Girls, why would you ask a guy why he gets nervous around you?

[Anonymous]

Assuming its a you dont know, but see regularly but never really talk to. So a familiar face. Why would you ask him why he gets nervous?

[HappyWoman34]

Because, being such an outgoing person myself, with a healthy ego, I’d struggle to understand how anyone could waste so much time in fear of going after what they want.

[Asker]

So you would know that the guy likes you? Since you said “fear of going after what they want”

[HappyWoman34]

Possibly, possibly not. It’s likely that I wouldn’t be one hundred percent sure, if he rejected me several times and turned down a date and a kiss, but was coming on strong in other ways. If he held back too long, I’d probably figure that if he had to be indecisive about it, then he wasn’t that keen and I’d move on in a few months and find someone else who was.

[HappyWoman34]

Then if he returned (they always do); once he knew I didn’t need him but wanted him, I’d figure he was desperate or creepy if he started chasing me after I’d made my mind up.

[HappyWoman34]

Actually I had a real situation like this and to this day, I don’t know whether the man liked me, or was trying to scare me.

[Asker]

Oh. Well for me at least, i would be too nervous to make a move, but i would never ever turn down a date if a girl i liked asked me on one.

As for the kissing, if i dont feel comfortable i would turn it down but i would explain to her that i like her (at that point if she tried to kiss me i know 100% she likes me, so might as well say it back) and want to spend more time together before we do that stuff.

As for the “coming strong” part, i never really did that.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m Kat and the guy I used to like was much like you. But much older.

[HappyWoman34]

I don’t think you’re wrong for needing more time and being shy. I think you should explain to the girl if you’re not ready to kiss her that it’s not her. You like her but you need time to be ready to kiss her. This sounds an awful lot like my situation, last year.. probably isn’t though.

[HappyWoman34]

What exactly happened? If it’s a similar situation to mine, I might be able to help from experience. Want to add me so I can further advise you? This is the same woman as messaged you earlier.

[Asker]

No the kissing situation didn't happen, I’m just giving my opinion on what you wrote about the date and kissing in your second message box up there.

My situation:
I get nervous around a girl i like and she asks my why i get nervous, i didn't tell her why. She then asked me if i feel nervous around girls and if i never talked to girls. Then she asked me if i have a girlfriend, i said no.

The next day our company went to the club. She took me outside and we talked there normally. She grabbed my arm and pulled me towards her and then placed her hand on my tummy. She kept it there for a few seconds and stopped talking and just looked at me. I created some space between her hand and my tummy because i got nervous. She noticed the gap and she placed it again on my tummy. While this happened she was looking at me while i was looking down on the ground

by the way wdym you are Kat? I can add u np.

[HappyWoman34]

Sure. No worries. It’s my name. I think she’s hitting on you

[Asker]

So she is genuinely interested or doing it to mess with mr?

[Asker]

Me*?

[HappyWoman34]

Well, there’s only one way to be sure. Ask her.

[Akam93]

I don't ask i can just tell.

[Asker]

Tell through body language u mean? I’m not sure why this girl asked me if she could tell.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they think the guy is interested in them?