What should I do? Leave it or continue?

[Loveitloveit]

Me and this girl have been chilling, sleeping and holding hands, riding, cuddling etc - for about 4 times now she said she likes me and I said I like her and then she was like everytime I see you I feel bla bbla

But then sometimes she says I don't want to hurt you like what should I do?

[Laura_Marx]

it's a good thing that she doesn't want to hurt you. would you rather she said, "i really want to hurt you, buster"? listen—she is not warning you about any real impending danger. you are not, like Kormak Ogmundsson, in peril of entering a cursed betrothal. that doesn't really happen. she is just expressing a kind of anxiety which everyone must feel: that she is somehow alienated, dislocated from an everyday life she cannot understand, and she starts to tremble before the responsibility of a serious relationship. what does it mean for her? what will you expect from her, what will she have to give you, what will she have to take? don't act frightened when she expresses this kind of self-doubt; instead, confidently reassure her. wouldn't it woo her if, like Kormak, you chose her, curse or no curse, for your bride? if you make her feel like you have her back, and that the pressure is not really so high, then she won't worry about hurting you anymore.

other answerers advise you to leave her to look for another woman who has no issues. look, lol, that isn't going to happen. let me show you a nice quote, which is popular with people i know, by Elana Dykewomon:

"Almost every woman I have ever met has a secret belief that she is just on the edge of madness, that there is some deep, crazy part within her, that she must be on guard constantly against ‘losing control’ — of her temper, of her appetite, of her sexuality, of her feelings, of her ambition, of her secret fantasies, of her mind."

it's a deep feeling, but as a lover it is not so complicated. women are like little cats; if you leave the door open they won't be frightened, and if you give them tuna then they will like you. wouldn't you like to make someone feel very safe? just keep doing what you're doing.

[kylee2437]

So that’s pretty manipulating considered that no matter what she chooses to do at this point she is bound to hurt you. I’d say exit yourself out of this situation so you don’t get hurt since she has no self control when it comes to dealing with things

[Pegases]

She knows she's going through something, which is why she said she deosnt want to hurt you. Keep it moving, or she will hurt you.

[Truth0225]

The girl seems to have a lot of emotional damage. Probably best to leave it alone if you’re even posting this question

[Helllo123]

I think you need to go on other dates you're still young and will have many more lovers. I don't think she's worth pursuing just keep her as something casual because that's clearly what she wants.

[Sasha0426]

Take that as a warning sign. She’s telling you being with her is a bad idea and she’s trying to protect you. It’s best if you two didn’t see each other anymore.

[BeyondBirthday]

I'd leave.
It seems she doesn't know what she wants. Might as well not catch feelings for someone like that.

[Summeroflove]

Depends if you’re happy with her or not