking he may like me as I like him but can’t do much about it as I got into trouble before

[Asker]

This girl acts quiet towards me. Then she acts all normal with other guys. She even acts like she avoids me at times. But then for some reason she'll start small talk with me by saying things like " what are you drinking" or " did it just get louder in here

[Monalisa77]

Im the same, i panicked over my crush talking to me and i self sabatoge d

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 how do you self Saratoga?

[Asker]

Sabatoge

[Monalisa77]

I thought there was no way he was perfect and ticking all the right boxes, there mustve been one thing that would put me off them. I put two and two together and came out with 5

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 so what about the fact she acts quiet towards me like she dislikes me. But then she keeps iniating small talk with me

[Monalisa77]

Maybe she's trying to figure out if your right for her. I did the same with my crush i went days without speaking to him as was too shy. Couldnt even ask him if he was still uo for walking with me

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 I can see she talks to everyone so easily. But with me she quieter, but she starts conversation with me. She continues to do this too. It's not just a one off

[PinkRose24]

Are u talkative or quiet?

[Asker]

I'm fairly talkative

[PinkRose24]

In general is she normally quiet or talkative?

[Asker]

She seems reasonably chatty yowards other people including guys. But when it comes to me she is quieter. However, she is initating small talk with me. So that is confusing me, I feel when she and I have made eye contact I've felt drawn towards her

[PinkRose24]

How do you react during small talk?

[Asker]

I talk to her. I ask questions to keep the conversation going, but for some reason she struggles to keep the conversation going

[PinkRose24]

Does she keep the conversation going with her male and female friends?

[Asker]

She seems to be able to talk to them easily. These other people are at same level of friendship as I am with her

[Asker]

The stupid part is she will approach me by asking things like " what are you drinking?" Or " did it just get louder in here?"

[PinkRose24]

So she goes out of her way to approach you and talk to you? Maybe she likes you? I don't know.

[Asker]

She didn't have to ask me at the bar "what am I drinking" or say from across the table ' did it just get louder". That time from across the table we had a small eye contact moment and then she starts these small conversation

[ZenJen444]

Bruh you're 25 years old. Grow up

[Youwishyouknewmyname]

She LIKES YOU!