Did I hurt her?

[Blairbearrrrr0000]

okay so got myself in a sticky situation here. I'm friends with benefits's with this girl, and it was in our agreement no commitment etc. I told her that I liked our mutual friend, and then she got kinda weird about it and went from being supportive to saying its weird and doesn't like it. she said only reason doesn't like is bc that girls her friend so will be awkward. and we were decently close but few days after told her she's been ignoring me, bumped into her at school and she said she's going through bad time. after that, she ignored my messages even when I asked her if she was doing better. am I overthinking, or is it possible I somehow hurt her?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah dang, sounds like you may have hurt her feelings a bit without realizing it. Even though you guys had a friends with benefits thing going, I'm sure she still caught feelings for you on some level.

When you told her you liked her friend, it probably made her feel insecure and replaced. Like why are you into her friend and not her? Even though it's not really about feelings for you guys.

Girls can be sensitive about that shit. And maybe having to see you potentially hit it off with her pal would be too awkward and upsetting for her.

I'd give her some space for now since you tried reaching out. But maybe in a week or so, try talking to her for real. Be like "look I know I did some dumb shit, but I still care about you as a friend. Let me explain and if you still don't wanna fuck, can we at least be cool?"

Put the ball in her court. If she's still acting cold though, might have to accept you kinda fucked it up for now. But good on you for noticing it mighta bugged her - not all dudes would care that much. You'll get through it!

[Tim2nice]

No. She’s jealous and can’t handle your openness. She wants you for herself only.

[Anonymous]

No, she is just jealous and needs to get over it.