I don’t know what to do with whis guy. Should I message him first?

[Anonymous]

If I message I’m kinda making the first moves which I don’t like. I don't know what to do.

He’s never met me. He’s really good friends with a guy used to talk to and went to one date. He started to view my stories without even following me. Then I sent him him a follow request. Since that he’s viewed all of my stories within half hour of me posting them.

is he stalking me for his friend?

would it be desperate if I messaged him? I’m kinda interested in him.

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Anyone?

[serious]

Why should there be ego here?

If you are interested and you like him then you should message him first. You should not bother about the end result, you need to do what you think is correct.

No, you will come off as desperate if you message him first.

[Asker]

But what if he’s spying for his friend? Or just curious because his friend talked about me to him

[FilmGuy93]

girl, you have to put yourself out there and chase after the things you want.

[Asker]

I already got burned with his friend…

[FilmGuy93]

Unfortunately that is how the game goes. Being the pursuer in dating is rough

[Asker]

I don’t want to be the pursuer

[FilmGuy93]

Unfortunately you’re going to have to be, to a certain extent. So many members of the sisterhood have made dating so unpleasant for so many men that we won’t pursue because it isn’t worth the effort.

[Asker]

Why it isn’t worth the effort?

[FilmGuy93]

The western women especially are just so aggressively unpleasant to men as a default setting.

For me, I would also say that the end result of the connection with the woman isn’t strong enough. If I’m going to approach a woman, I want to do it for someone who I think is likely to bring me a sense of peace and contribute to my life emotionally. So few women these days know how to be emotionally wholesome women to be with. So, for me, the decision to approach is asking myself if I want to take a chance that a most likely needlessly hostile person will be able to contribute to my life once she drops the act.

Most of the time, the odds aren’t good enough to put in that kind of work

[Wise4myage]

Feel free to message him first and see how it goes.

[Asker]

What should I write to him?

[Wise4myage]

Say hi and introduce yourself.

[Asker]

Whag if he’s just spying for his friend?

[Wise4myage]

Well you need to find out what’s going on with that.

[Asker]

What do you think is going on with him?

[Wise4myage]

I really don’t know.

[Guy13]

I have seen this post before.

[Asker]

Should I message him? What’s your opinion?

[Guy13]

I don't know anymore.