As someone like myself, it's always not too good to be getting involved romantically with co-workers, but sometimes we can't help our feelings.
I recently told how I felt about a girl at work, but we couldn't pursue anything because of our work situation and need to keep it on a professional level and also how the way her life she has going on at home with her kids. She never really told me how she felt but instead believed if things were different, she said MAYBE there could have been something between us, then she gives me a romantic hug where she wraps her arms around my neck for a long period of time.
After the night, as embarrassed as I was, I left my job in order to pursue things on my own and didn't want to make things uncomfortable between us at work. I told her I didn't want my feelings to get in the way of her line of work even though she claims it wouldn't. She calls me, tells me she is sad that I left and she wanted to find a new job in the future, and wanted me to come with her. I said no, like I mentioned before to anyone who's reading this, I wanted to do my own thing. And then, two weeks or so later, she leaves the same job that I left without even showing up on her last day without telling anyone including me. Also wanted to mention that she had no plans to leave anytime soon during our call.
Also, I have a friend who worked there, and she was asking how I was doing and what not during that time after I left. Then he kept telling me she didn't seem to be doing well emotionally but always had smile on her face but to the point where you can tell something was off and started acting strange as in she didn't seem like herself when it came to other co-worker interactions.
What is there to think of this? Did my decision to remove myself from the job unintentionally hurt her emotionally to the point that caused her to quit sooner? Should I feel guilty for my actions?
I recently told how I felt about a girl at work, but we couldn't pursue anything because of our work situation and need to keep it on a professional level and also how the way her life she has going on at home with her kids. She never really told me how she felt but instead believed if things were different, she said MAYBE there could have been something between us, then she gives me a romantic hug where she wraps her arms around my neck for a long period of time.
After the night, as embarrassed as I was, I left my job in order to pursue things on my own and didn't want to make things uncomfortable between us at work. I told her I didn't want my feelings to get in the way of her line of work even though she claims it wouldn't. She calls me, tells me she is sad that I left and she wanted to find a new job in the future, and wanted me to come with her. I said no, like I mentioned before to anyone who's reading this, I wanted to do my own thing. And then, two weeks or so later, she leaves the same job that I left without even showing up on her last day without telling anyone including me. Also wanted to mention that she had no plans to leave anytime soon during our call.
Also, I have a friend who worked there, and she was asking how I was doing and what not during that time after I left. Then he kept telling me she didn't seem to be doing well emotionally but always had smile on her face but to the point where you can tell something was off and started acting strange as in she didn't seem like herself when it came to other co-worker interactions.
What is there to think of this? Did my decision to remove myself from the job unintentionally hurt her emotionally to the point that caused her to quit sooner? Should I feel guilty for my actions?
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I woukd not regret your decision as it was made in sound judgment and goo reason. You’re a strong guy to put those feelings on hold. I find that impressive and ultimately she respects you immensely.
This is very romantic and I would stay in touch. And, this seems like it could blossom in the future. I hope the timing works out well for you.
you're a lousy man son
So, the answer is yes, I should feel guilty then?
I would die of guilt if I were you.
Trust me, I'm on the way there. People were telling me it probably had nothing to do with me, but there is just no way. At least a fraction of it has something to do with it.
Probably not, but why not ask her?
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