I need your opinion please?

[Anonymous]

A girl I have known for a little over a year friend zoned me and we started talking again. She knows I like her a lot and she is starting to have feelings. She recently just asked me if we could cuddle in a non sexual way. I agreed but will this mean she'll like me more because of the oxytocin? She friend zoned me because I'm 9 years older than her and don't worry she IS in legal range.

[TsmGai]

In my opinion, non sexual cuddling is a rip-off. She wants that boyfriend energy without the boyfriend? Women aren't stupid like that. They know what body contact can do to men, especially at that age. She might be testing you to see if you escalate. And if you don't, she might blame you for rejecting her.

Like, come on. How many friends does she do this with? Your gut probably told you she's interested in you sexually, and women are usually indirect and outright dishonest. It's your move homie.

[Effably]

If you also want to cuddle as such there is no issue. However, quite often, when strung along and given just enough attention to keep hoping you're not a serious candidate so much as a failsafe.

If you want to I'd go for it. But I'd make it about what you want, not the other way around.

[Asker]

So don't think much of it and just go with the flow? I'm surprised she just wants to cuddle as a friend.

[Effably]

More or less. Or directly tell her where you stand. That is, you'd love to cuddle her and can respect only going so far, but that does not make it platonic to you, and it shouldn't for her either. Being clear about what you want is often rather attractive.

[KathrynTaylor]

No. It won’t.