Guys, how can women best strengthen you?

Question

I'm young, 20, and have noticed how society seems to bleed men dry. There seems to be a lot of pressure to perform and much failure, while woman seem to have a lot of saftey nets (stereotypically).

I've been reflecting on these things and am wondering how I, as a young unmarried female, can best strengthen/encourage men around me (to draw out their potential).

I don't really know what this looks like, and though I have some ideas, I understand my perspective will have a heavy female slant-hence why ask the questions. Thankyou for you time and consideration to answer😊

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Be specific when you acknowledge what impresses you. Saying "I like you" is meaningless. Guys like being noticed for what they say or do, not generally how they look. Point out their unique assets and how you believe those assets might impact the results. Don't focus on how they fit societal norms. Prioritize making sure everyone always feels safe, secure and special. Never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize or tell them what they should or shouldn't do. Educate them... say "this works better for me" rather than "why would you do that?" The best way to grow strongly is to have a firm consistent foundation to grow from. Be predictable, yet still maintain a playful spontaneity. Help them see what they learn from each experience rather than label everything that doesn't have the exact results being sought as a failure. Facilitate their exploration and discovery, showing you believe in their ability to address challenges and come up with effective solutions. Never spoon-feed or mother them, which only shows you feel they are too stupid to think for themselves. Show them you believe in them rather than assume they should know that. Though you want to be their cheerleader, going overboard will only make your actions look fake.

HighValue · Accepted Answer

If you are even in an influential position in life, make a petition and get enough signatures to have laws on the ballot to have automatic 50/50 custody of children unless there is actual evidence (not someone's word) to prove abuse of the kid so men get to have equal custody of their kids.

Also, another petition for a law making paternity DNA tests at birth mandatory. (out of the people that tested their kids, a third of them did not biologically belong to the father that was tricked by the woman).

A law for no alimony (women are able bodied adults and should be responsible for themselves as an adult if they are single.

In life when someone is blaming someone or a group for something, try to think logically and see if there is evidence to back up what they are saying, or if they are just blaming someone or a group of people because it is the popular thing to do. Speak up when with a group of friends and they try spreading common lies such as the wage gap that has been disproven.

worldscolide · Answer

For the man you're with, be supportive. For example, if he has a high stress job, when he comes home, let him rest, shut down for a short time.. Respect his hobbies.. Trust me on this, it's a big one. I work in a highly technical field, so my hobbies share some links to it. I do 3d printing. My wife has been very supportive of it. Because of that, I have been able to make things for her. Which is a big deal to me. It's also enabled me to fix things in the home with my hobby. Compliment him.. One thing that women just do not understand, we rarely if ever get compliments. We just do as we are expected. We are never told that we are doing a good job, or if we look or smell nice.. Or really anything. Give a random guy a compliment, and you will see him walk taller and he happier for hours if not days. Another thing we are denied is simple human contact. I'm lucky my wife is a cuddle bug.. But a lot of men never get things like random back rubs or hugs. We are the ones who have to initiate 9 times out of 10. We are denied this because a man touching someone, no matter how benign is seen as predatory. So we just don't do it.

But this is a two way street. If you're not receiving the same in return, it's not good.

MCheetah · Answer

By being supportive, whenever a man needs you, and always caring for him (unless he's abusive or a jerk or something.) Really; that's all men need:  for a woman to care . And so many women nowadays even find that too much of a burden to do.

Guy13 · Answer

Possess the values of a traditional woman including handshake. Gracious, feminine, and etiquette class are desperately needed for Businessmen. It’s hard to finder charity arm and Mom in one individual…that’s grounded. Christian would be the best starting woman

Anonymous · Answer

Kudos to you for recognizing and acknowledging how badly society treats today's men and boys. It's rare that a woman has the honesty to say that "out loud".

The best thing you as a woman can do is speak out against it, and encourage other women to do the same. That would go a long way toward helping men, and changing society, which is what we need more than anything.

Avicenna · Answer

Be encouraging and supportive. If they know you’re there for them, you will have credibility and you will be appreciated.  Excellent question, by the way.

Summeroflove · Answer

I think just being there for the men in your life. I don’t know many times you can feel in your heart wher someone needs/wants. What every man needs or wants is different depending on the guy so.

Asking_for_knowledge · Answer

By being loving and genuinely supportive. when you make him feel like his your everything (not literally)

Iron_Man · Answer

Stand by your side be supportive. Help you out in life help you solve problems go together in person work as a team

barn_stormer · Answer

learn to cook really well

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